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Posted by aymm on June 12, 2004, at 17:26:54
Anyone out there with an attachment disorder?
Posted by daisym on June 12, 2004, at 20:03:56
In reply to Attachment, posted by aymm on June 12, 2004, at 17:26:54
I need more information. I often joke with my therapist that we are working on "therapist-permanence" because I don't believe he is still "there" when he isn't with me. I have a hard time trusting, etc. when it comes to my inner life and emotions.
What kind of attachment are you thinking of?
Posted by rockymtnhi on June 12, 2004, at 22:34:39
In reply to Attachment, posted by aymm on June 12, 2004, at 17:26:54
I don't have it but I recently adopted a nine year old boy who does. People with attachment disorders have difficulty trusting their caretakers, do not have boundaries (will hug or even go with a stranger) and feel a need to separate themselves, among other things.
I'm an optimist about this disorder even though there are those who are not. I think it takes a lot of talking and having someone who cares and will see this person through whatever difficulty they may have. This can be difficult because people who have attachment disorder resist anything that causes them to get close to someone. This is a result of deep hurt.
So that's my amateur opinion.
Posted by aymm on June 14, 2004, at 17:26:54
In reply to Re: Attachment, posted by daisym on June 12, 2004, at 20:03:56
Very similar to what you described. I wasn't adopted, as many with such issues are, but instead had a mother that was emotionally unavailable. In working with a wonderful therapist, I have come to realize a thread of female relationships that were little more than a lifelong search for a maternal figure.
As for the "therapist permanance" thing, I completely understand. It took 8 months for me to get to the point I could keep her with me from session to session without some type of contact in between. My trust in her has become more solid but is still fragile and easily threatened.
Posted by rockymtnhi on June 14, 2004, at 19:15:57
In reply to Re: Attachment, posted by aymm on June 14, 2004, at 17:26:54
I am so pleased that are taking the steps necessary to develop trust.
I am sorry that your mother was emotionally unavailable to you. That is so painful and made it necessary for you to distance yourself from others to survive.
I hope that you are now able to receive the support and nurturing that you deserve.
Take care.
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