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Posted by Rigby on October 13, 2003, at 11:16:51
Hi Everyone,
Well, I talked to my therapist about her having that huge, unexplained bouquet of flowers sitting on the floor between us during our previous session. What I realized by talking with her about it was that I moved to a place where I felt I could not trust her: if she was incompetent and/or insensitive enough to leave flowers sitting like that there than why should I trust her with my inner most thoughts and feelings?
She volunteered that the flowers were from a colleague who was leaving and that she just should have moved them but didn't. She has *plenty* of room--she could have put them behind her desk. She said she left them there all day--that it wasn't just me that she saw while they were there.
Isn't a therapist supposed to be sensitive to this kinda thing?
I just gotta wonder if this woman is not playing mind games with me. I just gotta wonder what is up--she's admitted to making "too many" exceptions for me, admitted to saying things she shouldn't have said because she was taking a medication that made her hyper, admitted that she had a "different/closer/special" relationship with me vs. her other clients. I keep trying to figure all this and chalk it up to therapy being intense but maybe it IS her.
I am thinking of trying to not see her anymore. Maybe cancel this week and see how that feels. Then cancel again if that felt okay.
Arrrgghh!!!
Posted by Poet on October 13, 2003, at 13:49:52
In reply to Flowers In Office Contd., posted by Rigby on October 13, 2003, at 11:16:51
Maybe she's on a new medication that makes her forget how a therapist should act?
What is with her saying that she has a different/closer/special relationship with you than other clients? Isn't it usually clients who suffer from transference?
Therapists are supposed to make you feel more and more trust, not wipe it out in one session.
If you do decide to cancel this week, tell her why. She needs to know how you are interpreting her actions. If you don't want to talk to her, you could always send flowers with a note attached.
Poet
Posted by Dinah on October 13, 2003, at 15:59:12
In reply to Re: Flowers In Office Contd. » Rigby, posted by Poet on October 13, 2003, at 13:49:52
> Maybe she's on a new medication that makes her forget how a therapist should act?
>
lol. You made me snort my drink through my nose. :) I'm sorry Rigby, I know it's a serious subject. But that was just funny. And true, too.Seems like she might be in need of supervision. If you want to try to salvage the relationship, you could suggest that. Or maybe a consultation.
From what you say, it sounds as if her level of self-disclosure is inappropriate. While a client can tell their therapist any and everything, the reverse is not true.
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