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Posted by sienna on October 11, 2002, at 20:08:54
Hi everyone,
I had to go to a new doctor because my doctor wanted me to get
a second opinion from his friend he works with. So I went to
see the new doctor Wednesday nite. He was really nice and
he asked me a bunch of questions and i tried to answer really
honestly. It was kind of distracting because I could hear some
voices and i couldnt tell if they were next door or not.
He said I was having some problems with reality testing, but
I didnt think i was sounding too crazy. I asked him if he was
going to send the police to my house. I dont know why I asked
him that, but I always ask that becuase i have had that happen
before and they took me to a hospital and it was pretty
unpleasant, so Im avoiding it.Then at the end he said it was nice to meet me, and i said it
was nice to meet him too and then he was looking at me and
I said somethign else i cant remember what and he said
somethign else then was just looking at me, but i didnt know
if I was supposed to leave or if he was trying to read what I
was thinking, so I asked if I was supposed to leave now, and
he said, "yes it was nice to meet you". So I got up, but I didnt
know if I was supposed to shut the door or not, things like that
make me nervous, so I asked him and he said to close it.
Do you all know if you usually are supposed to close the door
when you walk out or leave it open? I dont know why I worry
about these things, but sometimes I feel like I am pretenidng
to be an adult. I feel like that everytime I write a check or
buy cigarettes or beer.Anyways, Im scared that my old doctor wont want to see me
again now.Sienna
Posted by Dinah on October 12, 2002, at 12:18:50
In reply to new pdoc and now im scared, posted by sienna on October 11, 2002, at 20:08:54
Hi Sienna,
Don't worry too much about the not being sure when to go, or the door. He'll just think you were anxious, and you were, so he'll have an accurate impression. :)
After all these years with my therapist, I still just push the door mostly closed and he reaches over and pushes it the rest of the way. I think I'm afraid I'll accidentally slam it or something. No big deal, really.
As far as your doctor is concerned, if you're worried about what his plans are, ask him. And ask him about the purpose for the second opinion, and what he thinks he's learned from it, etc. When is your next appointment? It's usually the wondering and uncertainty that causes pain. Getting it out in the open and discussing it will make it way less scary.
Good luck to you.
Dinah
Posted by Sienna on October 12, 2002, at 17:56:55
In reply to Re: new pdoc and now im scared » sienna, posted by Dinah on October 12, 2002, at 12:18:50
Hi Dinah,
Thanks for wriitng. Ill see my doc in a week and a half. Im kind of afraid he doesnt want me as a patient anymore. Or that the other doctor will want me to change a bunch of stuff. i dont really know what Im so worried about, but i think i will tell my T about it when i see him on monday. Its probablybetter to talk aobut it. I found out a lot of people have problems with the door thing because im on another list and i siad the same thing and lots of people had the same kind of anxiety over whether or not to close the door. Its kind of funny. They should put a sign on it. im goign to tell both my pdoc and my T that me and a bunch of people have the same issue. I wonder if they already know that.
Sienna
Posted by Mystia on October 13, 2002, at 22:23:17
In reply to Re: new pdoc and now im scared, posted by Sienna on October 12, 2002, at 17:56:55
The pdoc I used to see would get up and walk to the door with me and see me out (and go get whatever samples and stuff I needed), so I never had that problem :) Also, I would always sit in different places every time (he had 2 chairs and one big couch) and he asked me one time why I sat in different places. He said that most of the time, people sit in one chair and after the first visit with him, that was where they sat. I told him that I liked variation LOL Pdocs see lots of people, so I am sure the door thing isn't uncommon.
Myst
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