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Posted by Angela2 on August 14, 2004, at 11:50:12
Hi all,
I am feeling very guilty today because I skipped my art class. Bad angela.... And I'm also fighting the urge to quit school. It always comes back to this it seems...
Posted by shrinking violet on August 14, 2004, at 13:08:50
In reply to feeling very guilty, posted by Angela2 on August 14, 2004, at 11:50:12
Hi angela2,I'm sorry you feel this way....why do you feel guilty about skipping a class? Did you have a reason, or do you feel you skipped b/c you gave into thoughts, etc? (I apologize...I'm new and am not "up" on individual circumstances). Either way, you can punish yourself like this, or you can decide that next time, you'll go to class unless you have a valid excuse.
About school: why the urge to quit? Is it a rational one, or out of fear/uncertaintly/frustration, etc?
Take care.
-SV
> Hi all,
>
> I am feeling very guilty today because I skipped my art class. Bad angela.... And I'm also fighting the urge to quit school. It always comes back to this it seems...
Posted by Angela2 on August 14, 2004, at 15:03:27
In reply to Re: feeling very guilty » Angela2, posted by shrinking violet on August 14, 2004, at 13:08:50
>why the urge to quit? Is it a rational one, or out of fear/uncertaintly/frustration, etc?
It's definitely irrational. I'll read something from here or I'll be in therapy and I'll get the urge to quit. My parents think I'm crazy because I have dependent tuition free thing. And it's my last year. I'm also afraid of going crazy if I quit. But I just really want to. I'm 21, I can do anything I want, right? I'll get a job, it will probably suck. But it's my decision. I almost wonder what is posessing me to do this. I know why though, I pretty much just don't like school. So do I feel like this is a crazy idea because my parents are telling me it is, or because I know the consequences of it, or because I know it's a foolish decision? Even if this is true, would it be that horrible if I left school for now? Maybe I could go back. I know our society really rewards people who have higher education and thats why I feel guilty about this. So it's making me second guess and question my wish. Sorry if this is jumbled, but I am seriously having strong feelings about leaving school right now and I think I want to go through with them. And I feel awful about it because I think my family will shun me. And there's really nithing wrong with me right now, but I just think I want some time off. And my parents are totally not going to go for it because I'll never get this free ride again. Well, I don't know if I'm crazy for choosing the path I want to choose, maybe someone here can tell me. I'm not sure what my therapist would say except that "it's gonna be harder because you'll have to get a job, pay rent, and lose your insurance."
Well, whatever I decide it's gonna have to be in a couple of days because I don't think I should do it in this impulsive state of mind.
Angela
Posted by TexasChic on August 16, 2004, at 15:09:34
In reply to Re: feeling very guilty, posted by Angela2 on August 14, 2004, at 15:03:27
Hi Angela. I know you've been feeling this way for a while. How many classes do you have left? Is it a heavy load? I don't think you should feel guilty for how you feel. If you're sick of school, you're sick of school.
Does it seem like a lack of motivation? You remind me alot of myself. I have a really hard time getting motivated, even when its something I want to do. I think its part of the depression. Maybe you're on a med that is making you feel this way. I take Prozac for depression along with Wellbutrin. The Wellbutrin helps some with the motivation.
Don't be so hard on yourself – do what you have to do for *you*.
Posted by Angela2 on August 25, 2004, at 11:27:49
In reply to Re: feeling very guilty, posted by TexasChic on August 16, 2004, at 15:09:34
When people post here they are looking for advice, support, or just want to share something. When I look over my post it seems so trivial compared to others. Maybe it's because I have no life, unlike these people. So my problems sound repetitive and internal... or like, I have nothing else to do. "Maybe she's bored" you may think. Well you are probably right.
I just wanted to post a follow up to how I was feeling.
Later.
Posted by Angela2 on August 25, 2004, at 11:28:46
In reply to follow up, posted by Angela2 on August 25, 2004, at 11:27:49
It is summer after all...
Posted by partlycloudy on August 25, 2004, at 12:25:08
In reply to Re: follow up, posted by Angela2 on August 25, 2004, at 11:28:46
NOT TRIVIAL!!! I think it's a reflection of the depression you're feeling. I feel like a complete nobody without a life when I'm in the deep mire of it. I start doing that negative self talk about not having friends, not being ambitious at work, even not having problems "serious" enough.
I'm starting to realize that you don't need to quantify why you're here. My mental illnesses are mild compared to others; yet as my vacation last week showed me, I'm far from feeling the least bit normal. We don't need to compare our suffering with anyone else for it to be real. Hurting is hurting, our anguish is real; our anxieties rule our lives. The severity is truly subjective. Some people have been in life situations that I'm certain I couldn't deal with and survive.
We still belong here, as long as we feel we are getting the support and understanding we're looking for.
What about the student board? Anything going on over there you might relate to?
Take care and be very good to yourself.
(((Angela2)))
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