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Posted by karen_kay on June 15, 2004, at 20:20:15
or so i hope, is tomorrow with bubba, one on one. i'm baking chocolate mint brownie cupcakes for the occassion. wish me luck :)
ps i'll update tomorrow. i don't even have an agenda perpared yet :( miss honey, where are you when i need you??? (oh, and i wanted this last session to tell him how much he has helped me and to ask him where my trouble areas are.. though i already know them... QUIT LOOKING FOR SOMEONE TO TAKE CARE OF ME. say it with me now...)
Posted by Speaker on June 15, 2004, at 20:30:38
In reply to my last session, posted by karen_kay on June 15, 2004, at 20:20:15
kk,
Hope all goes well for you...I will look forward to your update. See you in open soon I hope.
Marie
Posted by ghost on June 15, 2004, at 21:50:31
In reply to my last session, posted by karen_kay on June 15, 2004, at 20:20:15
oh gods. chocolate mint brownie cupcakes. will you marry me?
Posted by karen_kay on June 15, 2004, at 21:58:07
In reply to off topic » karen_kay, posted by ghost on June 15, 2004, at 21:50:31
and i think you are the first person to ask me to marry you! (and you must know, i don't get married often, especially on babble) but, i must see a ring first, ok?
Posted by pegasus on June 15, 2004, at 22:20:26
In reply to my last session, posted by karen_kay on June 15, 2004, at 20:20:15
Karen,
You don't have to stop looking for someone to take care of you! If I understand your story correctly, you haven't gotten your fair share of being taken care of yet. We'll take care of you to the best of our e-bilities. But I say with all of your talents and beautiful qualities, you'll find someone who can do the full job someday.
And, in the meantime, take good care of yourself. Will Bubba let you come back for a tune up if you need it?
pegasus
Posted by Dinah on June 15, 2004, at 22:34:23
In reply to my last session, posted by karen_kay on June 15, 2004, at 20:20:15
Karen, I think you sound so much stronger than you did when you first came here. How are you feeling abotu this being your last session?
It's funny. I would have said that you tend to try to take care of other people, not that you look for someone to take care of you. But I'm not sure that's altogether unhealthy. I look to my husband to take care of me sometimes, he looks to me to take care of him sometimes, and we mutually support each other at the best of times.
Posted by bell_75 on June 16, 2004, at 1:15:30
In reply to Re: my last session » karen_kay, posted by Dinah on June 15, 2004, at 22:34:23
*hugs*
Bubba better enjoy those cupcakes :P While the rest of us salivate at the thought mmmm.
I'm with Peagus, we'll help take care of you as best we can. We'll be your cheer squad cause we know you can do this.
You've been awesome to everyone on this board with your beautiful personality and help (and you're damn funny). Let us know if we can help you out with anything.
Looking forward to hearing how you went.You go girlfriend!! lol
Posted by fallsfall on June 16, 2004, at 7:12:19
In reply to off topic » karen_kay, posted by ghost on June 15, 2004, at 21:50:31
How did I miss the part about the chocolate mint brownie cupcakes?????
I want the recipe. (quickly if you can - I'm supposed to make "anniversary food" for tomorrow and that sounds like the perfect recipe)
I'm so proud of you, Karen. You have worked so hard and come so far. Let other people help you - otherwise you will deprive all the rest of us of the honor of nurturing you.
Love,
Falls.
Posted by karen_kay on June 16, 2004, at 9:57:20
In reply to Re: off topic -KK, posted by fallsfall on June 16, 2004, at 7:12:19
2 and 1/2 squares (2 1/2 oz)unsweetened chocolate (now, don't eat this as you are cooking, it's NICHT GUTE!)
1/2 cup butter or margarien
1 scant cup sugar
2 eggs beaten
1/2 tsp EACH vanilla and mint extract
1/2 cup PLUS 2 Tbsp. all-purpose flour
1/2 tsp. baking powder
powdered sugar for garnish
strawberries (sliced) for garnish*melt chocolate and butter in medium saucepan. Stir in sugar
*add eggs adn vanilla and mint extract
*combine flour and baking powder. add to butter mixture
*line a muffin pan with 12 cup cake liners. fill each with 2 tablespoons batter
*bake at 350 degrees F for 13 to 15 minutes until a toothpick barely comes out clean
*remove to cool on rack. dust with powdered sugar when cool.
*** the cups will sink slightly in the middle
*garnish with sliced strawberries
there you go falls!! have fun (and they are very easy to make)
love you doll, kk
Posted by karen_kay on June 16, 2004, at 10:07:55
In reply to my last session, posted by karen_kay on June 15, 2004, at 20:20:15
i know you are all DYING to know...
it was great! he ate 2 cupcakes and i left the other one with him for dessert at lunch. i even brought him juice!
now, the lesser of importance.... he said he feels like this is a natural progression for me. he feels i'm handling things very well at this point (like with my father, ect.). the nightmares have stopped (knock on wood!) and i'm not anxious anymore. the meds help keep me from getting depressed. he said i'm doing very well with being more assertive, and that it showed in the past few groups sessions (he noticed i spoke up without being called upon). he said that i have a lot of great comments and things to say and that i should say them. i told him about a recent fight with my old man and how i felt bad that he felt bad and bubba said i can't take on others' feelings (and that he should have felt bad, especially since i didn't yell or act inappropriate, i simply told him he hurt my feelings). he said that me getting drunk and naked shows i am comfotable with my body (but to watch when and where i do it, since i can't always have someone to look out for me, like my sister). i mentioned i've been drinking more and he said as long as i don't feel i need to drink to accomplish something or escape that he didn't see a problem with it. i told him how much he's helped me and he said i've helped him too. we talked about food service (and the fact i don't send food back) and he's the same way, so that doesn't really have much to do with me avoiding confrontation (though he did say if you pay for something you should get what you pay for. apparently he's working on that too :)
it was great. he did say that if i ever need to return, jsut to call him and he'll fit me in, whether it's a 'permanent' thing or just a session for a concern. he even said 'in case this is the last time i see you...' so, he's leaving the door wide open for me.
i felt great! i still feel great. it was a wonderful session and we're both comfortable with me leaving therapy. we've both learned a lot and have grown as people...
Posted by karen_kay on June 16, 2004, at 10:10:07
In reply to Re: my last session, posted by pegasus on June 15, 2004, at 22:20:26
thank you! i'm kind of stuck between accepting it's ok for me to feel i need someone to take care of me and trying to take care of myself....
thank you so much for making me feel better about that. wouldn't it be nice if we all had someone to take care of us completely? again, thank you dear. you sure are something :)
(((pegasus))))
Posted by karen_kay on June 16, 2004, at 10:14:23
In reply to Re: my last session » karen_kay, posted by Dinah on June 15, 2004, at 22:34:23
bubba thinks that my need to be taken care of causes me to want to take care of others in return. so, now i think maybe it's not altogether a bad thing. if it makes me more empathetic (and usually doesn't cause serious harm to me emotionally) then why fight it? i like to think everyone wants to take care of everyone else, and everyone also wants (though doesn't admit it) someone to take care of them too. i think if everyone started trying to take care of everyone else (or at least showed a bit more compassion and caring) the world would be a much better place. not that i don't think people aren't doing enough, but if we could all do just a teeny bit more :)
thank you dear, you're always insightful and inspiring. you're very special miss dinah.
Posted by karen_kay on June 16, 2004, at 10:17:38
In reply to Re: my last session, posted by bell_75 on June 16, 2004, at 1:15:30
you're too sweet dear. thank you for being so sweet. funny, but i wasn't even nervous about this. and i'll miss bubba, but i think i'm looking forward to moving on and actually implementing those changes i've made in my life even more by quitting therapy and learning to cope on my own (though it does feel like i've done that since group). thanks for your kind words and support doll!!! and let me know if you need anything, ok?
Posted by karen_kay on June 16, 2004, at 10:19:43
In reply to Re: my last session, posted by Speaker on June 15, 2004, at 20:30:38
thank you for the 'well wishes'. i'm sending some your way too dear. i hope you're doing very well right now. perhaps we can run a marathon together one day (of course, i'd have to ride in a golf cart. i despise running!! and sweating!! and any type of physical activity!)
i'll see you soon in open dear. take care!
Posted by karen_kay on June 16, 2004, at 10:28:24
In reply to Re: off topic -KK, posted by fallsfall on June 16, 2004, at 7:12:19
thank you for for being so lovable. i wish i could brush your hair for you dear. and thanks for reassuring me it's not all bad to want people to take care of me.
i swear, you people are the greatest :)
oh, and i posted the recipe. quick, before it's redirected to babble cooking board....
and HAPPY ANNIVERSARY, whether it's you or whoever. you should celebrate yourself and call it 'falls' anniversary' because you're so special dear!
love, kk
Posted by DaisyM on June 16, 2004, at 10:50:56
In reply to falls is sweet!! » fallsfall, posted by karen_kay on June 16, 2004, at 10:28:24
Karen,
I'm really proud of you. You've come so far and you were pretty great to begin with. I think you have had an enormous amount of challenges both in and out of therapy and you've handle them with grace and humor. Can I be you when I grow up?
I can't imagine being done and letting go of my Therapist. But you've shown me that it can be a celebration so I'm going to hang on to that.
Do something nice for yourself (buy shoes!:))I hope I catch you in open tonight.
Really tight, big hug from me.
Daisy
Posted by Poet on June 16, 2004, at 13:20:39
In reply to the update folks.., posted by karen_kay on June 16, 2004, at 10:07:55
I can't imagine a last session, but if it (ever) comes, I hope it's as great as yours was.
I'm so glad it went well.
Poet
Posted by pinkeye on June 16, 2004, at 13:39:31
In reply to Re: the update folks.., posted by Poet on June 16, 2004, at 13:20:39
Great Karen. I am happy for you. Are you over your infatuation with your therapist? I have terminated my therapy long back too, but still every now and then struggle with the powerful feelings I have for my therapist.
Pinkeye.
Posted by fallsfall on June 16, 2004, at 14:01:55
In reply to the recipe... » fallsfall, posted by karen_kay on June 16, 2004, at 9:57:20
Yum. Looks easy. And doesn't make 1024 cupcakes.
Thanks, KK. I'll let you know if I get up the energy to do it. (I'll be careful with the chocolate - that is the kind that sent my puppies to the hospital a couple of months ago)
Posted by pegasus on June 16, 2004, at 15:59:06
In reply to the update folks.., posted by karen_kay on June 16, 2004, at 10:07:55
Karen,
You are a better person than I. When I terminated with my old T, I was a mess. And I told him I didn't want him to leave and cried and asked for special favors and everything. And now I send him email annoyingly often and still can't let go. Bleh. You sound so healthy. I'm so proud of you. I'm going to aspire to this type of termination with my new therapist (but not for a long time).
pegasus
Posted by ghost on June 16, 2004, at 19:36:17
In reply to of course i will... » ghost, posted by karen_kay on June 15, 2004, at 21:58:07
i'll go shopping this weekend!!
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