Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 312010

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I've said it before and I'll say it again.

Posted by Penny on February 11, 2004, at 10:24:49

I love my therapist. Not in a romantic way - in a 'jeez, she's a great therapist and I sure am lucky to have her' kinda way.

Good, tho' tearful, session last night where we talked some about my body image and relationship issues. Now I'm trying to focus on what she said.

We were talking about being celibate by choice as opposed to involuntary celibacy (or 'incel' :-( to those of us who are...), and I told her that while I don't feel that I am celibate my choice by any stretch of the imagination, at the same time, I'm not sure I can fathom allowing myself to open up to someone enough to ever end my celibacy. :-((

She said that perhaps, instead of my goal being "sex or marriage" I could make my goal to be comfortable enough that I can choose to be or not be celibate, but not out of fear.

Now, I'm not sure why I would choose to be celibate voluntarily, as I'm not a nun, I'm not taking any religious vows, and I'm not sure it makes much sense to choose celibacy unless you've experienced the other side of it...but I see her point. She's trying to take the fear factor away - have me focus on being comfortable with myself, with others, with being social, with my body, etc., instead of focusing on an end goal of "sex or marriage", which is anxiety and fear-provoking for me.

As I said, I love my therapist.

Not to mention that she remembered to bring me her copy of "Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban" on CD so I can listen to it.

:-)

P

Re: I've said it before and I'll say it again. » Penny

Posted by Poet on February 11, 2004, at 21:55:04

In reply to I've said it before and I'll say it again., posted by Penny on February 11, 2004, at 10:24:49

Penny,

Your therapist sounds like she should head the Perfect Therapist Club.

Poet

Re: I've said it before and I'll say it again. » Poet

Posted by Penny on February 12, 2004, at 8:44:36

In reply to Re: I've said it before and I'll say it again. » Penny, posted by Poet on February 11, 2004, at 21:55:04

> Penny,
>
> Your therapist sounds like she should head the Perfect Therapist Club.
>
> Poet

Ha! :-)

Well, she's not perfect. As she tends to let me talk about nothing at all probably too much. And she doesn't push me enough. Tho' she says it's not her style to push. But she sure does have a good head on her shoulders and, IMO, self-discloses just the right amount and we have a pretty good fit. But I'm sure she wouldn't be for everyone.

For example - I think my pdoc is THE best pdoc in the world (no offense, Dr. Bob), but I met a guy in the outpatient program I was in summer before last, and he had been to see my doc and really really didn't like him. Now, as far as I'm concerned, my pdoc isn't perfect, but he's pretty darn close. But that guy hated him. Thought he was terrible. And, knowing my doc as well as I do, and knowing that guy, I can see how my doc probably rubbed him the wrong way.

Tho' my T seems to be the type of person, to me, who is probably at least liked by most everyone she comes into contact with. I can't imagine otherwise - she's so easy going.

Nope - not head of the PTC. I won't let myself put her on that kind of pedestal. But I do love her.

And I hope our weather here clears up so I won't have to cancel our appointment this evening! argh...

Thanks, Poet!
P

Re: I've said it before and I'll say it again.

Posted by DaisyM on February 12, 2004, at 11:17:25

In reply to Re: I've said it before and I'll say it again. » Poet, posted by Penny on February 12, 2004, at 8:44:36

Don't you wish sometimes they could read the good things we say about them here? I'm sure mine is tired of hearing from me that I'm always worried that he won't want to continue to handle all the crud that keeps coming up - we have that conversation about trust about once/month. But, I really do think he is great, but how do you tell them that without having to then explore it?!

Just like sometimes "late is just late" - believing that you have a good Therapist does not have to be transference! Ok, somebody quote me.

Re: I've said it before and I'll say it again. » DaisyM

Posted by Penny on February 12, 2004, at 14:54:33

In reply to Re: I've said it before and I'll say it again., posted by DaisyM on February 12, 2004, at 11:17:25

"Just like sometimes "late is just late" - believing that you have a good Therapist does not have to be transference!"

- DaisyM

Consider yourself quoted...

:-b

P

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