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Posted by Zeba on September 8, 2008, at 21:30:55
In reply to Re: What is the opinion of the community on this? » Zeba, posted by Justherself54 on September 7, 2008, at 23:01:16
> Yes, this could be debated until the cows come home but I'd like to ask a couple of questions if that's OK.
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> How do you think this situation should have been handled? And how are Dr. Bob's peers going to be able to weigh in on this? Do you feel there should be some sort of sanctions against him?First of all it is a rare occurance for someone to post that they are in the process of killing themself. So, since we as posters typically have no way of knowing what this person's email address is and therefore have no way of stopping or intervening directly in stopping the suicide by, for example calling the police, then I think Dr. Bob and/or the deputies may need to intervene. At this point it is my understanding that the deputies do not have the email address of someone either. Perhaps they should if Dr. Bob is not around much which seems to be the case. I would have no idea how to intervene other than to ask if someone knows who this person is or their email address. If no one knows, then I guess the person ends up dead. I think that is a horrible thing especially if there is one person who might be able to intervene and prevent it.
This is Dr. Bob's site, and he is more than willing to intervene to stop what he would consider uncivil. The deputies are given this authority as well. So, in those rare instances as what occured recently, I am thinking there needs to be a way to find out who this person is. This can be done if one knows the person's true email address.
It just so happened that Marty had some way of knowing who this person is. I would not have had a clue in the world how to know who this person is. What if Marty had been layed up with pneumonia in the hospital and was not available, then what would have happened? We are fortunate that he was able to know or find out who this person was. He might want to share his detective work if that is what he used so that others might know for the future if need be. Hopefully it won't be needed again or for a long time.
Why am I thinking that other psychiatrists might disapprove of absolving himself from all responsibility, well it is his site. I am not saying he is the only person who should bear responsibility, but he does bear some responsibility. It is HIS site, and as I said, he is more than willing to block people who he considers uncivil.
I am and have been aware for some time, even before all this became an issue, that there are psychiatrists who disapprove of what he does and does not do here with his babble site. I would prefer not to go into detail as such things were told me in confidence, and I do not think it would be right to broadcast over the babble board and to the Internet as this is exactly what happens with our posts. They are on the Internet for all to see.
Zeba
Posted by Nadezda on September 8, 2008, at 21:40:18
In reply to Re: What is the opinion of the community on this? » Justherself54, posted by Zeba on September 8, 2008, at 21:30:55
Even if some people disapprove of what Bob does with the site, I'm not sure what that indicates. Lots of us disagree with certain policies Bob has on the site; many objections are wellthought out, and have merit, although our opinions diverge about this.
I'm not surprised that some psychiatrists or other trained mental health workers disapprove of the site. We should all be aware-- as I hope we are-- that our posts are stored somewhere. That doesn't mean, of course, that anyone will read them-- but we all should protect our own privacy--and we need to recognize the limits of any site, or place, as well.. But people in a field frequently disagree or disapprove of things that others in the field do. All mental health sites and agencies, and practitioners have flaws and limitations.
I personally find great value in this site, and feel that others do, too. While we may be frustrated or angry at times about various issues, I would hope that most of us who participate could also acknowledge a great debt to Bob for running a site with so much value-- even if it's flawed or lacking in some respects.
Nadezda
Posted by Zeba on September 8, 2008, at 21:43:03
In reply to Re: What is the opinion of the community on this?, posted by Marty on September 7, 2008, at 23:19:49
This will be my last post on this thread.
First of all I think there has been some misunderstanding of my position. So I will delininate them here.
1. I have never been in favor of eliminating posts of persons who say they are about to or are in the process of committing suicide. I think the posts should stay.
2. I believe that the boards are for helping each other. I have never suggested that only Dr. Bob could be of help to anyone.
3. I believe that suicides in process are rare on the boards here, and I do NOT think that babblers should have the only responsibilty for intervening in such cases. If you, Marty, had not known who this person is and how to find her, then I guess we would have had a successful suicide.
I am saying that Dr. Bob bears some reponsibility as it is his site, and he apparently is the only person who has access to someone's true email which then allows for finding the person. Perhaps the deputies should have access to the true emails as well. If someone where to talk about how they are suiciding on this site, then I think it would be more than unfortunate if no one could intervene, and we all had to sit by and let it happen. This is all I am saying.
I am NOT suggesting that Dr. Bob act like a psychiatrist per se. I AM saying this is his site, and as I already said, he does intervene when he thinks a post is uncivil. So, how is this that different??? What would be so awful about him or designees intervening in the situation we just had??? As I said in the previous post, what if you were laid up in the hospital with pneumonia, for example, Marty and did not know this person had even posted. Lets say you were so sick you were in a delerious fever state, what then? How would we have found out where this person is?
Perhaps there does need to be shared responsibility, but that means that there needs to be shared access to who the person might be, and my suggestion is that perhaps the deputies should have access to the real emails and have the capacity to then find the person so that someone can intervene.
Zeba
Posted by 10derHeart on September 8, 2008, at 23:18:41
In reply to Re: What is the opinion of the community on this?, posted by Marty on September 7, 2008, at 23:19:49
As a couple of people have mentioned this, I just wanted to express my opinion on deputies having email addresses and/or other personal information.
I do not want access to this information for any reason. I don't feel comfortable at all with the responsibility or the stress and issues it would inevitably bring up. It's not what I signed on for, and I would never agree to it.
When I became a deputy, it was made explicitly clear that *any and all* deputy duties were entirely voluntary. Dr. Bob has been basically true to that, although he has asked us to do more in general in recent months as his absences have increased. That is *asking* though, and we are not compelled or pressured to do anything, except perhaps by our own internal state - i.e., concern for the posters in this community, loyalty and caring for Dr. Bob, or a sense of personal responsibility about certain areas.
But I digress - strictly on the topic of suicidal posters, I do not want the information for that purpose either. I am not qualified or trained. I leave this to the professionals who have some idea how to approach these sad and stressful events. If others feel comfortable, that is wonderful, and I admire them greatly, and am so thankful they are there to try to help. I do not have the strength or confidence to do that, at least not in a venue like Babble. I *have* done it IRL, as a supervisor and friend - I won't share the details, but there were mixed outcomes. I do have personal triggers and other factors that would completely preclude me from being depended on to handle these situations as part of the deputy role here.
I would never agree to an expectation of me as a deputy to decide whether or no to call an ISP, the police or a poster. It's not something I feel capable of or frankly, interested in attempting in any way, shape or form. Dr. Bob knows this full well, and still sees me as a fit and good [or good enough - I guess] deputy. He doesn't hold this as a requirement. He understands when we don't feel up to doing the most mundane of deputy duties, for hours, days or weeks even. He generally tells us to take care of our physical and mental health first, and that we do not have to act at all, should we not be able or willing.
I do what I can to help when time is of the essence, as it clearly was this time, and I did forward some information back and forth between people. But, I can't and won't take on responsibility to the extent that it seems might be assumed, imagined or desired by the community. I am sorry if this is disappointing :-(
This is my own view - the other deputies may feel quite differently, of course.
Posted by Racer on September 9, 2008, at 0:19:03
In reply to Re: what??????, posted by 10derHeart on September 8, 2008, at 16:41:28
10derHeart and I disagree on a number of points -- which I consider a strength of the multiple deputy system -- so I'd like to add my voice to this thread.
First our biggest disagreement: I think 10der is a great deputy -- I wish I had anywhere near her ability to convey compassion, even when she's writing a PBC. She works tremendously hard for this community, and I am very grateful to her for her efforts.
Unlike 10der, I'd be willing to take more responsibility regarding suicidal posts -- and I do take a certain amount of behind-the-scenes action on them. We do not have access to email addresses -- and Zeba, I think Dinah was referring to anonymous email accounts, such as Excite or Yahoo, which can't be used to identify the user -- nor to real names nor any other identifying information. I am not in favor of giving me access to information, by the way, due to privacy issues. I think it protects the posters here that we don't have that information.
I'm not comfortable identifying what steps I have taken in these situations, but please be assured that the administration did take action.
Unfortunately, none of us thought to post anything on that thread. I chose not to, because I was afraid that the poster in question would read it and take evasive action of some sort. Nonetheless, it would have been nice if we'd let the rest of the board know that something had been done. When Dr Bob requested that someone post a note on the main thread, he was referring -- as has been mentioned before -- only to the notification on the main thread, NOT to taking direct action for the poster.
I hope that helps ease the fears this situation brought on for everyone here. Even if we don't always communicate it here, we do act to the best of our ability on issues such as this one.
Posted by Phillipa on September 9, 2008, at 0:34:25
In reply to Another voice chiming in, posted by Racer on September 9, 2008, at 0:19:03
From what I understand a lot was going on behind the scenes and that is how the poster was found . I too will give no more info. But people do find ways of getting info. And thankfully a wonderful poster was present at the time. Phillipa I'm comfortable if I know an e-mail dealing with suicidal posters once I called the police In their state and action was taken and he was held for 72 hours a good outcome. Talked to his pdoc too and forwarded a bunch of the unnamed parties suicidal e-mails to him. Happy ending today he's doing very well. Love Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on September 9, 2008, at 8:08:58
In reply to deputies having information/acting, posted by 10derHeart on September 8, 2008, at 23:18:41
I've always made it clear that I feel as 10der does. It's no light matter to decide when to call the police to someone's house. I will not take on that responsibility, as I do not have the training to do it. It's a different skill set than civility rulings.
Posted by Phillipa on September 9, 2008, at 12:39:34
In reply to Re: deputies having information/acting, posted by Dinah on September 9, 2008, at 8:08:58
Dinah true yes there is extensive training but somehow I have to wonder if it was a setup to see how we as a community would react. I'm not criticizing anyone nor accusing anyone. Just have been pondering this the last few days. For me I just always liked crisis intervention in person til got sick now I couldn't do it. As a matter of me I can't be around illness anymore too many triggers for me. So I feel everyone should do what's comfortable for them and thank those you jump into action. Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on September 9, 2008, at 13:21:48
In reply to Re: deputies having information/acting » Dinah, posted by Phillipa on September 9, 2008, at 12:39:34
If you're asking if it was a setup by Dr. Bob to see how community members would react, I can assure you it was not.
People continue to overestimate Dr. Bob's involvement in Babble. He isn't involved enough at the present time to bother setting up a situation like that, even if he were so lacking in ethics to do so.
Posted by Dinah on September 9, 2008, at 13:45:16
In reply to Re: deputies having information/acting » Phillipa, posted by Dinah on September 9, 2008, at 13:21:48
Now that Ike has passed, I think I'm heading into post-evacuation reaction. I should back away from the computer for a while.
I do, however, miss Dr. Bob's presence on the board and think the board was better served when he was around enough to make moot any discussion of whether deputies should have powers that some of them don't want.
Posted by 10derHeart on September 9, 2008, at 14:31:21
In reply to Re: deputies having information/acting » Phillipa, posted by Dinah on September 9, 2008, at 13:21:48
I echo and agree with every word here, and don't believe any apologies were needed.
But I understand why you apologized. It's who you are - and it's admirable and wonderful. You take care and don't worry about Babble...
Posted by Partlycloudy on September 9, 2008, at 14:56:43
In reply to Re: deputies having information/acting » Dinah, posted by 10derHeart on September 9, 2008, at 14:31:21
I suppose I should clarify my own comments about implied responsibility and access to poster information. I was only a deputy briefly; however, I had the experience of being on chat at a time when another participant was actively suicidal. The members of the community who were also on chat at the same time expected me to take action, and told me so. I did what I could (though Dr Bob was actually not reachable at the time with the channels I had to use). Things turned out OK that time, but I was frustrated by the expectations of the community (in the chat room at that time) of me as a deputy, and my inability to have any real consequence - my deputy hat meant essentially nothing. I resigned the next day.
I haven't been quite right since then.
Posted by Marty on September 9, 2008, at 17:11:51
In reply to Re: deputies having information/acting » Dinah, posted by Phillipa on September 9, 2008, at 12:39:34
> I have to wonder if it was a setup to see how we as a community would react.
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From my point of view it's impossible for many reasons:1- A doctor would never put sufferers life in jeopardy just to see how we 'react': We ain't no lab rats.
2- The setup would include not only 1 but 2 Psychiatrist (Dr.Lassise)
3- There's no point in having a woman in a motel room somewhere with her computers and enough medication to kill herself: It wasn't just unnecessary but also what was the odd of me finding here only with her two first (and very short) posts ? The police confirmed me personally that they found her.
... you can put your mind at rest Phillipa as there isn't no conspiracy theory nescessary to explain what happened. Use "ochman's razor" theory here and you'll see what I mean.But if you really want to theorize on something more juicy that can look suspicious to someone with slight paranoia (no, not you Phil): enter "http://www.group-study.org/" in your browser and see what website is goes to.... yes, Dr-bob.org :) simple explanation .. Dr.Hsiung wrote a book called 'E-Therapy' in 2002 and the years before Dr-Bob.org was a place where him and his peers could 'study' this then kind of new phenomenon that was 'Psych Board'. This is far from being a bad thing... people who was here in those years should be glad to having contribute to this and also be glad that, at that time, it was one of the most safest and advanced forum.
Here's a free preview of about ~50% of Dr.Bob's book called E-Therapy:
http://books.google.ca/books?id=72hVVpqtcBEC&printsec=frontcover&source=gbs_summary_r&cad=0#PPP1,M1Or if you want to buy it on amazon .. "E-Therapy"
/\/\arty
Posted by Dinah on September 9, 2008, at 17:11:56
In reply to Re: deputies having information/acting, posted by Partlycloudy on September 9, 2008, at 14:56:43
Things haven't changed much in that respect. Responsibility without any meaningful power. Of course, I'd rather not have the power, or the responsibility.
It's a difficult topic. I have vague recollections of admin discussions about enabling other posters to do something. (Not the same other posters as deputies perhaps.) But that gives me a bit of pause too. It's one thing to have Dr. Bob, a professional who is presumably trained to assess risk, be able to do something that effects a poster's real life. It's something else entirely, to me, to have posters not trained in assessing risk make that decision.
I don't *think* I've ever written anything that could lead others to believe I'm in immediate jeopardy. But I do know that there have been times when there is interpretation involved. I'm not sure I'd feel entirely comfortable with fellow posters making that call.
PC, apart from the first paragraph, this isn't really intended as a reply to anything you posted.
It's just a general concern I have at anyone who isn't specifically trained having the ability to do something that would have consequences in my real life, should they interpret something as being more dangerous than it actually was.
That was always part of the "best of both worlds" of a professionally administrated mental health board. I agreed with Dr. Bob's conclusion in that article, and I don't really like that Babble no longer has the best of those worlds.
Posted by Dinah on September 9, 2008, at 17:15:21
In reply to Re: deputies having information/acting » Dinah, posted by 10derHeart on September 9, 2008, at 14:31:21
For some reason I feel more guilty criticizing Dr. Bob than I used to. Not because of Dr. Bob, so much...
Posted by Marty on September 9, 2008, at 17:20:23
In reply to Re: deputies having information/acting » Phillipa, posted by Marty on September 9, 2008, at 17:11:51
"Ockham's Razor" isn't a theory, but a principle. Sorry about that./\/\arty
Posted by Dinah on September 9, 2008, at 17:37:57
In reply to Re: deputies having information/acting, posted by Marty on September 9, 2008, at 17:20:23
I looked it up. Thanks. :)
I think it definitely applies to Dr. Bob.
Posted by 10derHeart on September 9, 2008, at 17:48:25
In reply to Re: deputies having information/acting, posted by Marty on September 9, 2008, at 17:20:23
...and I'm so glad you mentioned it! Comes in handy so often in life, and I am very fond of invoking it! I just always forget how to spell it....but I do remember the principle :-)
Thanks for everything lately, Marty.
Posted by Phillipa on September 9, 2008, at 19:31:12
In reply to Re: deputies having information/acting, posted by Marty on September 9, 2008, at 17:20:23
Marty thanks for the info and so glad the outcome was positive. Love Phillipa
Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on September 13, 2008, at 22:54:50
In reply to My apologies, posted by Dinah on September 9, 2008, at 13:45:16
NO need to apologize Dinah. I know, it is a part of your nature, but honestly, I don't think for a second an apology was needed. Like 10DER said, just look after *you* until those really big issues pass. As the song goes.."Do not let them take your Pride...".
Jay
Posted by Dr. Bob on September 14, 2008, at 16:27:47
In reply to Re: deputies having information/acting, posted by Partlycloudy on September 9, 2008, at 14:56:43
> I had the experience of being on chat at a time when another participant was actively suicidal. The members of the community who were also on chat at the same time expected me to take action, and told me so. ... Things turned out OK that time, but I was frustrated by the expectations ... of me as a deputy, and my inability to have any real consequence
That's a tough situation. Under stress, people can feel helpless and turn to an authority figure. And expect a lot from them!
Bob
Posted by stellabystarlight on September 14, 2008, at 22:25:26
In reply to Re: being expected to take action, posted by Dr. Bob on September 14, 2008, at 16:27:47
Hi Dr. Bob,
I sat out on this one, but I felt like I was watching a "war" going down here. I felt for everyone's point of view, but I was mostly worried about your feelings. I'm glad you're okay. I'd like you to know that I very much appreciate your site. The bottom line: I've learning so much about myself and therapy through this site.
Cheers,
Stellabystarlight
Posted by Dr. Bob on September 15, 2008, at 2:08:30
In reply to So Nice to see your name again on Admin! » Dr. Bob, posted by stellabystarlight on September 14, 2008, at 22:25:26
> I sat out on this one, but I felt like I was watching a "war" going down here. I felt for everyone's point of view, but I was mostly worried about your feelings. I'm glad you're okay. I'd like you to know that I very much appreciate your site. The bottom line: I've learning so much about myself and therapy through this site.
Thanks for thinking of me. And for letting the "war" work itself out. I'm glad you're learning here, the posters are great!
Bob
Posted by AbbieNormal on September 15, 2008, at 19:12:23
In reply to Re: being expected to take action, posted by Dr. Bob on September 14, 2008, at 16:27:47
"Under stress, people can feel helpless and turn to an authority figure."
Wow Bob, I'm flattered. :-)
Posted by Kattwoman on September 30, 2008, at 22:48:48
In reply to Re: being expected to take action » Dr. Bob, posted by AbbieNormal on September 15, 2008, at 19:12:23
> "Under stress, people can feel helpless and turn to an authority figure."
>
> Wow Bob, I'm flattered. :-)I was not only under stress I am ill and have done stupid things. I am alive thanks to all of you
I do not know how I stumbled upon this sight but I did. God has been with me since this happened.
The Police did nothing for all they knew I could have gone back to the begging and finished it. It was not the police
It was God
Dr Lassise IS an idiot.
I agree I have done my share of wrong but I am here to tell you he does NOT KNOW what he is doing.
I have my mind back but my heart and soul still aches
I am sorry to put all of you throught this and thank you for being the angels of the Lord
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