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Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 16, 2003, at 14:41:45
In reply to Re: HELP ME ... 2DAY IS MT LAST APPT. » lilmsbubbles07, posted by judy1 on December 16, 2003, at 9:54:35
i have my new appt with a new therapist a feamle ... on monday .. the 22 .. it is so unbarbale ... the pain it causin many different effects on my body and i am not sure how to deal with i feel my my whole life is messed up now ill keep u updated on how i feel and how it goes monday
Posted by fallsfall on December 16, 2003, at 14:46:10
In reply to Re: HELP ME ... 2DAY IS MT LAST APPT. » judy1, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 16, 2003, at 14:41:45
Wonderful. I'm glad you have an appointment.
Please remember, though, if you find that you don't like her you can keep looking.
Distraction is a great coping skill to use until Monday.
Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 17, 2003, at 7:23:56
In reply to Re: HELP ME ... 2DAY IS MT LAST APPT. » lilmsbubbles07, posted by fallsfall on December 16, 2003, at 14:46:10
welll... as the days go on and i am relizing that my old t is gone ... i get teary eyed and start feelin like i have nothing to go on for ... i am so very attached to him ... when spoke to him on the phone he sounded like he was so upset and not knowin what to do i am not sure what to think i know he cares and all... he kept tellin how it isnt my fault he wants to dee me get better and off diablity .. he wants to see the i get my GED and wants be to broing it to him wheni recive it .. he stills wants me to keep in contact ... still wants me to send/give him some of my potrey i write .. isnt that going to be harder to let go ?? is that right ?
Posted by fallsfall on December 17, 2003, at 7:30:12
In reply to Re: HELP ME ... 2DAY IS MT LAST APPT., posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 17, 2003, at 7:23:56
I think that periodic updates are fine. Particularly if they are via mail rather than in person.
I wish my old therapist wanted periodic updates...
Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 17, 2003, at 8:05:58
In reply to Re: HELP ME ... 2DAY IS MT LAST APPT. » lilmsbubbles07, posted by fallsfall on December 17, 2003, at 7:30:12
i dunno if i can handle it .. he dont have a email it would be in person .. i think that would crush me more and more ever time i saw him ...
Posted by judy1 on December 17, 2003, at 12:05:03
In reply to Re: HELP ME ... 2DAY IS MT LAST APPT., posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 17, 2003, at 7:23:56
do whatever feels right to you. I still (after 3 years) call my old pdoc periodically, it really helps. at first I used to cry but now we have normal conversations and sometimes I even get mad!- progress!!!!
take care, judy
Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 17, 2003, at 13:49:21
In reply to Re: HELP ME ... 2DAY IS MT LAST APPT. » lilmsbubbles07, posted by judy1 on December 17, 2003, at 12:05:03
i am sfarid to call him though maybe i wont be in time
Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 17, 2003, at 17:38:17
In reply to Re: HELP ME ... 2DAY IS MT LAST APPT. » judy1, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 17, 2003, at 13:49:21
ok i am confused .. transfernce is noral is what i am getting and it seems most therapist keep there patients why didnt mine what could be some of th reasons?
Posted by Joslynn on December 17, 2003, at 21:39:16
In reply to Re: ummmm, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 17, 2003, at 17:38:17
Well, as I understand that, the therapist might end the therapy if he or she thinks that their own feelings could affect the therapy or if they think that they might be in danger of crossing a boundary. It's to protect you (and also to protect them from lawsuits). But it's not that you did anything wrong.
I know it must be incredibly painful for you now. Do you have a structured plan for the weekend, to keep yourself busy and around people, so you can get thru it until you see the new therapist?
Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 17, 2003, at 22:26:09
In reply to Re: ummmm, posted by Joslynn on December 17, 2003, at 21:39:16
well not really i have no plans at all mostly i will be alone all weekend just thinkin
Posted by Joslynn on December 18, 2003, at 8:49:47
In reply to Re: ummmm » Joslynn, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 17, 2003, at 22:26:09
Hmm. For me, if I spend too much time alone when I feel abandoned, it's not a great thing. That's just me though. Maybe you could even just hang out at a bookstore or something? Write out Christmas cards? Brave the malls? But, if you think that would make it worse, then don't. I guess it depends on your own personality style.
Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 18, 2003, at 20:16:36
In reply to Re: ummmm, posted by Joslynn on December 18, 2003, at 8:49:47
well i went to my therpy place cus my moom goes there too and i saw my t that just discharged me he was very nice and kind ... i didnt cry at 1st but i needed to speak to him to get some papers for school ... and my heart just was pounding and i was sweatin so bad i thought i was dying !!! well i went in to his office and he asked me how i was and how i was dealin with all this and i told him not that well and i just busted in to tears he couldnt even look at me and he kept tellin me to hang in there i can make it to never give up... i know he cares and it is tearin him apart along woth me i think today is the 1st day i really did not want to go on with out him ... i think he thinks hemade the wrong choice does anyone have any advice
Posted by fallsfall on December 18, 2003, at 21:16:01
In reply to Re: i broke down , posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 18, 2003, at 20:16:36
It will get easier with time. It really will.
It will also be easier when you have a new therapist to help you. So you just have to get from here to there. Take it one day at a time. When you feel really miserable, try to distract yourself - a movie, or a book, or something that will take your mind off things.
It must be hard to see him. I don't know if I could see my old therapist - and I left 6 months ago! But my day-to-day life is OK without her. It just takes time.
Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 19, 2003, at 7:38:20
In reply to Re: i broke down » lilmsbubbles07, posted by fallsfall on December 18, 2003, at 21:16:01
well i feel need to see him and once i see him i break down into tears then i feel a since of relief!!!! my day 2 day life is not that great since i have hard time doing things due to agoraphiba..when i do stuff i still always think of him ... and i cry in the middle of the store it is so embarssing!!
Posted by judy1 on December 19, 2003, at 10:15:05
In reply to Re: i broke down » fallsfall, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 19, 2003, at 7:38:20
I know several of us relate to how you feel, and those of us who went through what you're going through are doing fine now. which doesn't really help you today. why don't you write more about how you feel- you wonder why he did this- his reaction tells me he may have been getting too involved in your care, and the right thing to do in this case is remove himself and refer you. I'm sure this is painful for him as it is for you, but he has the skills to take care of himself, and you don't. You really, really, need to start seeing someone else on a regular basis- how is that search going?
take care, judy
Posted by EmmyS on December 19, 2003, at 21:15:50
In reply to Re: i broke down » fallsfall, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 19, 2003, at 7:38:20
It really will improve with time. I know that sounds pretty useless now, but it's true. you are grieving a huge loss.
Is there any possible way to get a referral to a therapist in another building so you don't have to run into him? It seems like a clean break would be easier than continuing chance encounters. I was surprised he referred you to someone in the same practice. That didn't seem like such a terrific idea, unless he had no choice.
Hang in there.
Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 19, 2003, at 23:39:34
In reply to Re: i broke down » lilmsbubbles07, posted by judy1 on December 19, 2003, at 10:15:05
> I know several of us relate to how you feel, and those of us who went through what you're going through are doing fine now. which doesn't really help you today. why don't you write more about how you feel- you wonder why he did this- his reaction tells me he may have been getting too involved in your care, and the right thing to do in this case is remove himself and refer you. I'm sure this is painful for him as it is for you, but he has the skills to take care of himself, and you don't. You really, really, need to start seeing someone else on a regular basis- how is that search going?
> take care, judyWELL I FEEL LIKE POOOOH ... I CANT STOP CRYIN AND WHEN I DO .... I AM SAD AND DEPRESSED AND MY NOSE BLEEDS .. I FEEL LIKE I LOST MT BEST FRIEND AND THE ONLY PERON I REALLY TRUST IN THIS WHOLE WORLD!!!! ......HE WAS GETTIN TO INVOLED AND I CAN ALSO TELL HE IS HURT BY DOIN THIS TOO.. HE LOOKS SO SAD AND DOWN... AWEEE I FEEL SO BAD !!!! IT ISNT LIKE I AM IN LOVE WITH HIM I JUST FEEL A CLOSENESS TO HIM LIKE I HAVE NEVER FELT BEFORE IN MY LIFE ... I HAVE GREW UP IN A VERY CLOSE NIT FAMILY HAD BOTH PARNETS AROUND ALL TIME I JUST DONT GET ALL THIS
Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 19, 2003, at 23:43:15
In reply to Re: i broke down, posted by EmmyS on December 19, 2003, at 21:15:50
SORRY FOR THE DOUBLE POST I DIDNT MEAN IT !!
it would be so much easier not to be going to the same place he is at ... but i dunno of any other placEs and this is where he sent me ...
Posted by EmmyS on December 20, 2003, at 8:10:46
In reply to Re: i broke down » EmmyS, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 19, 2003, at 23:43:15
Unless you live in East Podunk, there is probably more than one place for therapy. If you would like to make a clean break (sounds healthier, no?), request another referral, either from him, or from the new therapist. Hang on. It will take time.
Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 21, 2003, at 12:29:45
In reply to Re: i broke down, posted by EmmyS on December 20, 2003, at 8:10:46
well yea there is other therpy places in my area which is baltimore md .... but none of them except my insurnce ... so i really dont have choice...ugh ugh .... i am stuck between a rock and a hard spot any suggestions????
Posted by EmmyS on December 21, 2003, at 15:41:16
In reply to Re: i broke down » EmmyS, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 21, 2003, at 12:29:45
Well, it's the end of the year, so perhaps you can change insurance carriers? or call your insurance carrier and see if they have added any therapists to their list. I've never heard of a insurance group offering only one provider group. Maybe they've expanded their offerings since you last checked?
Otherwise, just start with the new therapist he referred you to asap.
Good luck!
Posted by Joslynn on December 21, 2003, at 19:52:00
In reply to Re: i broke down, posted by EmmyS on December 21, 2003, at 15:41:16
hi Bubbles, well you got through the weekend that's great!
Although the other places say they don't accept your insurance, perhaps you can see if your insurance company will reimburse you if you pay up front. If you can pay up front, some companies will reimburse you a decent percentage of what you paid. But you would have to ask your insurance company. Just because a doctor does not want to be in their "network" does not necessarily mean your ins won't pay.
If you can't pay up front at all, then I guess that wouldn't work.
But every insurance plan is different.
Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 22, 2003, at 12:55:21
In reply to Re: i broke down, posted by EmmyS on December 20, 2003, at 8:10:46
well today wa my 1st appt with the new t ugh ...she is nice and very understanding and all but i feel so uncomfortable i want my old t back so much ... it is still so so so so hurting to no end!!!!! i wish i could just disspaear i never in a millon years thought i wouldbe going through this
Posted by Joslynn on December 29, 2003, at 8:19:51
In reply to Re: 1st appt with new therapist ugh!!, posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 22, 2003, at 12:55:21
So how are things going Bubbles? Do you have another appt with the new therp?
Posted by lilmsbubbles07 on December 29, 2003, at 9:03:42
In reply to Re: 1st appt with new therapist ugh!! » lilmsbubbles07, posted by Joslynn on December 29, 2003, at 8:19:51
yes i do have a appt with my new t ... she is weired she l aughs at everything i say it makesm e feel yucky
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