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Posted by homewood on August 6, 2002, at 21:54:21
i'm in the stages of going through separation and divorce...been on ad's since march...moods are much better, though the lows still knock me flat...
Posted by Dinah on August 7, 2002, at 4:30:12
In reply to Pdoc wants me to start praying again..., posted by homewood on August 6, 2002, at 21:54:21
You say "praying again". Did you once have an active prayer life? And did it bring you comfort?
I think it's great that your pdoc is open to spirituality. On the other hand, I think I would have had a knee jerk reaction based on my mother's firm and oft stated belief that all I need to do is pray more and I'd be just fine. My father's oft stated belief is that I just need to drink and party more and I'd be just fine. But that's just transference or something on my part. What do you think of your pdoc's recommendation?
I'm afraid the gift of prayer is one I'm sorely lacking. But I know it brings a lot of comfort to many people. And if you have the gift of prayer, I can see where it would be healing to use it.
Posted by homewood on August 7, 2002, at 15:47:25
In reply to Re: Pdoc wants me to start praying again... » homewood, posted by Dinah on August 7, 2002, at 4:30:12
It had been an integral part of my life...up until the time AD's took away my enthusiasm for just about everything....I am going through a divorce and am experiencing bouts of guilt and abandonement...nothing more than the 'poor little me' syndrome i guess.
She is very spiritual, and a great comfort to me. She has suggested I do a few positive things for myself every day, even if i don't 'feel' like it...much easier said than done I'm finding out...
Posted by Dinah on August 7, 2002, at 17:54:02
In reply to Re: Pdoc wants me to start praying again..., posted by homewood on August 7, 2002, at 15:47:25
> It had been an integral part of my life...up until the time AD's took away my enthusiasm for just about everything....
Perhaps if you just start doing it, the feelings will come with time. (Actually that never works for me, but I hear it does for many people).
>I am going through a divorce and am experiencing bouts of guilt and abandonement...nothing more than the 'poor little me' syndrome i guess.
>
I think feelings of guilt and abandonment under the circumstances are probably natural. Calling it the "poor little me syndrome" is the sort of negative self talk that I'll bet your therapist frowns on. :) I think you should give yourself the same understanding you would give to others in the same situation.
> She is very spiritual, and a great comfort to me. She has suggested I do a few positive things for myself every day, even if i don't 'feel' like it...much easier said than done I'm finding out...Yes, it is. But probably worthwhile advice nevertheless. (Mind you, I have great difficulty following it.)
Take care of yourself.
Posted by terra miller on August 13, 2002, at 22:48:49
In reply to Re: Pdoc wants me to start praying again..., posted by homewood on August 7, 2002, at 15:47:25
hi. sometimes for me, when i think i just can't do it (which is often), i find that i can still freely listen especially during worship services. and so that's what i do. and i find that the more i sit and listen, the more i realized how loved i am. then i feel like conversing. otherwise it's still very hard. i'm going through a separation as well.
terra
Posted by homewood on August 15, 2002, at 13:19:36
In reply to Re: Pdoc wants me to start praying again... » homewood, posted by terra miller on August 13, 2002, at 22:48:49
thanks terra...learning to listen is always a good thing
Posted by gloryb on August 28, 2002, at 10:31:07
In reply to Re: Pdoc wants me to start praying again..., posted by homewood on August 15, 2002, at 13:19:36
It is wonderful if you and your pdoc are in
agreement basically on spiritual matters.
If the doc knew you were a praying person
before the problems, then it is good to
suggest prayer again.I had been blessed the last time I went to a
pdoc with one who may not have agreed with me
on everything but she respected my strongly
held beliefs and did not ask me to look at
things from a perspective that was inconsistant.Remember, prayer is hardest when we need it
most. And do like another person posted--listen.
"Be still and know that I am God" is something
to remember. Sometimes that is all we need.
And then we want to pray.
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