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Posted by Sonya on July 22, 2005, at 2:21:07
This belongs on Parenting board but it seems no one's ever over there. I just need to vent. My son (age 22 & living at home after college) already has a pet ball python snake and a chameleon. He now wants a sugar glider which is some kind of marsupial (sp?). My husband and I have said no until he moves into his own place. So now he's going to "punish" us by getting his 5th tattoo. He knows we are very much against getting any more but we've made it clear that it's his body and he's an adult and we certainly can't stop him from getting another tattoo if he so desires. But it is our house and we feel we need to draw the line as far as more pets. I need some perspective...am I being unreasonable? My son says he's tired of us treating him like a 16 year old.
Any advise is appreciated.
Posted by Jazzed on July 22, 2005, at 2:21:07
In reply to My son, tattoos and critters, posted by Sonya on July 20, 2005, at 15:22:12
> My son says he's tired of us treating him like a 16 year old.
>
> Any advise is appreciated.Sorry if this is blunt, but I agree wholeheartedly with your son. It's time to stop treating him like a 16 year old, and I agree wholeheartedly with you! He IS an adult, he should start acting like one! Kick his butt out of your house, he needs to grow up and get a life! You and your husband raised him, now it's time for him to move his critters and his tattooed body out of your space!
Just MHO,
Jazzy
Posted by Dinah on July 22, 2005, at 2:21:07
In reply to My son, tattoos and critters, posted by Sonya on July 20, 2005, at 15:22:12
Oooh. I'm feeling guilty. I meant to do my part to inject life in the parenting board. :(
Dr. Bob will undoubtedly redirect you there. I'll try to think of some brilliant words of wisdom (though I don't think I can top Jazzy's).
Posted by crazy teresa on July 22, 2005, at 2:21:07
In reply to My son, tattoos and critters, posted by Sonya on July 20, 2005, at 15:22:12
He can have whatever animals he wants in his own house. Tatoos aren't cheap, either. That money could go towards rent somewhere else.
As far as punishing you, he might want to rethink that tatoo. He's the one who has to live with it for the rest of his life. You might not like it, but you'll get over it eventually. It's hard to not treat him as a 16 yr. old, when he's being manipulative like my 11 yr. old...
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Posted by Sonya on July 22, 2005, at 2:21:08
In reply to Re: My son, tattoos and critters, posted by Jazzed on July 20, 2005, at 15:49:35
Thank you all for your feedback. I try very hard to treat him as an adult, but I do think he's being manipulative. But if he persists in treating my husband and I this way, I'll stick the apartment classifieds in his face.
I guess he has more maturing to do. Heck, I'm 51 and feel I have more maturing to do, too.
Posted by thuso on July 22, 2005, at 2:21:08
In reply to My son, tattoos and critters, posted by Sonya on July 20, 2005, at 15:22:12
Did he live away from you during college? If that's the case, then I can give you the perspective of a post-graduate moving back home and dealing with the same "don't treat me like I'm 16" stuff. I won't expand on that until I know if that's the circumstance.
BTW...I can completely understand your pet issues with him and think you're making the right call on that.
Posted by Sonya on July 22, 2005, at 2:21:08
In reply to Re: My son, tattoos and critters » Sonya, posted by thuso on July 20, 2005, at 21:56:50
> Did he live away from you during college?
Yes, he did.
Posted by Declan on August 10, 2005, at 15:13:44
In reply to My son, tattoos and critters, posted by Sonya on July 20, 2005, at 15:22:12
My son is 18 and when he competes his HSC I will encourage him to move out, or at least do some interesting and fun things. If he was 22 and wanting pets at home I'd be kinda frustrated. But it is harder for young people, where we live, than it was for us. Property values and rents are much higher. There should be better things to do when you are 22.
Declan
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