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Posted by Dinah on February 28, 2006, at 2:12:41
In reply to Re: Yo, Babblers, posted by Dr. Bob on February 28, 2006, at 1:52:46
But I'm left with the question...
Similar to what?
I'm not sure that LegWarmers confessed to anything but being annoyed that you didn't respond. A natural enough feeling for anyone to have, whether or not they had warm feelings or outright love. I've felt it for my cable company. Hmmm... Bad example. I have feelings of outright love for my cable service.
I'll confess to motivations similar to those of Falls. But Falls, did you tell Dr. Bob that you had warm feelings or feelings of outright love for him?
And while I have confessed to feeling quite fond of you - as indeed I am, to the extent you allow it, I'm not one whit in love with you nor do I love you for that matter. And I'm reasonably sure I don't want to be endorsing feelings of outright love for you. I suppose that fondness could be considered warm.
So I suppose it all depends on how loosely you define "similar".
Next time, could you kindly ask Dinah, Falls, and Legwarmers if it could be truthfully said that they have had similar feelings to those expressed by Deneb, and allow them (i.e. me) to either agree or disagree?
Posted by Deneb on February 28, 2006, at 8:39:13
In reply to Re: Yo, Babblers, posted by Dr. Bob on February 28, 2006, at 1:52:46
> Thanks, so at least Dinah, LegWarmers, and Falls have had similar feelings. Deneb, does that in fact help you feel less alone?
Sort of...it helps to know that you also don't reply to other people. I'm sure some people here have warm feelings for you, but by the reaction of people to this thread I think I might be alone in loving you. (Don't worry, it's not like a have a shrine for you or anything like that. LOL) It's either that or people don't want to admit to loving you.
> I'm sorry about not being able to reply promptly to everyone. Please don't take it personally. It doesn't mean you're just a drop in the bucket or I'm not interested.Thanks for saying that Dr. Bob. :-)
>I have warm feelings for everyone who posts, because everyone who posts helps the community by contributing their unique voice.
>
> BobAren't warm feelings wonderful? :-) Thanks for opening up just a little, you're the best Dr. Bob. Being an adminstrator of such a large forum must be hard at times. I'm sure lots of people appreciate the things you do for this site.
Deneb
Posted by Dinah on February 28, 2006, at 8:52:31
In reply to Re: Yo, Babblers, posted by Dr. Bob on February 28, 2006, at 1:52:46
That may have been a bit extreme.
But I didn't appreciate your turning my expressly stated "no" in a previous post into a "yes".
Posted by LegWarmers on February 28, 2006, at 9:03:43
In reply to Re: Yo, Babblers, posted by Dr. Bob on February 28, 2006, at 1:52:46
> Thanks, so at least Dinah, LegWarmers, and Falls have had similar feelings. >
uh..... What? I do not relate to those 'feelings', Im sorry, but I don't like being misrepresented. On the whole, I think you are quite on top of your emails, and I appreciate that.
Posted by LegWarmers on February 28, 2006, at 9:05:22
In reply to I'd like this thread to die a graceless death, posted by Dinah on February 28, 2006, at 2:12:41
Agreed!!
>But I'm left with the question...Similar to what?
I'm not sure that LegWarmers confessed to anything but being annoyed that you didn't respond. A natural enough feeling for anyone to have, whether or not they had warm feelings or outright love. I've felt it for my cable company. Hmmm... Bad example. I have feelings of outright love for my cable service.
I'll confess to motivations similar to those of Falls. But Falls, did you tell Dr. Bob that you had warm feelings or feelings of outright love for him?
And while I have confessed to feeling quite fond of you - as indeed I am, to the extent you allow it, I'm not one whit in love with you nor do I love you for that matter. And I'm reasonably sure I don't want to be endorsing feelings of outright love for you. I suppose that fondness could be considered warm.
So I suppose it all depends on how loosely you define "similar".
Next time, could you kindly ask Dinah, Falls, and Legwarmers if it could be truthfully said that they have had similar feelings to those expressed by Deneb, and allow them (i.e. me) to either agree or disagree?
Posted by muffled on February 28, 2006, at 13:51:09
In reply to Re: Yo, Babblers, posted by Dr. Bob on February 28, 2006, at 1:52:46
WTF are warm feelings!????????!!!!!!!!!!!!Snort.
I'm terribly depressed today, but this is way too funny.
I got no feelings today. Put em away for the day. HA.
Deneb, you sound you doing real good. Happy for ya.
Bob, you gettin' in TROUBLE!!!!!HAaaaaaaaaa!
Welcome to my world.....................
Posted by JenStar on February 28, 2006, at 22:10:35
In reply to We being scoped, all there is to it........., posted by muffled on February 24, 2006, at 22:31:03
but you can observe too, right? And I don't get how observing is the same thing as f***ing with you?
JenStar
Posted by Dr. Bob on March 1, 2006, at 1:02:37
In reply to Re: Yo, Babblers » Dr. Bob, posted by LegWarmers on February 28, 2006, at 9:03:43
> > so at least Dinah, LegWarmers, and Falls have had similar feelings.
>
> Similar to what?
>
> I'll confess to motivations similar to those of Falls.
>
> And while I have confessed to feeling quite fond of you - as indeed I am, to the extent you allow it, I'm not one whit in love with you nor do I love you for that matter. And I'm reasonably sure I don't want to be endorsing feelings of outright love for you. I suppose that fondness could be considered warm.
>
> So I suppose it all depends on how loosely you define "similar".
>
> Next time, could you kindly ask Dinah, Falls, and Legwarmers if it could be truthfully said that they have had similar feelings to those expressed by Deneb, and allow them (i.e. me) to either agree or disagree?
>
> Dinah> uh..... What? I do not relate to those 'feelings', Im sorry, but I don't like being misrepresented. On the whole, I think you are quite on top of your emails, and I appreciate that.
>
> LegWarmers> > Deneb, does that in fact help you feel less alone?
>
> Sort of...it helps to know that you also don't reply to other people. I'm sure some people here have warm feelings for you, but by the reaction of people to this thread I think I might be alone in loving you.
>
> DenebSorry, I was starting with the feeling of wanting a reply from me. It does depend on how loosely each poster defines "similar". Is there enough overlap to form a "subgroup" that can truthfully agree that they share something in common? I don't mean to put words in anyone's mouth or to push anyone to join such a subgroup. I'm just wondering if that's possible or if Deneb's alone.
Bob
Posted by fallsfall on March 1, 2006, at 7:47:36
In reply to Re: sharing something in common, posted by Dr. Bob on March 1, 2006, at 1:02:37
I'll join Deneb in the "Dr. Bob is a person who I think is important" club.
Posted by Dinah on March 1, 2006, at 10:57:04
In reply to Re: sharing something in common, posted by Dr. Bob on March 1, 2006, at 1:02:37
Posted by AuntieMel on March 1, 2006, at 12:35:51
In reply to Re: sharing something in common » Dr. Bob, posted by fallsfall on March 1, 2006, at 7:47:36
Ok, I'll admit it.
I'm madly head over heels in love. And now that KK is gone, I can have him all to myself.
So there!
Posted by Dinah on March 1, 2006, at 15:34:12
In reply to Re: Am I the only one coming clean??, posted by AuntieMel on March 1, 2006, at 12:35:51
I'm clean.
If there was ever a point where I had a bit of a crush on Dr. Bob, I really don't remember. After nearly five years of being alternately amused and thoroughly exasperated by him, I can say without fear of hiding anything from myself that I neither wait breathlessly for a response from him or have anything but the amused affection or fondness one might have for the sort of friend or uncle most of us have at some point or another, the one who's like Dr. Bob.
All I'll admit to is a lifelong tendency to want to be a Jessica to those very few authority figures who've earned my respect, especially if they're smart and/or funny or really sweet. Ever since kindergarten when the vice principal used to put me up on his desk and let me talk to him when he saw me wandering around school till all hours waiting for Mama to pick me up.
Which is, I realize, more serious a reply than you were looking for. But I was stuck in replius interruptus when Dr. Bob mortally offended me.
Posted by Dinah on March 2, 2006, at 0:16:18
In reply to Chuckle. » AuntieMel, posted by Dinah on March 1, 2006, at 15:34:12
Sometimes I really regret my obsessiveness.
Posted by Tamar on March 4, 2006, at 21:20:51
In reply to Re: Yo, Babblers, posted by Dr. Bob on February 28, 2006, at 1:52:46
Gosh… I’ve never emailed Dr Bob, but I’ve posted maybe two or three things to which he’s replied, and I’ve read various replies that Dr Bob has made to other posts.
As for feelings of outright love… yeah, I think I can admit easily enough to feelings of outright love for Dr Bob on occasion. For example, when he unblocked Larry, and when he posted to Deneb (while blocking her, I think) that it didn’t mean he didn’t like her. I thought those were brave decisions and it would have been easy for him to ignore the feelings involved in the dialogue. I’m always impressed when professional people can be confident enough to change things when it really matters.
But at the same time… it’s true that I can admit to feelings of outright love for Dr Bob. But I haven’t had much contact with him. I’ve had a great deal of contact with other people at Babble and I find it very easy to say that I love them. There are people here who have supported me when I’ve felt there was no point in continuing to live. There are people here who have babblemailed me to offer support even though we’ve had no previous contact on the boards. There are people who notice when I’m not feeling very communicative and who ask if I’m still around, and there are people who have very different perspectives from mine who have nevertheless taken the time to respond to me with their own ideas, even though they know that they’re coming from a different place.
Do I love Dr Bob? Heck yeah. Do I love other people at Babble? With all my heart.
(((((Babblers)))))
Tamar
Posted by Deneb on March 4, 2006, at 21:35:14
In reply to Re: Yo, Babblers » Dr. Bob, posted by Tamar on March 4, 2006, at 21:20:51
> Do I love Dr Bob? Heck yeah. Do I love other people at Babble? With all my heart.
>
> (((((Babblers)))))
>
> TamarMee too. :-)
I love Babblers here. I love everyone. To me, Dr. Bob is Babble and I love him and everyone here.
((((((((Tamar))))))))))
((((((((Babblers))))))))
Deneb
Posted by Tanzanite on March 5, 2006, at 12:36:23
In reply to Re: Yo, Babblers » Tamar, posted by Deneb on March 4, 2006, at 21:35:14
:) Since love comes in all different shapes and sizes just like people,there are so many ways to look at this. SO long as no harm is done, what does it hurt to love someone? So long as it is not the kind of love where you expect the other person to feel the same for you and they don't and then consequences come of it ( I see no harm in loving other people)
HUGS to all
Tanzanite
Posted by Dr. Bob on March 6, 2006, at 3:27:41
In reply to Re: Yo, Babblers » Tamar, posted by Deneb on March 4, 2006, at 21:35:14
> I'll join Deneb in the "Dr. Bob is a person who I think is important" club.
>
> fallsfall> Ok, I'll admit it.
>
> I'm madly head over heels in love. And now that KK is gone, I can have him all to myself.
>
> So there!
>
> AuntieMel> > Do I love Dr Bob? Heck yeah. Do I love other people at Babble? With all my heart.
> >
> > Tamar
>
> Mee too. :-)
>
> I love Babblers here. I love everyone. To me, Dr. Bob is Babble and I love him and everyone here.
>
> DenebSo there's a "club" here that feels they share something in common?
Bob
Posted by verne on March 6, 2006, at 10:31:03
In reply to Re: sharing something in common, posted by Dr. Bob on March 6, 2006, at 3:27:41
Dr Bob,
I'm sorry I called you "dense" a while back. I just didn't think you were a real person back then. This reminds me of the first time I saw my third grade teacher somewhere other than school. "What? She exists outside school? She's a real person that goes grocery shopping?", I thought.
Now it's as though my paradigm has shifted to include Babble, other posters, and you into my real world. Before it was like a role-playing adventure game or an internet experiment where nothing was all that real.
Lately, I'm beginning to value the site as more than just a place to compare medications. I used to think all the extra boards were unnecessary but now I see how the expanded site helps people in a real way.
I used to think this site interfered with my progress in real life but now I realize it is compatible with real life growth and health.
But I mainly just wanted to apologize for all the slights I directed towards you in the past. I know I can be mean-spirited at times (especially if drinking) but I think even that may have changed for the better - the drinking problem too.
Verne
Posted by Dr. Bob on March 6, 2006, at 13:14:56
In reply to Re: sharing something in common » Dr. Bob, posted by verne on March 6, 2006, at 10:31:03
Posted by AuntieMel on March 6, 2006, at 13:48:41
In reply to Re: sharing something in common » Dr. Bob, posted by verne on March 6, 2006, at 10:31:03
Wonderful, verne.
I know you've got it in you to get a grip on your problem. I *know* it.
Seeing babble as real people is a bit step, believe it or not.
Posted by Deneb on March 6, 2006, at 14:49:07
In reply to Re: sharing something in common » Dr. Bob, posted by verne on March 6, 2006, at 10:31:03
> Dr Bob,
>
> I'm sorry I called you "dense" a while back. I just didn't think you were a real person back then.You're not alone Verne, I still have that problem even though I know that Dr. Bob is a real person and posters are real people. I know it, but I'm not sure that I really understand it completely yet.
>This reminds me of the first time I saw my third grade teacher somewhere other than school. "What? She exists outside school? She's a real person that goes grocery shopping?", I thought.
I think that's going to happen to me when I meet Dr. Bob in real life. Not too long ago I downloaded a clip of DocJohn being interviewed by CNN and I was shocked that he was a *real* person, who talked and everything! I don't know why that didn't happen to me when I saw Dr. Bob's grand rounds lecture. Maybe it was because the quality of the images was poor.
> Now it's as though my paradigm has shifted to include Babble, other posters, and you into my real world. Before it was like a role-playing adventure game or an internet experiment where nothing was all that real.
I'm thoroughly confused now because I don't know if I can tell the difference between the role-playing game and real life anymore! I mean, I know you guys are real, but I don't know if I really *know* that, you know? LOL that's a lot of knows.
> But I mainly just wanted to apologize for all the slights I directed towards you in the past.
You're not the only one who has done that. I did that a while back in not so subtle ways. (I even called Dr. Bob a bad name!) I'm really sorry about that. Good golly, it's like I either hate him or love him. Isn't there an inbetween? LOL
(I don't think I really truly hated Dr. Bob, I think I was having some sort of transference thing going on, I think I actually loved him then too, but couldn't come to grips to some things yet.)
Deneb
Posted by Deneb on March 6, 2006, at 14:58:41
In reply to Role playing games and real life » verne, posted by Deneb on March 6, 2006, at 14:49:07
Just in case people think I'm playing a role-playing game or think I'm in a role-playing game, I'm not and I don't.
I suppose what I really meant to say was that this cyberworld doesn't feel quite like the real world, if you know what I mean. It's not unlike a role-playing game in many ways. I find that different parts of myself are expressed online that I suppress in real life. Also, we use different names and can change our names.
I tend to get really into role-playing games, but I know this is not a game.
Deneb*
Posted by Tamar on March 11, 2006, at 19:34:45
In reply to Re: Role playing games and real life, posted by Deneb on March 6, 2006, at 14:58:41
I remember that people here have saved my life. More than once.
The idea that people who have never met me might care about me is both humbling and exciting.
I don't doubt the reality of the relationships I'm involved in here, even though I don't use my real name and even though I express things here that I hide in "real life".
I don't doubt that people who express concern for me really mean it. They aren't just playing a role.
I like that. It gives me a sense of security that I don't often find elsewhere.
(((((Babblers)))))
Tamar
Posted by fallsfall on March 12, 2006, at 10:30:40
In reply to When I wonder whether people here are real..., posted by Tamar on March 11, 2006, at 19:34:45
Posted by Declan on March 20, 2006, at 16:14:31
In reply to Re: sharing something in common » Dr. Bob, posted by verne on March 6, 2006, at 10:31:03
I think we're all very important to each other, and that might have its downside where we get upset, but there is a lot of warmth that we feel toward each other, most of the time. This is real enough for me. I hope this isn't presumptuous.
Declan
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