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Posted by finelinebob on August 19, 2006, at 23:37:22
In reply to Re: Failing to fail! The ultimate failure!, posted by Jost on August 19, 2006, at 22:08:54
> Ll,
>
> It is impossible to get an F in "The English Novel." I know this for a fact.
>
> JostROFLMAO! That reminds me of one of my greatest failures: Physics 401.
It was the gatekeeper class to the higher mysteries (physics courses with numbers bigger than 401) and it was obvious I was doing terribly. If I didn't learn this stuff, trying to comprehend the even more complicated stuff would have been ludicrous.
So, I devised my Plan.
If I just did poorly, I could take the class again for no credit ... but what's the point in that? If I ***failed***, tho, I could take the course again for credit and the grades would be averaged on my record! I could take it again and having been through it once, and putting a little more effort into it, I could get an A!! Overall, I come out of it with a C and a much better understanding of the material.
So, I had already received D after D on all my tests. I thought this was a no-brainer, going into the final. I made a half-hearted attempt at half the test, then spent the rest of the designated time writing "I repeat myself while under stress" over and over again on the desktop. I handed in the test, one of the last to leave the room (talk about your self-torture!) and left convinced I had bagged an F in that class.
Then that bastage of a professor had to go and give me a C- in the class.
Yet another failure to fail. I couldn't take the class again for credit. I should have complained to the dean, but I probably would have lost that argument, too.
Posted by Poet on August 20, 2006, at 0:28:22
In reply to Re: Forget to include message, posted by finelinebob on August 18, 2006, at 19:44:02
Hi finelinebob,
Me a natural failure? If it's true I'm kind of proud. Wait, pride is self esteem, and failures don't have self esteem therefore... I really did get a F in geometry those damn indirect proofs tripped me up every time.
Poet
Posted by finelinebob on August 20, 2006, at 0:49:13
In reply to Re: Forget to include message » finelinebob, posted by Poet on August 20, 2006, at 0:28:22
Ah, but pride is sinful, so you've really mucked things up now.
If you think you can use pride over being a natural failure as a demonstration of self-esteem which is inconsistent with failure and then getting an F in geometry as a proof of your lack of self-esteem, well you just got tripped up again by one of those indirect proofs, dearie. You've failed, naturally, yet again in demonstrating that you have no self-esteem.
Posted by llrrrpp on August 20, 2006, at 9:30:10
In reply to Re: Forget to include message » Poet, posted by finelinebob on August 20, 2006, at 0:49:13
I accomplished all Saturday goals, including raspberry sorbet with raspberries on top (note to curtm- no lemon sorbet at coldstone). I took pics of the cat. I will post them today, I think!
Sunday goals
Try not to sleep too much (I forgot my bottle of provigil @ home. I'm going to have to wait a few days until my friend can mail it to me)
Try to fix this computer, which has an archived copy of the entire hard-drive somewhere on the hard-drive. Have to find the archives, restore the music library and clean up all the permissions. Oh, and the best thing is that I have to install a printer, which started off this whole mess. The computer guy @ the store reformatted the harddrive, but neglected to install any of the printer drivers. grr!other goal is to? I forgot already Oh goody, I've been up for 20 minutes, and I'm already ready for a nap! Well, it's sunday :)
-ll
Posted by Jost on August 20, 2006, at 12:45:51
In reply to Goals for Saturday [update] and Sunday, posted by llrrrpp on August 20, 2006, at 9:30:10
Can;t remember. One of my goals yesterday was not to get involved on Admin. board. Did that. +++
Read for about 40 min.--although it was at 3 am. Ggugh. +-
Tried to make arrangements with someone I'm working with for week after I come back from hideous vacation that I agreed to go on with Sig O, and now am stuck going on. Sigh.
anyway, person starts saying, oh I can only work twice that week?? And I go, oh, okay. Well I have lots of time... so whenever you want to work???... and she said, I don't know my schedule but my classes at *** are over, so I'm going to take some classes at **** (excitement!)... and I say, oh. ..? [yeah...but remember you said when your classes were over you would have So Much Time To Work.....? I didn't say this, though).....
and she said, so, maybe twice that week???? and I said, well email me..... (and it da*n well better be at least three times, da*m it).... and she said, okay, I'll email.
Why can't I just tell her, "You Said We Were Going To Work More Often After Your [da*n] Classes Were Over , REMEMBER... remember you said that, every time you cancelled work when you had rehearsals/auditions/etc/soccer match final you "had" to watch/friend was coming to stay with you and etc/etc/etc????? and when you also said you were going home for 1-3 months instead of staying here for the year--so we would have to stop working at the end of September--for at least 1-3 months (if you don't change your mind completely by then, which is entirely possible)???"
Jost
Posted by llrrrpp on August 20, 2006, at 14:08:49
In reply to Re: Goals for Saturday [update] and Sunday » llrrrpp, posted by Jost on August 20, 2006, at 12:45:51
Good for you Jost, to stay off of Admin board. I find it so diificult to stay off. My last post bordered on hostile. I'm determined to stay off until September begins.
Can you tell this coworker that you were looking forward to the end of her classes so that you could get some serious work done on the project? Can you ask her right now, what her level of committment is on the project?
Can you ask her to tell you her schedule for the month of August and Sept, so that you can schedule your life too?
Sounds super frustrating. Well, I hope it doesn't affect your self-esteem. Is she 2nd author? (metaphorically speaking). Do you have any control or authority over her? Are there any consequences for her lack of effort?
Better just to clear things up at this point than to bottle up the frustration and let it boil over into the wee hours of the morning...
I hope your hideous vacation is not all hideous. Bring a camera, and try to take a picture of something neat every day. Even if it's just a baroque crack in a side walk. Grin and bear it. Take a lone walk if you need it, and don't forget the ice cream. Take some time for yourself, in the midst of all the hideousness- read a book, or get a frappucino. yawn. nap. etc.
Cheer up Jost! It's Sunday, and I think it's sunny where you are.
-ll
Posted by finelinebob on August 20, 2006, at 22:54:43
In reply to Re: Goals for Saturday [update] and Sunday » Jost, posted by llrrrpp on August 20, 2006, at 14:08:49
Do my laundry in-between posts and quick enough to get to bed early enough so I can actually wake up for work. w00t! here I go....
Posted by Jost on August 21, 2006, at 0:29:51
In reply to Re: Goals for Saturday [update] and Sunday » Jost, posted by llrrrpp on August 20, 2006, at 14:08:49
I wrote my co-worker an email to that effect.
Unfortunately, she's both more and less than a co-author. I need her a whole lot more than she needs me-- let's put it that way.
Unless some form of self-interest on her part coincides with my self-interest in this project-- and my self-interest unf. is much more--or deeper-- than hers-- I'm screwed.
Not that I doubt her intentions--if she exactly has them-- but they don't carry her that far. Although I do wonder when people don't bring this up-- after having made representations to the contrary--until they moment they're leaving-- or I bring it up. The ad-hocness of her reasons bothers me. Most people try to make it some obscure necessity, or some compelling out-of-their control force.
Either way, it's so the opposite of the way I am-- that I never quite believe that people are being calculating, or not doing their utmost to meet their commitment. But it is really obvious that they see me as pretty expendable, not in a mean way, just in a zero-sum way, where they're more determined (in a probably very good way) to be one, despite my then being zero, than I have to make it the other way around-- even if it should go the other way, for many reasons.
It's no use getting mad. Or, I should say, staying mad. It doesn't work for me. It does boil up every so often, and then I squelch it. It's about me and my work-- and I guess it's hard to feel that it's that important.
But I have to get more focussed on doing what I need to do, internally (ie working), and trying to put a little more pressure-- ie some--I mean being honest that I"m not happy, but not as if I'm mad-- that she did say she would do more, and that I expect her to do it. But if she doesn't, well, I'm disappointed. Period. Then move on.
I guess? I'm not good at this sort of thing.
So where are you now?
Jost
Posted by llrrrpp on August 21, 2006, at 16:56:47
In reply to Re: Goals for Saturday [update] and Sunday » llrrrpp, posted by Jost on August 21, 2006, at 0:29:51
My goal for today is to stay awake (when necessary) and not lose my cool. You see, I'm away from home and I have forgotten one of my medications (provigil). Had an important errand to run, so no work for me today.
Let's see- nap from 8-9, 10-11, 12-12:30, 4:30-5:15. I'm in bad shape. Husband asked me which one of my meds is making me so sleepy. I said, probably the AD (cymbalta 90 mg). Why are you still taking it, he asked. Umm, because I'd rather be sleepy and happy than wide awake and wanting to kill myself. Asked if I was planning to be on these the rest of my life. um no, now, let me get back to sleep ZZZZzzzz. I'm about to pass out right now.
Fortunately, a friend is mailing my provigil to me and it should get here tomorrow or wednesday at the latest. *yawn*
In the meanwhile, my cat and I are on the same schedule, roughly.
-ll
p.s. I haven't lost my cool yet. hard to keep a good temper when so groggy, though.
Posted by llrrrpp on August 21, 2006, at 16:57:47
In reply to I have a new goal!!!!, posted by finelinebob on August 20, 2006, at 22:54:43
Sounds great flb! I hope you get everything done, or at least enough so that you can wear clean clothes for the next few days :o)
-ll
Posted by llrrrpp on August 21, 2006, at 17:08:47
In reply to Re: Goals for Saturday [update] and Sunday » llrrrpp, posted by Jost on August 21, 2006, at 0:29:51
> I wrote my co-worker an email to that effect.
>
> Unfortunately, she's both more and less than a co-author. I need her a whole lot more than she needs me-- let's put it that way.That's unfortunate for both of you-- her, because she's not responsible enough to get her sh*t together, and YOU, because she's holding you back.
> Unless some form of self-interest on her part coincides with my self-interest in this project-- and my self-interest unf. is much more--or deeper-- than hers-- I'm screwed.Yes, well Ayn Rand is rubbing it in your face right now. So much for altruism, huh?
> Not that I doubt her intentions--if she exactly has them-- but they don't carry her that far. Although I do wonder when people don't bring this up-- after having made representations to the contrary--until they moment they're leaving-- or I bring it up. The ad-hocness of her reasons bothers me. Most people try to make it some obscure necessity, or some compelling out-of-their control force.
>
> Either way, it's so the opposite of the way I am-- that I never quite believe that people are being calculating, or not doing their utmost to meet their commitment. But it is really obvious that they see me as pretty expendable, not in a mean way, just in a zero-sum way, where they're more determined (in a probably very good way) to be one, despite my then being zero, than I have to make it the other way around-- even if it should go the other way, for many reasons.
WHOA there!!! JOST- you are NOT expendable. You can't let this weak minded immature coworker trick you into thinking you're expendable. Perhaps this project is expendable, in her eyes, but YOU, Jost, are much more than this project. Don't talk about my friend Jost like that! You're about to hurt my feelings. And I don't think she sounds like a calculating kind of person, but that doesn't mean that her carelessness is not hurtful. I wouldn't let this unfortunate situation affect your view of who you are in the big scheme of things. After all, you only work with her maybe 3 times a week, right?
> It's no use getting mad. Or, I should say, staying mad. It doesn't work for me. It does boil up every so often, and then I squelch it. It's about me and my work-- and I guess it's hard to feel that it's that important.Well, it's important to you, if not to her. Take pride in the parts that you are responsible for. Try to find the feeling that you got when you started on the project, or when you get a special spark and meet a deadline. Try to look forward to wrapping this collaboration up and starting on something new.
> But I have to get more focussed on doing what I need to do, internally (ie working), and trying to put a little more pressure-- ie some--I mean being honest that I"m not happy, but not as if I'm mad-- that she did say she would do more, and that I expect her to do it. But if she doesn't, well, I'm disappointed. Period. Then move on.> I guess? I'm not good at this sort of thing.
me neither.
> So where are you now?
somewhere in between NYC and the North Pole. I can smell the ocean. Sending you a sea breeze (((Jost))) -ll
Posted by curtm on August 21, 2006, at 17:30:32
In reply to Monday goals (perhaps a suicide trigger*), posted by llrrrpp on August 21, 2006, at 16:56:47
That is wonderful that your hubby passed the test! (salutes) I am proud to have him as a fellow citizen! Please tell him I said that.
A crouton is not a crouton without a lollipop! You can tell him that too, but he might think I'm a little crazy.
Posted by Jost on August 22, 2006, at 16:43:16
In reply to Re: Goals for Saturday [update] and Sunday » Jost, posted by llrrrpp on August 21, 2006, at 17:08:47
Thanks for your kind words, ll.
The situation is not going well. I'm really very angry about it, or will be, I'm afraid, if/when I think about it.
I'll have to post about it later, because I'm at this Vermont spot where I'm supposed to be about to do something nice.
I've been really curmudgeonly all day. Probably because I got the most frustrating email from her last night.
Also from someone else I've been trying to set things up with. Grrrwaaah.
Later tonight, I'll try to get my thoughts about it together.
I greatly appreciate your wafting a sea breeze my way. That must have been that great scent around here. Although Vermont is very green (I must say), every so often, there's this funny fresh salty-soury-clean-clear misty smell. Wondered what it was.
bah. It does make me feel bad about myself (I mean the emails/lack of living up to promises. I probably am doing something that makes it easier, too.)
Jost
Posted by llrrrpp on August 22, 2006, at 17:45:39
In reply to Re: Goals for Saturday [update] and Sunday » llrrrpp, posted by Jost on August 22, 2006, at 16:43:16
Well, enjoy lovely green Vermont. I'm in N. England myself right now. I hope to do some woodsy camping this weekend. any recommendations?
Don't open emails from her anymore. just enjoy the deep air there. breathe.
and know that your friends on p-babble care about Jost and don't think bad things of you at all.
you sound like you're suffering from vitamin Schoko deficiency. (((((((Jost))))))))
-ll
Posted by llrrrpp on August 22, 2006, at 18:00:45
In reply to Re: Goals for Saturday [update] and Sunday » llrrrpp, posted by Jost on August 22, 2006, at 16:43:16
Folks, I have turned into a lumpy pile of fuzzy cat-mind. I can only think as far as my next nap.
Cause? I left my provigil at home. Friend mailed it to me, expected arrival date is Wednesday. Pray for me.
Effect: Can't think straight. Yawning so deep it makes my knees buckle. I slept 9 hours last night, and then have napped for another 5 hours today. No memory. No work getting done. I can hardly read without passing out.
Goals:
1)to finish reading a book about eating frogs. It's about breaking the cycle of procrastination. I think I am not really up to doing the exercises, but I can at least read it, until the little white tablets arrive. "Eat frog"2)to not ruin my trip to visit husband: i.e. napping when he is at work or driving, not when we're having quality time, or when we need to be working together, (I lay on the floor in fetal position while he made dinner and cleaned up afterwards. I suck)
3)to keep my wits about me and not allow myself to succomb to stressful situations by crying, isolating, and depressing myself. to avoid the thought patterns of self-hate that come up so naturally when I am not getting ANY work done, and not helping out around the house at all.
4)to eat ice cream and play with my cat. I have taken a nap with her this afternoon. It was so sweet (((my cat)))
5)oh. i forgot already. yes!! I remembered- NOT to post on admin until the month of September begins. it's getting heated over there, and that kind of stress is just what I DONT need. deputies, you're doing a great job keeping up. Where's Dr. Bob? You guys have been putting in over-time in an all out assault on the admin board. I'm impressed by all babblers who can visit and spread cheer, rather than animosity.
6)wear clothes that don't look as sleepy as I feel.
-ll
Posted by llrrrpp on August 25, 2006, at 8:17:11
In reply to Goals for Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday, posted by llrrrpp on August 22, 2006, at 18:00:45
Here are the written goals:
Get iced coffee
find a campground
check the weather this weekend
fix kernel panic in iMac
code 1 DVD
look @ data from analyst
clean the desk
enroll in dental plan
chat with crouton
babble-break
check emailpack camping stuff and overnight bag, incl bikes and helmets
prepare directions
pack DVD machine and headphones and DVDsHere's my progress
fix kernel panic- attempted to reboot using powermac and iMac linked in firewire mode- to enable me to see whether a file has gotten misplaced, and correct permissions, etc. NO such luck. Next, ran Apple Hardware test. No problems detected. Darwin Kernel 8.7.0 ...panic: We are hanging here.Hello, ME TOO. I'm about to start crying again. dammit. I don't know how transferring my music library and the printer drivers to the iMac could have caused a kernel panic. GRRR!!! I wish the iMac had OSX 10.4 Tiger. It's on OSX 10.3 Panther. Hold on! I had a dream about a black panther 2 nights ago. It was sleek, and very domesticated. It was exactly like a sweet housecat, only larger and baritone.
Cleaned the desk. Now it's organized. I still cannot think, however. F*ck.
Checked my e-mail. yep. No more nasties from the coworkers trying to ostracize the one chick for being different. The one chick called me last week, and was VERY upset. I soothed her somewhat uncollected, disorganized emotions. Tried to get her to see things from an American Perspective. She's E. Asian. Poor thing doesn't even know that people are setting her up. Taking advantage of her manners and naivete.
Babble-break. Currently in progress.
Mental health goals- See the abyss? it's in front of me. I'm headed for it. I fee kind of out of control of my own feelings. Reacting too strongly to silly things like TV and books. Triggered too easily. Angered too easily. Have the tightness in my chest that signals anxiety. GOAL. Take a left turn (sinestre) and find an oasis of date palms just west of the abyss. Eat real meals, not just impulsive snacks. Get some nutrients. Relax my furrowed brow. Smile at the lady when I go get my iced coffee (presently). Do some real work, not this pseudo-work that is causing an otherwise healthy computer to go into kernel panic. WHY? I have no idea why the damn thing is in kernel panic. I didn't do anything wrong. Just followed the freakin' directions.
still reading? still convinced I have a lovely temperament? I wish I could temper my temperament. Like chocolate. Heat it up, then bring it down to a cozy 85 degrees and hold it there in uncrystallized idyll indefinitely.
I know why the kernel panic is wigging me out. It's because *I* have to fix it before I leave this place in 4 days. Husband is useless, and I have completely botched what was to be a "repair" haha.
Signing off to go get the world's best iced coffee. Can't tell you where. It would disclose my location. Lemme just say that nearby there is a road where Dunkin Donuts is right next to Tim Horton's is right next to Starbucks. And it's at NONE of those places. Rather, it's in a cute indie cafe with a hewed stone counter. If they're out of iced coffee, I might just apply said counter to my temple. oh yes.
T? pdoc? you guys listening? Got some suggestions for me so that have a kernel panic: We are hanging here.
Posted by Jost on August 25, 2006, at 12:16:11
In reply to Re: Goals for Friday: Kernel Panic » llrrrpp, posted by llrrrpp on August 25, 2006, at 8:17:11
Good Ll,you do h ave lovely temperament. sorry about kernel panic. just try not to catch that from computer. (I never have heard of kernel panic, but it sounds bad.)
Okay, so let' s see, you're in NE, near ocean, with place that has Tim Horton's, a Starbucks, and a Dunkin Donuts, at a corner of some sort. And an indie coffee house. That narrows it down quite a bit.
Ech. SigO just got back from whatever SigO was doing and therefore it is now Time to Do Whatever "We" were going to do. Seems we were not going to write on babble. We were going to go on hike that We really want to go on. (SigO does not have the word I in vocabulary. Likes We.) And it is time to "get the day going"-- apparently day is not going, if I am on babble.
SigO seems determined. Does not like continued babbling.
Will have to continue search for Ll later.
And continue pondering Ll's travails after hike has commenced and SigO is enraptured with wonders of woods, hence does not need further communion with me.
You'll set that computer straight soon, Ll. Did you have your Vitamin S today? Or that new Vitamin VanillaIcing? Or Eis?
SigO has started reading New York Times. This is a Test. I now have the chance to redeem self--or prove completely obstinate and unmanageable, If I get up now and start to get day underway before new intervention on his part necessary.
Better get up. Consequences could be unfortunate if I don't.
See you later.
Jost
Posted by llrrrpp on August 25, 2006, at 13:07:09
In reply to Re: Goals for Friday: Kernel Panic » llrrrpp, posted by Jost on August 25, 2006, at 12:16:11
> Good Ll,you do h ave lovely temperament. sorry about kernel panic. just try not to catch that from computer. (I never have heard of kernel panic, but it sounds bad.)
It's where the computer doesn't recognize that it has an operating system.
> Okay, so let' s see, you're in NE, near ocean, with place that has Tim Horton's, a Starbucks, and a Dunkin Donuts, at a corner of some sort. And an indie coffee house. That narrows it down quite a bit.
haha! or maybe I was just lying...
> Ech. SigO just got back from whatever SigO was doing and therefore it is now Time to Do Whatever "We" were going to do. Seems we were not going to write on babble. We were going to go on hike that We really want to go on. (SigO does not have the word I in vocabulary. Likes We.) And it is time to "get the day going"-- apparently day is not going, if I am on babble.
haha. My husband likes to say- Hey, when are you gonna be done talking to your psycho friends? I'm hungry/bored/in a hurry/
> SigO seems determined. Does not like continued babbling.
what IS it with those people!?!
> Will have to continue search for Ll later.
>
> And continue pondering Ll's travails after hike has commenced and SigO is enraptured with wonders of woods, hence does not need further communion with me.Wow, I'm happy that I enjoy some space in your neocortex. Don't ponder too hard. Don't wanna suffer a kernel panic!
> You'll set that computer straight soon, Ll. Did you have your Vitamin S today? Or that new Vitamin VanillaIcing? Or Eis?
I had an almond latte. The best iced coffee in the world cafe wasn't opened. bummer, huh? I spent some serious money at the Vitamin S. Store yesterday. I'm gonna go take a small dose right now.
> SigO has started reading New York Times. This is a Test. I now have the chance to redeem self--or prove completely obstinate and unmanageable, If I get up now and start to get day underway before new intervention on his part necessary.Ha! my husband's test is even worse. He sits in the rocking chair, about 5 feet away from the computer, and just rocks and stares out the window. New intervention alternates between some kind of provoking question, exhasperated sighs, and the piece de resistence- tickling me.
> Better get up. Consequences could be unfortunate if I don't.I got rid of husband by sending him to work today. nice, huh?
-ll
Posted by llrrrpp on August 25, 2006, at 13:08:28
In reply to Re: Goals for Friday: Kernel Panic » llrrrpp, posted by Jost on August 25, 2006, at 12:16:11
I was gonna b-mail you and disclose my secret location, but you're hiking, apparently, and don't want to be disturbed.
Posted by llrrrpp on August 26, 2006, at 17:20:36
In reply to Re: Goals for Friday: Kernel Panic » Jost, posted by llrrrpp on August 25, 2006, at 13:08:28
Goals for Saturday
Oh my GOD- could it be? a hint of? a little facial wrinkle that is the start of a smile.
Take it easy, me, because you need some alone time right now, and you're surrounded by a larger-than-life personality. Don't let the stress get to that point again. You know what I mean, at least in hindsight.
And remember the love that the cat gives you. She slept right next to you this afternoon, as you dozed off. She made your tummy warm, and absorbed your negativity, dispersing it with her purrs.
Try to enjoy a movie without being triggered. Remember to ask T how to avoid this. Something about maintaing a realistic 'distance' from events around me. This is a delicate balance, between being triggered (i.e. psychologically immersed in a traumatic scene) and tending towards dissociation, which probably landed me in the depressed abyss to start with. denial and dissociation.
My To Do List has already been satisfied, including:
sleeping
napping
eating seafood (fried clams, oh yeah!)
laundry
fixing the computer- it's better than new. I'm GOOD!
quality time with the cat
drinking the world's best iced coffee.Jost, I have taken 3 units of Vitamin S in solid form, and 150 ml of liquid Vitamin S.
I think I need to eat more protein, though. Does Lindt make protein bars? lol
-ll
Posted by llrrrpp on August 27, 2006, at 0:25:10
In reply to Goals for Saturday » llrrrpp, posted by llrrrpp on August 26, 2006, at 17:20:36
Posted by finelinebob on August 27, 2006, at 1:24:47
In reply to CALLING ALL POSTERS!! TELL US YOUR GOALS 2day! (nm), posted by llrrrpp on August 27, 2006, at 0:25:10
Wake up early, even tho its 2:20am and I have to cycle through my favorite Babble boards at least one more time.
Check to see if my company's web-based CMS is up so I can create the email that is supposed to go out today at 6pm.
Get to Meeting on time, even tho the L train isn't running due to construction.
Meet my dear friends and their two precocious boys in the middle of Grand Central Station, and take them on a tour of Lower Manhattan.
Play with Leyna, play some guitar, Babble, then sleep.
Posted by llrrrpp on August 27, 2006, at 11:44:59
In reply to Re: CALLING ALL POSTERS!! TELL US YOUR GOALS 2day!, posted by finelinebob on August 27, 2006, at 1:24:47
Goals for Sunday
1. delete repeated songs in my iTunes music library, find a few GB, and import some new songs.
2. eat some fruit
3. take my vitamins
4. polish my toenails
5. go to bed at 11:30 pm so that I can wake up at 7:30 on Monday am and get my day started with coffee and some psychobabble before work commences at 9:00 am.
6. go shopping, get something nice for myself that I will use, and that is on sale. (I never shop for myself when I'm not with my husband. I only buy groceries and pharmaceuticals, lol)
7. get my mojo back
not necessarily in that order...******************
My soundtrack today:Don Juan by R. Strauss: Berlin Phil, ideally or Wiener Phil
Sonata # 1 for Violin by C. Ives
Sym # 7 by Beethoven. Cleveland/Szell
Impromptus by F. Chopin. Barto
Posted by llrrrpp on August 27, 2006, at 11:47:15
In reply to Re: CALLING ALL POSTERS!! TELL US YOUR GOALS 2day!, posted by finelinebob on August 27, 2006, at 1:24:47
What is CMS?
It sounds like a nice busy sunday. Have fun with doggy and friends. don't work too hard!
say hi to the ceiling at Grand Central for me?
You forgot to mention taking a nice relaxing hot shower before bedtime? surely an oversight?
-ll
Posted by llrrrpp on August 27, 2006, at 11:57:19
In reply to Re: Goals for Friday: Kernel Panic » llrrrpp, posted by Jost on August 25, 2006, at 12:16:11
Jost,
your difficult non-commital coworker is avoiding duties. I bet she does this to everyone. I know I do!! I had professors breathing down my neck for a couple of years, until they gave up on my collaboration completely. Now, when I mention my progress on various long-lost projects, they seem so grateful and sweet. I guess I just like feeling needed and appreciated, rather than like a research assistant grunt. I'm NOT saying that this is how your collaborator is feeling, I'm just saying that this is one possible outcome of procrastination. I have one paper that is almost ready for publication (um, like for the last 18 months?) and another project that has been percolating for so long, neglected by me, that the data analysis technology has actually surpasses what we originally planned, and designed the study for. I don't think we've been scooped yet, but god knows what's in the pipeline. I have usually gotten around my procrastination issues by picking collaborators who are much more organized and publication-oriented than I.Jost, is this project necessary to finish immediately? Do you have a deadline? If no, can you just give your collaborator some space until she misses the project again, or are you convinced that she will drift away entirely? Would a week of giving her "space" jeopardize the entire project? My guess is that she likes the project, but is feeling guilty about her upcoming coursework, and to minimize her guilt, she'll just avoid opening your emails, or crafting an apporpriate response.
Well. hang in there. it's Sunday. go buy yourself a bagel. mmm!
-ll
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