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Posted by Dinah on August 28, 2002, at 14:54:47
Originally posted by Beth Miller on 8/28/02
> This week my therapist canceled our appointment
> with no notice. I showed up and she wasn't there because of an emergency. This is the fourth time something like this has happened and I feel really pissed. I have come to depend on those sessions. I have told her things I never thought I could tell anyone and feel exposed and vulnerable because of it. I feel pathetic because I'm having such an intense reaction to such a minor thing. I really feel betrayed- like I confide so much and she doesn't care. I've allowed myself to spiral into my most negative behaviors -- cutting, purging,-- and I don't want to tell my therapist why. I guess admitting to her how dependant I feel on her seems like the ultimate vulnerability. Does anyone else feel dependant on their therapist? Should I tell my therapist about all this? I feel like she is a really good therapist but if I feel this way should I keep going? Also, not only has she canceled 4 appointments, but frequently takes weeks off. Though I prefer a weekly session I typically only see her 2 maybe 3 times a month. Given her unpredictable schedule should I look for someone who will be more consistent- despite the fact I like her? I feel really lost and upset about this I hope someone can give me some insight.
Posted by terra miller on August 28, 2002, at 16:54:53
In reply to Re: Irrational Feelings About Therapy -or- Not? » Beth Miller, posted by Dinah on August 28, 2002, at 14:54:47
your reactions sound understandable; if you didn't like or trust your therapist you wouldn't be feeling this way.
you need to tell her how you feel. try writing down on paper what you want to say, and what you want to request from her. write down what you are upset about, too. ask her to give you feedback and clarifications.
it could be that there were legitimate misunderstandings. however, it shouldn't be the norm. if your therapist cannot provide what you need, you should think about finding someone who can. if you don't feel respected, you will end up not liking yourself... which defeats the point of therapy.
terra
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