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Posted by saw on February 16, 2005, at 8:23:41
My 7 year old ADHD son does everything that he should .............. Eventually. I have had a chart system for him to assist him with his routine. It worked well enough but did not put the much needed element of "speed" into his routine.
5.30 am - wake up - he does not need to wake up so early but because of his dawdling ...
I usually manage to coax him out of bed by 5.40, then it is brush teeth. He will still be standing at the bathroom basis at midnight if I left him. I have to tell over and over and over to get on with it and just brush his teeth. He scratches his leg, looks at the ceiling, plays with his toothbrush, squeezes the toothpaste on the soap,get the idea?
He is supposed to be in the kitchen preparing his breakfast at 6.00am. Well, he is usually out of the bathroom by 5.55, then it takes another 15 or so minutes to get his school uniform on. Even though it is layed out the night before and even though I remove him from his room and let him get dressed in a neutral area. He used to make his own bed. Umm, no time now, mom does it. Then he must brush his hair. This morning he spent another 10 minutes putting gel in and trying to style individual strands. So breakfast happened at 6.25. We leave home at 6.40. Rush through breakfast. He must then pack his lunch and school books, close his windows and get to the car before his father has 10 fits because he is so easily distracted.Anyway, I end up getting to work feeling shell shocked and frustrated.
I don't know how to get him to speed up. He *knows* and *understands* the importance of it and he *knows* there will be no drama if he just did it the way he *knows*. Not that that helps an ADHD kid.
Thanks for letting me blab!
Sabrina
Posted by 10derHeart on February 25, 2005, at 23:41:47
In reply to ADHD morning routine driving me round the bend, posted by saw on February 16, 2005, at 8:23:41
Hi Sabrina,
Your post caught my eye as I was checking out this board for the first time. As an adult diagnosed w/ADD 3 years ago, I have a great deal of respect, empathy and interest in kids coping with it, and their wonderful parents, too. My best friends' son (age 12) was also just diagnosed, but we've known for years...
Wondered if any tidbits in this article might help. Sounds like you're doing much of this with your son already, but maybe something will jump out. I myself, LOVED the idea of making the audio tape on page 2 - check it out. I have tons of links to resources like this, but many are focused on adult ADD issues. (My *child* is 23 and has the *normal* (ha, ha - whatever) brain of the rest of the world.)
http://add.about.com/cs/forparents/a/mornings.htm
Hope this helps.
PS - When I was unmedicated and undiagnosed and lost - I WAS your son, only in adult form. I so get why he does what he does. Stuff is just so darn fascinating, and it CAN'T wait, you know!
Posted by greenhornet on April 8, 2005, at 19:54:14
In reply to ADHD morning routine driving me round the bend, posted by saw on February 16, 2005, at 8:23:41
> My 7 year old ADHD son does everything that he should .............. Eventually. I have had a chart system for him to assist him with his routine. It worked well enough but did not put the much needed element of "speed" into his routine.
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> 5.30 am - wake up - he does not need to wake up so early but because of his dawdling ...
> I usually manage to coax him out of bed by 5.40, then it is brush teeth. He will still be standing at the bathroom basis at midnight if I left him. I have to tell over and over and over to get on with it and just brush his teeth. He scratches his leg, looks at the ceiling, plays with his toothbrush, squeezes the toothpaste on the soap,get the idea?
> He is supposed to be in the kitchen preparing his breakfast at 6.00am. Well, he is usually out of the bathroom by 5.55, then it takes another 15 or so minutes to get his school uniform on. Even though it is layed out the night before and even though I remove him from his room and let him get dressed in a neutral area. He used to make his own bed. Umm, no time now, mom does it. Then he must brush his hair. This morning he spent another 10 minutes putting gel in and trying to style individual strands. So breakfast happened at 6.25. We leave home at 6.40. Rush through breakfast. He must then pack his lunch and school books, close his windows and get to the car before his father has 10 fits because he is so easily distracted.
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> Anyway, I end up getting to work feeling shell shocked and frustrated.
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> I don't know how to get him to speed up. He *knows* and *understands* the importance of it and he *knows* there will be no drama if he just did it the way he *knows*. Not that that helps an ADHD kid.
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> Thanks for letting me blab!
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> SabrinaSabrina,
Why are you putting yourself and for that matter the boy through this?? Whatever happened to "consequences" -- let him be late or miss school a few times...hopefully the school had a proper dicipline policy for such behavior.
You are doing everything for him, and he knows that you will, so why should he change? Whew, I became exausted just reading what you go through!
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