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Posted by Dinah on October 24, 2004, at 9:23:28
Maybe the Luvox is kicking in.
I might wait till next week since this week is all set and if I change it I'd have to go from Monday to Fri rather than from Tues to Fri as usual.
Oh, and I figured out my latest enthusiasm! I'm not sure what took me so long. I am absolutely obsessed with clearing clutter and organizing my belongings. Clearly I'm trying to create an illusion of order in a world that seems spinning beyond my control.
Posted by stresser on October 24, 2004, at 10:19:20
In reply to I think I'm well enough to go back to twice a week, posted by Dinah on October 24, 2004, at 9:23:28
Come to my house. You're happiness would go on and on and on and on.....-L
Posted by fallsfall on October 24, 2004, at 15:18:01
In reply to I think I'm well enough to go back to twice a week, posted by Dinah on October 24, 2004, at 9:23:28
I'm glad you are feeling a bit better. Don't rush it, though, take the extra sessions this coming week.
I can really relate to organizing things in an attmept to make my out-of-control world seem more in control. I'm not as practical as you are, though. I have a toy called Zome (www.zometool.com) - it is a construction toy, a la Legos, but with rods and spherical connectors. You can make all sorts of geometric shapes with it, but I like to use it freeform. Because of the lengths of the rods and angles in the connectors there are certain mathematical relationships that make it so that some things just "work" (like you can make a parallelagram out of blue rods, or a triangle with one red, one blue, one yellow). So I put it together fairly randomly and derive comfort from knowing that if I keep looking that certain connections will "just fit". Thus, I prove to myself (over and over) that there is order in the world.
It would be of more lasting value if I cleaned my closet, or deleted my old email... Maybe some time in the future...
Posted by Dinah on October 24, 2004, at 20:40:07
In reply to I think I'm well enough to go back to twice a week, posted by Dinah on October 24, 2004, at 9:23:28
Posted by gardenergirl on October 24, 2004, at 21:14:51
In reply to Re: I think I spoke too soon (nm), posted by Dinah on October 24, 2004, at 20:40:07
Posted by fallsfall on October 24, 2004, at 23:15:18
In reply to Re: I think I spoke too soon (nm), posted by Dinah on October 24, 2004, at 20:40:07
Dinah,
What is happening?
Posted by Dinah on October 25, 2004, at 1:49:34
In reply to Re: I think I spoke too soon » Dinah, posted by fallsfall on October 24, 2004, at 23:15:18
Nothing horrendous, I suppose. I'm just caught between the need for extra support and the fact that I just don't have time to get it.
Last night my father was being totally unpleasant and unreasonable, and I sat and talked with him about how much I love him, and how I appreciate how he's always been there for me and for our family. He started talking more reflectively and put his hand on my arm as we talked. Not a big deal for many, but a huge one for my father.
It left me realizing how alone he feels, and how I realize that I'm going to have to make time to go over there more often. Which gives me that deer in the headlights feeling again.
Posted by Dinah on October 25, 2004, at 1:51:04
In reply to (((((((((Dinah))))))))))) (nm), posted by gardenergirl on October 24, 2004, at 21:14:51
I sure wish I could choose my emotional limitations. :(
Posted by fallsfall on October 25, 2004, at 7:52:40
In reply to Re: I think I spoke too soon » fallsfall, posted by Dinah on October 25, 2004, at 1:49:34
He feels alone, and so do you... I'm sorry.
Spending time with him is a gift for both of you (even though it might not be "fun" all the time).
Life is a set of priorities. At any one moment, you have to decide what is important at the time and do that. The rest will sort itself out.
(((((Dinah)))))
In the meantime, allow your therapist to help. If you don't take care of yourself you can't take care of anyone else. I know that it takes time to go to therapy and it costs money, but the costs of not going are probably higher - so don't feel guilty about doing this thing for you.
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