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Posted by Elle2021 on July 9, 2004, at 23:46:13
I'm so relieved. All this time I've been dying to tell my therapist about the traumatic events that happened to me in the past. Today, I did! I can't believe I actually did it.
Elle
Posted by 64bowtie on July 10, 2004, at 4:20:23
In reply to We Talked About IT!, posted by Elle2021 on July 9, 2004, at 23:46:13
Elle,
Three cheers...! Get that monkey off your back...! It's a great relief...!
Rod
Posted by gardenergirl on July 10, 2004, at 8:20:59
In reply to We Talked About IT!, posted by Elle2021 on July 9, 2004, at 23:46:13
Elle,
That's great! You sound so pleased about it, so I'm guessing that although it may have been hard, it went well? Good for you.Yea Elle!
gg
Posted by Dinah on July 10, 2004, at 9:50:39
In reply to We Talked About IT!, posted by Elle2021 on July 9, 2004, at 23:46:13
What courage that must have taken.
Posted by Elle2021 on July 10, 2004, at 12:46:13
In reply to That's great! » Elle2021, posted by Dinah on July 10, 2004, at 9:50:39
Thanks guys! It was kinda terrifying at first. I was really nervous, and I had no idea what to say. Once we got the legalities out of the way (i.e. what goes into my file and who else gets to know what I tell her) everything went more smoothly than I expected. She didn't act shocked, which I appreciated. I can't stand it when I tell my doctors things and they about fall out of their chairs.
Elle
Posted by karen_kay on July 10, 2004, at 14:47:35
In reply to Re: GG, Rod, and Dinah, posted by Elle2021 on July 10, 2004, at 12:46:13
not only am i sooooooooo happy you are back (and it's about time i might add :) ) but, i'm so very happy you felt comfortable enough to talk about things with your therapist (it's still begonia (sp?) right???? am i not up to date??? am i out of the loop? :(.... good for you!!!!! i'm so very happy you were able to open up and i'm so very happy she was able to accept your openness the way a therapist should (ie, not falling out of the chair.. btw, did you say that HAS happened to you? how rude!!!! and how very great of you to be able to face that risk again!!!! wonderful, wonderful WONDERFUL!!!!!!!!!
((((miss elle)))) you are magnificant!!!! (did i spell it right? blasted topamax! ok, i guess i can't blame topamax, but!! it makes my spelling even worse, i promise!!! :)
Posted by B2chica on July 10, 2004, at 14:53:42
In reply to We Talked About IT!, posted by Elle2021 on July 9, 2004, at 23:46:13
Posted by antigua on July 10, 2004, at 15:05:33
In reply to miss elle!!!, posted by karen_kay on July 10, 2004, at 14:47:35
Posted by 64bowtie on July 11, 2004, at 2:24:38
In reply to Re: GG, Rod, and Dinah, posted by Elle2021 on July 10, 2004, at 12:46:13
Elle,
Makes me feel like I have a big carbunkle growing in the middle of my life when people react like that... Makes me feel one-down or less-than when they about fall over if I tell them my secrets...
Actually, these days, I have no secrets, and I have "a life!" ... I know this is happiness, finally!
Rod
Posted by Elle2021 on July 12, 2004, at 3:50:39
In reply to miss elle!!!, posted by karen_kay on July 10, 2004, at 14:47:35
Yes, I'm still seeing Begonia. :) She's wonderful. One time I said something to my pdoc and he appeared to be quite put off by what I had said. Kinda made me never want to share my feelings again. Anyway, my pdoc probably didn't mean anything by it, I love him anyway...dear old Burt! :)
Elle
Posted by Elle2021 on July 12, 2004, at 3:53:06
In reply to Re: GG, » Rod, and Dinah » Elle2021, posted by 64bowtie on July 11, 2004, at 2:24:38
> Makes me feel like I have a big carbunkle growing in the middle of my life when people react like that... Makes me feel one-down or less-than when they about fall over if I tell them my secrets...
Tell me about it! I always try to control my facial gestures when people are confiding in me. I know how it feels to share some deep, dark secret. A look of shock is not comforting! :)
Elle
Posted by gardenergirl on July 12, 2004, at 9:07:37
In reply to Re: Rod » 64bowtie, posted by Elle2021 on July 12, 2004, at 3:53:06
I know my face is usually an open book. I'm sure, in fact, I know that I have had that shocked look on my face when clients have told me something. I think it's usually accompanied by an empathic statement, or at least a statement that I haven't had a similar experience so that is why I am reacting that way...
Would that soften it a bit? Or do I need to work on my poker face? Although part of my style is to provide real, honest reactions to my clients, so hmmmmm. Something to think about.
Thanks for your thoughts.
gg
Posted by 64bowtie on July 12, 2004, at 16:14:14
In reply to facial expressions » Elle2021, posted by gardenergirl on July 12, 2004, at 9:07:37
>
> ...... Although part of my style is to provide real, honest reactions to my clients, .......
>Please seek genuineness; you are genuine. Many have given up being therapists. Many of those talk about being tired of putting on their therapist face or hat. Duh! I would get tired If I was always busy being something I'm not! Wouldn't anyone?
Rod
Posted by Elle2021 on July 13, 2004, at 2:29:51
In reply to facial expressions » Elle2021, posted by gardenergirl on July 12, 2004, at 9:07:37
>I think it's usually accompanied by an empathic statement, or at least a statement that I haven't had a similar experience so that is why I am reacting that way...
Would that soften it a bit?I think therapists should be genuine to who they are. I just mean that when I'm telling my therapist something and she gets this horrified look on her face (or even the slightest hint that it may be shocking to her) I stop talking. I don't want to horrify anyone.
Or do I need to work on my poker face? Although part of my style is to provide real, honest reactions to my clients, so hmmmmm.
I do like getting honest reactions from her, I'm just apprehensive about some of the things I am going to have to tell her. It's just one of my many fears that I have to get over. From what I have read in your posts, you are a wonderful, caring therapist. I wouldn't change a thing.
(((GG)))
Elle
Posted by gardenergirl on July 13, 2004, at 10:45:44
In reply to Re: facial expressions » gardenergirl, posted by Elle2021 on July 13, 2004, at 2:29:51
Elle,
You are so sweet! Thanks for your feedback.I would imagine that seeing a horrified expression on someone's face when you are telling them something might reinforce that it was actually horrible. I know that an empathic statement about how bad something must have been for me is often enough to open the floodgates for me. Of course I'm a crier, so that isn't too hard. :)
Take care,
gg
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