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Posted by pegasus on December 22, 2003, at 12:42:05
Well, my last session with my T of 2 years is tomorrow first thing in the morning. I had a really good weekend (miraculously), and I'm thinking that maybe this last session might go reasonably well. In our session on Friday we agreed about some supportive things that we'll talk about tomorrow. And then I'll cry for the next 5 days. I'm really trying hard to keep things together, so that I don't get angry or broken hearted and say things that I'll regret. But I know that moment when I have to walk out of the office is going to be about the hardest thing I've ever done.
How is it that this can happen? Therapy is supposed to be something you do for help, and then things like this come up that are harder to deal with than anything (well . . . ok, not than anything . . . I know . . . but it sucks!).
So then later that day we fly to my in-laws (where my MIL is having a bout of major depression and says she's going to hide in her room all week, and my SIL is freaked about the kids catching the flu from us because we're from a high risk state). They are about the least supportive environment that I can think of in times of emotional distress. They definitely come from the school of "ignore it and it doesn't exist". Which probably explains my MIL's depression to some extent. At least this year she's telling us what's going on, which is great progress for her.
Wish me luck.
- P
Posted by Speaker on December 22, 2003, at 20:48:32
In reply to last session tomorrow, posted by pegasus on December 22, 2003, at 12:42:05
I know what you mean about the mixed emotions on the last day. Isn't it great they do this right before Christmas...well maybe that's better as we will keep busy. I have played out this last session in my mind a thousand times...I know it won't go anything like I have thought. Sooooo I guess I will pray for the best and trust my new T. and I click soon. He is very nice but there is so much to cover before he will ever be able to have any insight. I hate this process...and I to feel the price for help is way to high when this change goes on. I have seen my T for 8 years.
Posted by pegasus on December 22, 2003, at 21:42:39
In reply to My last session is tomorrow too!!! YUCK » pegasus, posted by Speaker on December 22, 2003, at 20:48:32
Speaker, I'm sorry you have to deal with this right before Xmas too! Although, I have to say that it's nice to know I'm not the only one. Yeah, what gives with the timing? Do they sit around and think of the crappiest time to leave clients high and dry?
I have trouble with depression, and I hope I can keep it away enough to have a decent session tomorrow. I was reading about the power of intention, and so I'm trying to cultivate the intention (at least) of having a reasonably coherent goodbye tomorrow. Ugh.
Good luck to you, too. Let me know how it goes! And good luck with the new therapist. I haven't ldecided on a new T yet, because of that issue of starting over again telling my stupid sad story to a stranger. I'll make an appt. after the holidays, though. Delaying isn't really helping me anyway.
Posted by Speaker on December 23, 2003, at 21:30:15
In reply to last session tomorrow, posted by pegasus on December 22, 2003, at 12:42:05
I had my last session with my therapist today due his license being put on probation and he can't see people with my diagnosis any longer...very sad!!! However, I have been dreading this day and wondered how it would go (playing it a thousand different ways in my head) and it was amazing and different than anything I expected. I took a small token to let him know my appreciation for him and I wondered if he would even take it with all of their rules and such. The big shock was before I left he gave me an awesome gift that represented our time together, the progress I made, and what I have to hold on to even though he can't be their for me any longer. We prayed together at the end of the session and I felt a calm closure. God really blessed me and I am so very grateful to celebrate Christmas. Thanks to all of you as you have helped me through this transition. I appreciate all of your support as I learn to trust a new T.
Posted by pegasus on December 29, 2003, at 15:37:43
In reply to Re: last session tomorrow » pegasus, posted by Speaker on December 23, 2003, at 21:30:15
Fantastic! I'm so glad that you had a good last session. I did too. I didn't bring him anything, but he gave me a letter and a gift. We talked about only good things, and at the end we hugged (this has been something that I've wanted to do, but he has wanted to have a boundary there). So, it's nice to have a positive ending behind me.
I actually feel ok about having my old T gone, but it sucks to be starting again. Does that make any sense? Plus, I'm having trouble making an appointment with the new therapist I had thought I might be able to work with. Our holiday schedules are totally conflicting, and I have a trip in mid January. So I'm going to be several weeks with no T at all. :(
Posted by Speaker on December 29, 2003, at 16:19:22
In reply to Re: last session tomorrow }} speaker, posted by pegasus on December 29, 2003, at 15:37:43
Pegasus,
Iknow what you mean about a new T...it does suck. I have found a guy that I think I can work with but it is so slow coming. I feel like I have so much history that has to be filled in before we can even start talking about anything specific. Let me know when you start with someone new! Do you have someone in mind...it sounded like you might?
Posted by pegasus on December 29, 2003, at 16:34:41
In reply to Re: last session tomorrow }} speaker, posted by Speaker on December 29, 2003, at 16:19:22
Yes, I think I've settled on one person who seemed to be the best of the lot. I think I need to at least make a plan for a new T, even if I'm not 100% sold on this new therapist. Maybe it'll work out, or maybe it'll become clear that I need a different T. But at least I'll have someone to talk to, and a break from interviewing therapists. Thanks for asking! I think I'll be OK. It sure helps to have ended well with the last therapist, doesn't it!
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