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Posted by Lou Pilder on July 2, 2013, at 12:54:41
In reply to Re: Lou's response and warning to readers » Lou Pilder, posted by Dinah on July 2, 2013, at 12:40:23
> Have you no shame?
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> Do you feel at all for the pain you caused that poster? Do you give a damn about people, or just about your mission?
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> If you think God will approve of that, well... All I can say is that we have different notions of God.
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> I want to feel positively about you, Lou. I was long a strong supporter of you. But you are hurting people. I don't have positive feelings about those who are hurting others.Friends,
The shame here is the preventing of me to post fro a Jewish perspective that IMHHHHHO could saver the lives of people and their children that they are trying to decide as to drug them or not in collaboration with a psychiatrist. These drugs can kill the minds of children and those that give them may not know what I know that could save the child's life. I am prohibited to post that here and people then could become uninformed by not knowing what I know. And it is so easy to persude the uninformed.
Parents. look what is being attempted to do to me here. Those that want to stuff my mouth to silence can attempt to engender whatever they want you to think, but it has been revealed to me as the sun comes out of the East and sets to the West, so shall those children that are killed by the drugs being promoted here see you one more time again. I am prevented from posting here what the God that I give service and worship to prescribes to those that
Posted by 10derheart on July 2, 2013, at 12:56:55
In reply to Pain isn't theoretical » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on July 2, 2013, at 12:32:17
>>The thing is that that poster does try to follow the rules. So I see it as an easy enough thing for you to give a reminder about pressuring and exaggeration. The problem is really less with the poster and more with you.
Gosh, why didn't I think of that?
That's exactly what it is.
Thank you.
Posted by Dinah on July 2, 2013, at 13:15:45
In reply to Lou's response and warning to readers-scheym, posted by Lou Pilder on July 2, 2013, at 12:54:41
I usually try to remember that it isn't really wise to ask someone who believes they are on a mission given to them by the rider on the white horse, to modify their message or have other considerations (such as compassion for a parent in pain) in mind.
And upon further reflection I have decided that I do not in any way shape or form want to know what resides in your heart. It doesn't look like very pleasant, what with the "redacted" and all.
My problem is really with Bob, not with you.
Posted by Dinah on July 2, 2013, at 13:17:07
In reply to Re: Pain isn't theoretical » Dinah, posted by 10derheart on July 2, 2013, at 12:56:55
It really is.
When Dr. Bob spoke of winning or whatever rot it was, I lost my temper.
I would always far rather see myself be a target than others.
Posted by Dinah on July 2, 2013, at 13:19:03
In reply to Lou, I spoke unwisely, posted by Dinah on July 2, 2013, at 13:15:45
It isn't wise for me to do so, because I have no power whatsoever.
I think it would be extraordinarily wise of Bob to do so. And it likely wouldn't involve blocking Lou at all, just the willingness to block if necessary.
Lou does try to follow the rules, after all, if they are being administered.
Posted by Dinah on July 2, 2013, at 13:20:08
In reply to Re: Pain isn't theoretical » Dinah, posted by 10derheart on July 2, 2013, at 12:56:55
:(
Not that it matters. It really hurts me to see others being hurt. But Dr. Bob can call it a victory, or whatever it was he said.
Posted by Dinah on July 2, 2013, at 13:20:30
In reply to Re: Pain isn't theoretical » Dinah, posted by 10derheart on July 2, 2013, at 12:56:55
Posted by 10derheart on July 2, 2013, at 13:31:10
In reply to Re: It is still somewhat theorectical, posted by Dr. Bob on July 2, 2013, at 12:13:57
Okay, so you are trying to make some analogy between a psychiatrist/patient relationship and the relationship between you as an administrator and all the posters of Babble, correct?
Since obviously you are no psychiatrist when posting here and we are definitely *not* your patients (you and I would be a poor fit, I'm afraid, and I would have to seek another provider). But I just don't get it. These boards are not the therapy space. The analogy does not work for me. And the thing is, apparently you don't believe in your own rules any more, rules that served this place well for years. IMO, Babble is utterly dysfunctional without the safety provided by you and/or deputies. This is no place for experiments or pushing people to use their precious emotional resources to fend off a drumbeat of responses telling them they are poisoning their children and that their children may become mass murderers or kill themselves. If you think otherwise, I don't know what to say.
How is this response by you helpful? It is always all so obfuscated when you do this. Can't you speak plainly? It is so very, very unhelpful in my opinion. We are not writing a book. We are not trying to think of the next clever comparison. We are not trying to see who can put the most flowery words together. We just want an open, welcome environment without put downs, accusations and insensitive rants. People *know* "real" life is not that way and they will have to cope without a pdoc or anyone else "making the problem go away." It is HARD. But do you really want them to completely have to do this here, under the strain of THIS kind of posting? Does PB have to be an exact replica of real life? I hope not. I used to come here for refuge.
You expect a mom to stay focused of her child's treatment and hearing from others with support when inundated with implications or bald-face assertions she is a drug pusher and poinsoner, who is in concert with pdocs in possibly killing her child? If so, I guess this "dialog" (ha!) is over since that is incomprehensible.
Lou posts more and more accusations, in clear violation of the most basic of your rules from the beginning, and yet on you go, oblivious to being accused personally of all kinds of things that are profoundly uncivil, and allowing your former deputies and more importantly, innocent, vulnerable posters to be accused of hatred...and not just some general, overall hatred, or even hatred of him, but of hatred of JEWS (absurd and utterly unfounded), racism, child abuse and neglect, and so much more I cannot recall.
YOU CAN'T RELY ON POSTERS TO MANAGE THIS. YOU are the administrator. You set up civility rules, and those very parameters drew some of us here, or at least kept us long term because of the prohibitions on bullying and the safety aspect. Now, you seem to want a jungle. What options do we have in this environment? Even ignoring and silence has no effect. The abusive writing still appears, again and again and again and again....
^&**&^%^%&!!!!
I would appreciate it if you would not change my subject lines, either. I get more than enough of this here. You can state your thoughts in the body of the post, can't you?
Posted by Dinah on July 2, 2013, at 13:37:22
In reply to Re: It has gone far beyond theoretical now » Dr. Bob, posted by 10derheart on July 2, 2013, at 13:31:10
Amen.
(Thank you for keeping your cool far better than I did. If there's any chance whatsoever he'll understand, your way works better.)
Posted by Twinleaf on July 2, 2013, at 14:38:46
In reply to Re: It is still somewhat theorectical, posted by Dr. Bob on July 2, 2013, at 12:13:57
I do not see any winners at all in this situation. Lou, old posters, newer posters, those who do not post because of the lack of safety and Dr. Bob all appear to be losing something which once meant a lot.
PBCs will probably not alter this situation too much, but they will provide a way to reassertion the values and ethical standards of this site, and can eventually be backed up with short blocks if necessary. That is really needed now. It's just a mess the way it is.
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 2, 2013, at 15:11:39
In reply to Re: It is still somewhat theorectical » Dr. Bob, posted by Twinleaf on July 2, 2013, at 14:38:46
> What win was that? I don't really see a win.
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> Dinah> I do not see any winners at all in this situation.
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> TwinleafAm I the only one who sees it?
Bob
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 2, 2013, at 16:09:16
In reply to Re: It has gone far beyond theoretical now » Dr. Bob, posted by 10derheart on July 2, 2013, at 13:31:10
> Okay, so you are trying to make some analogy between a psychiatrist/patient relationship and the relationship between you as an administrator and all the posters of Babble, correct?
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> I just don't get it. ... The analogy does not work for me.> How is this response by you helpful? It is always all so obfuscated when you do this. Can't you speak plainly? It is so very, very unhelpful in my opinion. ... We just want an open, welcome environment without put downs, accusations and insensitive rants. People *know* "real" life is not that way and they will have to cope without a pdoc or anyone else "making the problem go away." It is HARD. But do you really want them to completely have to do this here, under the strain of THIS kind of posting? Does PB have to be an exact replica of real life? I hope not.
That's the idea. Both are hard. If posters find they have the strength to do it here, they may find they have the strength to do it in real life.
And Babble isn't an *exact* replica. It's safer, and there's more support.
> Lou posts more and more accusations ... and yet on you go, oblivious to being accused personally of all kinds of things that are profoundly uncivil, and allowing your former deputies and more importantly, innocent, vulnerable posters to be accused of hatred
I don't read all of Lou's posts. That's one of my coping mechanisms. But if someone else thinks he's being uncivil -- and they notify me, using the notification system -- then I do read those posts.
> I used to come here for refuge.
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> You set up civility rules, and those very parameters drew some of us here, or at least kept us long term because of the prohibitions on bullying and the safety aspect.You make a good point, a refuge may help people find strength, too. Maybe Babble doesn't have to be either-or. What about a new Refuge board? Would it be enough to enforce civility the way I used to? Or would it also need to be considered uncivil, for example, to post something that might scare other posters?
> I would appreciate it if you would not change my subject lines, either. I get more than enough of this here. You can state your thoughts in the body of the post, can't you?
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> 10derheartI could. But I like having the freedom to express myself in the subject line, too.
Bob
Posted by gardenergirl on July 2, 2013, at 16:29:00
In reply to Lou's response and warning to readers-scheym, posted by Lou Pilder on July 2, 2013, at 12:54:41
You are not "prevented from posting" what you wish to say. Is someone physically restraining you? Is your Internet down? Are you being kept away from your computer against your will? No, you are not prevented from posting your perspective here. Rather, you are CHOOSING not to accept the stated consequences of violating the community guidelines. You can post whatever you wish. And the community and/or the administrator can also choose their response.
Actions have consequences. That's life. So make your choice, deal with the consequences, and for Pete's sake, please don't whine about it!
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 2, 2013, at 16:56:42
In reply to Re: Lou's response and warning to readers-scheym, posted by gardenergirl on July 2, 2013, at 16:29:00
> Mr Hsiung and his deputy are allowing defamation to be heaped upon me
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> Lou Pilder> So make your choice, deal with the consequences, and for Pete's sake, please don't whine about it!
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> gardenergirlPlease don't post anything that could lead others (including me or my deputy) to feel accused or put down.
More information about posting policies and tips on alternative ways to express yourself, including a link to a nice post by Dinah on I-statements, are in the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#enforceFollow-ups regarding these issues, as well as replies to the above posts, should of course themselves be civil.
Thanks,
Bob
Posted by Lou Pilder on July 2, 2013, at 16:59:47
In reply to Re: Lou's response and warning to readers-scheym, posted by gardenergirl on July 2, 2013, at 16:29:00
> You are not "prevented from posting" what you wish to say. Is someone physically restraining you? Is your Internet down? Are you being kept away from your computer against your will? No, you are not prevented from posting your perspective here. Rather, you are CHOOSING not to accept the stated consequences of violating the community guidelines. You can post whatever you wish. And the community and/or the administrator can also choose their response.
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> Actions have consequences. That's life. So make your choice, deal with the consequences, and for Pete's sake, please don't whine about it!Friends,
"Prevented from posting" is part of what is in question. The whole statement involves more than that. You see I am prevented from posting as in one example, the foundation of Judaism as revealed to me, {due to the prohibitions posted to me here by Mr Hsiung}. I am prevented from posting such IF I ABIDE BY THE PROHIBITION. Sure, I could not abide by the prohibition, but it is against the rules to not abide by them. I am trying the best that I can as a human being to abide by all the prohibitions posted to me here by Mr Hsiung. And if I somehow make a mistake, I post an apology. This applies to me even if all the members are allowed to break Mr Hsiung' rules here, for I will attempt to my best to honor his wishes for Mr Hsiung states that members are to be civil at all times, even if he allows hatred toward the Jews to stand, even if he allows defamation to be posted here toward me. Even if one calls me The Prince of Death.
And you parents following this can go to the administrative board and see years of outstanding requests/notifications from me to Mr Hsiung. Years that if they were responded to, it is my great conviction that the members here that were killed by the drugs would still be alive. And how many more deaths will it take before I am allowed to be free to post from the Jewish perspective as revealed to me? And how many more years will hatred toward the Jews be allowed to stand? Allowed to stand to poison the minds of readers to hate, as they can think that hatred toward the Jews is supportive.
Allowing now members to bash me over and over now, does not annul the fact that years gone by I had tried so hard to get the requests responded to, but it was only a dream. Members posted that I have some evil scheme. There was a time when we were not so far apart. Why can't I free your doubtful minds, and melt your cold, cold hearts.
Lou
Posted by gardenergirl on July 2, 2013, at 17:10:15
In reply to Re: please be civil » Lou Pilder » gardenergirl, posted by Dr. Bob on July 2, 2013, at 16:56:42
Posted by Twinleaf on July 2, 2013, at 18:57:23
In reply to Re: please be civil » Lou Pilder » gardenergirl, posted by Dr. Bob on July 2, 2013, at 16:56:42
Posted by Emme_V2 on July 2, 2013, at 19:09:00
In reply to Re: It is still somewhat theorectical » Dr. Bob, posted by Twinleaf on July 2, 2013, at 14:38:46
A few semi-random thoughts on my part:
Internet forums are generally established for a purpose - usually sharing information and support regardless of the topic (medical, music, photography, software, whatever).
A moderator manages the forum as best they can in such a way that it achieves its stated function as smoothly as possible and keeps some reasonable degree of order.
Psychobabble is an internet forum not unlike many others in that we share information and support on a particular albeit broad topic (various aspects of management of psychiatric illnesses.) Like other forums, a sense of community can develop.
The overall goal of this forum is not to represent some real or imaginary aspect of real life, nor is it to conduct specific experiments on us, or emulate a psychiatrist/patient relationship or therapist/client relationship.
Rules exist on internet forums to help them run smoothly. The moderator generally applies those rules as needed - hopefully as consistently as they are able without being draconian.
Psychobabble is experiencing difficulties right now. Rules exist on this board that would likely help the situation were they applied.
I agree with one of the other posters that blocking should be a last resort and that doubling blocking times isn't the best approach. But issuing of PBCs and ultimately short blocks if necessary may be considered.
Posted by Emme_V2 on July 2, 2013, at 19:44:00
In reply to Re: It is gone far beyond theorectical now, Dr. Bob » Emme_V2, posted by 10derheart on July 2, 2013, at 12:52:25
> >>As Scott said, he's not here to play games. This board was not founded for the purposes of verbal hockey. I believe much of this could be alleviated if the site guidelines against exaggeration and over-generalization were applied. These guidelines already exist, they have already been enforced in the past, and they make sense.
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> So well and succinctly put it deserves to be reposted :-)
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> Bless you, Emme.
Aww....Thanks! :)
Posted by SLS on July 2, 2013, at 19:46:44
In reply to Re: please be civil » Lou Pilder » gardenergirl, posted by Dr. Bob on July 2, 2013, at 16:56:42
I, too, was hoping for a community that was exclusively self-moderating. I think it has been, for the most part, with few exceptions. Unfortunately, such exceptions, if left unchecked, can cause a forum to degenerate rather quickly. Your experiment has demonstrated this. So, now you know. You also know how resilient people can be. However, everyone has his limits - even those who would act as caretakers. I don't think that black-or-white thinking will work here. The social dynamics are too complex.
Perhaps you can "titrate" your level of intervention gradually?
- Scott
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> > Mr Hsiung and his deputy are allowing defamation to be heaped upon me
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> > Lou Pilder
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> > So make your choice, deal with the consequences, and for Pete's sake, please don't whine about it!
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> > gardenergirl
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> Please don't post anything that could lead others (including me or my deputy) to feel accused or put down.
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> More information about posting policies and tips on alternative ways to express yourself, including a link to a nice post by Dinah on I-statements, are in the FAQ:
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> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#enforce
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> Follow-ups regarding these issues, as well as replies to the above posts, should of course themselves be civil.
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> Thanks,
>
> Bob
Posted by Phillipa on July 2, 2013, at 19:49:32
In reply to Lou's reply-koldkoldhartz » gardenergirl, posted by Lou Pilder on July 2, 2013, at 16:59:47
You don't control me. Fact of life. My life that is can't speak for others
Posted by gardenergirl on July 2, 2013, at 19:52:24
In reply to Thouhgts on Moderating Internet Forums, posted by Emme_V2 on July 2, 2013, at 19:09:00
Posted by SLS on July 2, 2013, at 20:11:04
In reply to Lou's reply-koldkoldhartz » gardenergirl, posted by Lou Pilder on July 2, 2013, at 16:59:47
> Allowing now members to bash me over and over now,
How do you define the word "bashing"?
So that you may be properly understood, can you cite examples of the bashing that you feel has been directed towards you?
Can you find any references to you by name that are not examples of bashing?
- Scott
Posted by 10derheart on July 2, 2013, at 20:37:15
In reply to Re: please be civil » Lou Pilder » gardenergirl, posted by Dr. Bob on July 2, 2013, at 16:56:42
Right.
Thanks for the tiny crumb, after you had to be begged to do something.
It's funny how you either just randomly pick, or purposely pick one of the more benign accusations. This has been a pattern before. This speaks volumes after ignoring outrageous incivility about all the things I already listed for you. In fact, it confirms the priority you have about certain things being said to certain people here. Whatever.
If people in a community repeatedly notify you about the same problem, again and again, do you think you might want to read more of those posts so you could get a feel for what the hell we are trying to show you?
I don't want Lou silenced, blocked, or stifled. I *want* him to continue to speak out against psych drugs till the end of time if he likes. That's free speech. That belongs here.
I do not want Lou or anyone to NOT "scare people"....whether fear is a poster's reaction is about them, not so much Lou. It's all in the WAY IT IS PRESENTED. Do you remember not accusing, not exaggerating, and being sensitive? These were YOUR ideas, and ideals, I thought :-(
Do you not see the difference between:
"I could save you parents from giving your children poison (hint, hint, like that used by some group I can't mention anymore in history to murder Jewish children - hint, hint) and from life-ruining harm and damage that could make your children mass murderers and make them kill themselves"
AND
"I have serious and grave misgivings about psychiatric drugs. I truly believe they alter and damage the mind and are dangerous. I don't want one more person, especially children, whose brains are likely more vulnerable, to be damaged by pills when there is another way to help them. I believe, based on {Insert link to evidence here] that medications are not the way to go and I am dedicated to saving lives here...""
~~~etc. etc and however else Lou wants to express himself as long as it is not filled with:
exaggerations
jumping to conclusions
accusations
put downs
harassment and pressure
This seems incredibly simple and obvious to me.
Posted by 10derheart on July 2, 2013, at 20:39:02
In reply to expressing myself » Dr. Bob, posted by 10derheart on July 2, 2013, at 20:37:15
I do believe that *rule* left the building long ago.
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