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Posted by Asya on February 22, 2004, at 22:39:00
So, here's my issue. My stepmom is really very beautiful and this is one of my HUGE insecurities. I want to show my T a picture of her and me to make her SEE this, and also show her pics of my best friend, who I is also model thin and evokes insecure feelings. I also want to show her a pic of my room (I have some infantilist tendencies) is it appropriate for me to show her pictures? Will she be ok in seeing them? Do I ask first? What about my journal? I keep a daily journal where I list my worries, I think it might help my therapy for her to see this...I am just so unsure of stuff like this as I have only been in therapy for about 4 mos. Advice anybody?
Posted by Dinah on February 22, 2004, at 22:53:11
In reply to What to show my Therapist, posted by Asya on February 22, 2004, at 22:39:00
I made a photo album of the slides of me as a young girl. To get in touch with my inner child. And my family. And I shared it with my therapist. I've shared lots of writing with him. He thanked me for sharing. I think he might have asked me why I was choosing now to share.
Posted by DaisyM on February 22, 2004, at 23:01:44
In reply to What to show my Therapist, posted by Asya on February 22, 2004, at 22:39:00
My Therapist told me he would love to see my portfolio, if I wanted to share it. And when we were talking about me as a young girl, he mentioned that he would like to see a picture, if I wanted to share it.
So, I think it is up to you. Just be prepared to talk about why you wanted to share. And be prepared for your Therapist to not agree or disagree with what you think. Because it is what YOU think that matters.
Posted by Pfinstegg on February 23, 2004, at 0:28:02
In reply to What to show my Therapist, posted by Asya on February 22, 2004, at 22:39:00
A few months ago, I brought my T. a photo of myself as a six-year-old in pigtails. i don't really know why I did that, but there was evidently a deep need in me to do it. He welcomed the photo. saying that he was glad I had brought *her* in. He has had it with him ever since, and, at times, lays the photo out, near both of us. Once he said, "I am glad to have her here. I hope I can get to know her more and more". In fact, that's just what has happened!
Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 23, 2004, at 6:27:01
In reply to Re: What to show my Therapist » Asya, posted by Pfinstegg on February 23, 2004, at 0:28:02
i have showed pics to my t before .. i dont see nothing wrong with and i also share poems i write... it may help therpy
Posted by obSession on February 23, 2004, at 8:12:37
In reply to Re: What to show my Therapist, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on February 23, 2004, at 6:27:01
i think it is cool to show u therapist stuff...i want to show some things but try to "put in the context of the session" otherwise i feel very stupid
Posted by Karen_kay on February 23, 2004, at 9:12:53
In reply to What to show my Therapist, posted by Asya on February 22, 2004, at 22:39:00
I've shown my therapist several pictures of myself with my friends, my doggie, my boyfriend. It sometimes helps him to keep the "characters" straight, I think. I keep harping on how beautiful my sister is and he asked, "Do you have a picture?" I seemed to be offended by that saying, "Why do you want to see a picture of my sister?" I was thinking it was for personal reasons, as his comment came after I was talking about how beautiful she is. He said, "Well, you show me pictures often and it would be nice to put a face to the name." I still think he just wants to see a picture of her to compare her to me, but AHA!! An Oprah moment!! I constantly compare myself to my sisters. Hello! We are all beautiful girls. I don't know how my dad did it, but all of us 7 girls are very lovely. Good breed maybe???
Anyway, I bring pics because they are in my journal, or I jsut want him to see someone... If you want to bring pics in, feel free. A lot of us do it.
And I always have my journal with me. I've gone through about 5 of them since seeing him. He once said he'd love to snatch my journal out of my hand and read it, but of course he wouldn't. I was honored!
Posted by antigua on February 23, 2004, at 9:55:52
In reply to Re: What to show my Therapist » Asya, posted by Karen_kay on February 23, 2004, at 9:12:53
I only have a few pictures of me as a young girl, but there are two of them that sum me up totally: In the first one, I am about 3 years old, laying in the playpen, asleep on the hard wooden floor, with wild hair and no blanket or toys. In the second one, I'm in my Easter best, sitting on the coach w/a brand new dress and short haircut and little white socks and shiny black Mary Janes.I'm smiling. It's hard to imagine that I'm both those people, but that's me in a nutshell.
Take your pix. Your T will love seeing them.
antigua
Posted by tinydancer on February 23, 2004, at 11:38:58
In reply to What to show my Therapist, posted by Asya on February 22, 2004, at 22:39:00
I think pictures are very important. I have shown my T pictures of myself, my family, and other people I talk about because I want him to have a mental picture of who they are. I think this would be a helpful tool for your T if you can gain the courage to do it.
Posted by shortelise on February 23, 2004, at 13:13:10
In reply to Re: What to show my Therapist, posted by tinydancer on February 23, 2004, at 11:38:58
Do take your photos, and drawings, anything ... it feels to me that I am expanding the room when I do that, and I think it's "good".
ShortE
Posted by All Done on February 23, 2004, at 13:31:21
In reply to What to show my Therapist, posted by Asya on February 22, 2004, at 22:39:00
I've brought pictures of my husband and son to show my therapist. When I told him I brought them in, he said, "finally." Kind of an odd comment, so, of course, we had to discuss that a bit. It sounded to me like he was waiting for them, but he had never told me he wanted to see them. Anyway, he just said he likes to put faces with names. I haven't thought about it for a while, but I talk about my mom so much, maybe I should bring in a picture of her, too.
I journal some and sometimes I bring it with me. When I decide to share what I've written, he's all for it, but he always makes me read it to him instead of him reading it. Except for the first time. I had written a really long entry and with a lot of background for him. He asked if he could copy it. He must have read it later because sometimes he mentions some of it.
I think it's all good stuff to share if you feel you want to.
Posted by thewriteone on February 23, 2004, at 15:11:20
In reply to What to show my Therapist, posted by Asya on February 22, 2004, at 22:39:00
I think it's perfectly fine to show your T whatever you want. I took pictures in to show mine and I used to take my journal in for her to read and then we'd talk about the things I wrote. It was a trust issue for me, the journal was kind of like a barrier between us and slowly I stopped taking it in and just started talking directly to her. She didn't mind how I chose to communicate with her, but I think she was happy to know when I trusted her enough to speak to her directly.
Posted by terrics on February 23, 2004, at 17:14:35
In reply to What to show my Therapist, posted by Asya on February 22, 2004, at 22:39:00
I would ask first. Your T. is more than likely going to say yes. If he/she says no I would find out why. terrics
Posted by Raindancer on February 23, 2004, at 18:31:09
In reply to What to show my Therapist, posted by Asya on February 22, 2004, at 22:39:00
My T loves photos and I take them quite often, but only one or two every so often and he really concentrates on them. If you think of it from their point of view it's like having your story illustrated and your T can also see that it's important for you and will surely respond to that. The same should go for your journal. The important thing is that what you bring is actually helpful to your therapy and this may be something you and your T can talk about. All the very best.R
Posted by Asya on February 23, 2004, at 19:57:53
In reply to What to show my Therapist, posted by Asya on February 22, 2004, at 22:39:00
Thanks SO SO SO much to all of you--I love you guys, you are GREAT. This positive reinforcement really helped.
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