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Posted by Lauren0722 on October 27, 2009, at 8:16:33
I am currently in therapy for almost a year and in love with my therapist. I have been seeking support, literature, anything to try and cope with what can be a very lonely and heartbreaking place.
A friend of mine and I are working on co-authoring a book that I think could help countless numbers of men and women feel less alone in feelings of transference or simply deep engagement and attraction.
We are looking for your stories, anonymously of course, but the stories must be real and brutally honest.
I can be reached at lauren0722@yahoo.com or my website at www.inlovewithyourtherapist.com
I want to be clear that we are not looking to blast or condemn or put down these men or women who have genuinely helped us thru some tough issues - we love them as they love us - but it is a hard place to be in when you ride the wave of extreme elation the day you know you will see them to such sadness when your time with them is up.
Our promise is that this book is to help, to let others know they are not alone as we all have stories, even our therapists, who also struggle with feelings for their clients.
Please consider emailing us or using our form from our website and telling us your story. You will not find judgment from us or advice, rather an understanding set of ears from two women who have probably felt and gone thru all the things you have been thru as well.
Posted by Deneb on October 27, 2009, at 15:17:13
In reply to Seeking Stories from Clients in Love w/ Therapists, posted by Lauren0722 on October 27, 2009, at 8:16:33
Hello Lauren,
Welcome to Psycho-Babble. I'm not sure that anyone would give their stories to you as you are very new and it takes time for people to trust others. At this point we can't be sure of your intentions. Also many people on this site have expressed deep concern about having their posts and stories outside of Babble.
However, you are very welcomed to post about your own experiences with loving your therapist on the psychology board.
Deneb
Posted by Lauren0722 on October 28, 2009, at 7:53:43
In reply to Re: Seeking Stories from Clients in Love w/ Therapists » Lauren0722, posted by Deneb on October 27, 2009, at 15:17:13
My intention is to gain support - I am new, this is true, but if you take the time to read my website and know that just yesterday I spoke to a man in love with his female therapist, the feelings are eerily the same, and yet we have no one to talk to about this.
How wonderful would it be to walk into a book store and see a book filled with stories of exactly what we go thru loving our therapists, wanting them, still doing actual therapy work with them, etc.
You are correct in the year 2009 with the internet to be leery of me and my intentions - all I can do is tell you I want and will write a book comprised of true and honest stories keeping names anonymous but the stories will all be real and it will be done to help those going thru this feel less alone.
Try having a little faith in people and believing that thru therapy you can sometimes find a way where you not only change some things innately about yourself in the process but you can also help others as well.
Thank you for the welcome and I hope to find some wonderful support here on this board.
Lauren
> Hello Lauren,
>
> Welcome to Psycho-Babble. I'm not sure that anyone would give their stories to you as you are very new and it takes time for people to trust others. At this point we can't be sure of your intentions. Also many people on this site have expressed deep concern about having their posts and stories outside of Babble.
>
> However, you are very welcomed to post about your own experiences with loving your therapist on the psychology board.
>
> Deneb
Posted by Nadezda on October 31, 2009, at 18:40:21
In reply to Seeking Stories from Clients in Love w/ Therapists, posted by Lauren0722 on October 27, 2009, at 8:16:33
what does "brutally honest" entail?
so if my story wasn't brutally honest, but just honest-- and my love for my T turned out well, and lead to a lot of progress in my therapy, shall I infer that you aren't interested?
Nadezda
Posted by lauren0722 on November 1, 2009, at 1:29:12
In reply to Re: Seeking Stories from Clients in Love w/ Therapists, posted by Nadezda on October 31, 2009, at 18:40:21
if u insist on "play on words" then perhaps ur motive is simply to put down the notion of this concept - concentrating on semantcis is not the point - i want honesty, brutal honesty yes, beause i think as much detail as comfortable that the person gives, the better it is for others who are going thru rhe same thing - this very adbwill also be run in the Jan/Feb issue of Psych Today and i hope it is one taken seriously - we want stories, ur stories, honest stories - i would more wonder why ur are so bent out of shape over one word then me asking for thise stories
Posted by Deneb on November 1, 2009, at 11:15:18
In reply to Re: Seeking Stories from Clients in Love w/ Therapists, posted by lauren0722 on November 1, 2009, at 1:29:12
Hey Lauren,
I think people will be more comfortable sharing their stories with you if you share your story in detail first. People want to know you understand and sharing your story will help with that.
We are a very vulnerable here and if you show us your vulnerability then it may make us more likely to be vulnerable to you.
Posted by lauren0722 on November 1, 2009, at 15:12:50
In reply to Re: Seeking Stories from Clients in Love w/ Therapists, posted by Deneb on November 1, 2009, at 11:15:18
then i would suggest going to my website or contacting me directly if u feel that is the reason
again, for the 10th or 15th time it is:
www.inlovewithyourtherapist.com
or my or my co-authors emails at:
or
or is the promise of anonymity not enough to share your journey? is the thought that maybe one day in a book store u could read stories showing how not alone u are too unreal to believe it could be a raelity?
i am SO vulnerable in this jorney and in a positon where my T wants to make love to me but wont - do you know the sheer torture in just that? is that enough of an inkling 4 what i go thru and in wanting to find other stories like mine?
Posted by Deneb on December 5, 2009, at 23:03:09
In reply to Re: Seeking Stories from Clients in Love w/ Therapists, posted by lauren0722 on November 1, 2009, at 15:12:50
Hey Lauren,
Maybe you can check out the PsychCentral forums. They actually have a subforum in the Psychotherapy forum that is for people who are in love with their therapists.
You may want to check with DocJohn if you are allowed to solicit people though, as they have strict rules against research.
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