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Posted by Dinah on February 23, 2006, at 9:46:01
In reply to Re: reply to me » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on February 23, 2006, at 9:41:58
Less so since I met you, I must confess. I'm sure there's a psychological reason for that. It of course wasn't that you aren't as smart and funny and fascinating in person. :)
Maybe it's that you talk in complete sentences in person.
Posted by LegWarmers on February 23, 2006, at 14:47:55
In reply to Re: Haven't heard back from my email? » LegWarmers, posted by Deneb on February 22, 2006, at 22:30:36
> :-( So he won't communicate with me off boards at all? I don't really expect him to answer. I don't know why I keep sending him stuff. Right now I'm attempting to blog most of the stuff I send.I honestly dont knwo anything for sure, but that would be my guess, and Ive been known to wrong before ; )
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> > when I block someone from my email... it still comes through, just not to my inbox, it goes to delete automaticly. But maybe it bounces back too. I dont know.
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> Does anyone know?
>i was curious and I checked this with my account, it does not bounce back, it goes directly to trach so only if I were to go through my trach would I see it, and I got nothing sent to my other account to indicate that the email had been blocked, unfortunaly in doing this LOL i accidently blocked a friedn of mines email *sigh* now I need to figure out how to reverse it, its not as straight forward as blocking... so if anyone knows.....
> Yeah, maybe I want to go to prison to escape life.
and I dont think you mean prson life, but you mean escape what you have to do, thats not uncommon.
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> > If he hasnt done it yet, I think its unlikely.
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> GG told me she doesn't think Dr. Bob will have me arrested for harassment.I think gg is probly right
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> OK, I won't make threats here anymore. Sorry I kept making threats.I thinkk you need to try and put yourself on the recieving end, say I were to send you emails telling you horrible things? How would you feel, or react? For the people hearing it, it is not easy to take, they can't do anything for you... you know? try to imagine what it would be like to hear some of the things you have emailed or posted from someone else. And Deneb this is not a critism, I am trying to help you understand how other might see you. And then you usually add, that you were not serious. That makes it even harder to folllow.
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> You mean like if act on my threats and there was an investigation, he could get into trouble? I don't want Dr. Bob to get into trouble.Its more complicated, maybe you could look up threats and responsibility of others in certain professions and liabilty
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> Yeah, I still have them.
>I hope you show your pdoc, she is the best person to help you with understnding and trying to stop this.
> Thanks for responding to this thread LegWarmers.
> (eek, when I wrote the above sentence, I wrote "threat" instead of "thread". Ya think that means something?); ) you have threats on your brain... gotta direct your energy into other things....astrology? school? anything
and no worries, I am hoping you talk to your pdoc about this.
take care
Posted by LegWarmers on February 23, 2006, at 14:49:34
In reply to Re: reply to me, posted by Dr. Bob on February 23, 2006, at 8:17:11
> > I must admit the main purpose of the admin questions were to try to get him to reply to me.
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> Thanks for being open about that. I wonder if you're the only one here who's wanted a reply from me. Anybody else?
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> BobI suppose it would be nice if you replied to that email I sent you, some time ago now.
Although, now Ive forgotten what it was about...
Posted by Deneb on February 23, 2006, at 19:06:17
In reply to Re: Haven't heard back from my email? » Deneb, posted by LegWarmers on February 23, 2006, at 14:47:55
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> > :-( So he won't communicate with me off boards at all? I don't really expect him to answer. I don't know why I keep sending him stuff. Right now I'm attempting to blog most of the stuff I send.
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> I honestly dont knwo anything for sure, but that would be my guess, and Ive been known to wrong before ; )Well then, that means I have to never ever get blocked again if I want to communicate with Dr. Bob. I'm never going to be uncivil again. I don't like being blocked.
> > OK, I won't make threats here anymore. Sorry I kept making threats.
>
> I thinkk you need to try and put yourself on the recieving end, say I were to send you emails telling you horrible things? How would you feel, or react?I'm not 100% sure, but I think I would be scared for you. I think I would feel helpless and worry about you. This is because I know you and you're my friend. I wouldn't want anything bad to happen to you.
If it were a stranger however, I think I wouldn't be as affected emotionally. I've been to bad newsgroups where that sort of thing happens daily. It feels different when people make threats here on Babble though, I care more.
Maybe I think that sending threats to Dr. Bob is OK because they do not affect him in any way, except by being an annoyance. I can't upset, anger or scare him with my threats so maybe that's why I send them to him. I think I like Dr. Bob because nothing fazes him.
> > You mean like if act on my threats and there was an investigation, he could get into trouble? I don't want Dr. Bob to get into trouble.
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> Its more complicated, maybe you could look up threats and responsibility of others in certain professions and liabiltyYou mean there could be liability issues because Dr. Bob is an administrator and/or a pdoc?? I somehow don't think there are any liability issues if someone on a forum carries out her/his threats. Why should there be? People are not obliged to help others right?
Hmmm...I just realized this contradicts my previous posts about telling Dr. Bob to delete my address...now that I think about it, there is no need to delete anything because no one can get in trouble if I were to act on my threats...as long as someone didn't encourage me of course.
> I hope you show your pdoc, she is the best person to help you with understnding and trying to stop this.
She already knows that I make threats via e-mail to Dr. Bob. I don't think that showing her the e-mails will tell her something she didn't know.
Deneb
Posted by Deneb on February 23, 2006, at 19:43:59
In reply to Re: Haven't heard back from my email? » LegWarmers, posted by Deneb on February 23, 2006, at 19:06:17
I hope you don't mind my platonic love for you. Sorry about the craziness.
Don't worry, I would never hug you in person (unless you also give everyone else a hug :-) )
Good golly I'm insane...LOL.
(((((Dr. Bob)))))
All is well with the world again.
Is it OK that I love Dr. Bob? Do you think he minds? Do you think it's weird? Do you think it's like loving a brick wall? LOL
Deneb
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 24, 2006, at 4:10:08
In reply to (((((((((((Dr. Bob)))))))))), posted by Deneb on February 23, 2006, at 19:43:59
> > I wonder if you're the only one here who's wanted a reply from me. Anybody else?
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> Of course, Dr. Bob. :)
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> I just have my own ways of going about it.
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> You don't mind, do you?
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> Dinah> I suppose it would be nice if you replied to that email I sent you, some time ago now.
> Although, now Ive forgotten what it was about...
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> LegWarmersI don't mind, and sorry, could you send it to me again?
Also, could you (or anybody else who wants to join in) say more about what that experience (wanting a reply from me) was like?
> Is it OK that I love Dr. Bob? Do you think he minds? Do you think it's weird? Do you think it's like loving a brick wall? LOL
>
> DenebAnd, to continue, whether warm feelings or outright love for me were involved?
Deneb, it's great that you're being so open about how you feel, but right now could you give others a chance to respond before you tell us more?
Bob
Posted by Dinah on February 24, 2006, at 9:29:39
In reply to Re: reply to me, posted by Dr. Bob on February 24, 2006, at 4:10:08
> Also, could you (or anybody else who wants to join in) say more about what that experience (wanting a reply from me) was like?
Me or Legwarmers? I wasn't sure whether you meant both of us, or just her, since you put our responses together.
And somehow right now I don't want to reply if you don't want me to.
(And yes, that was a reproval.)
Posted by LegWarmers on February 24, 2006, at 10:53:32
In reply to Re: reply to me, posted by Dr. Bob on February 24, 2006, at 4:10:08
> > > I wonder if you're the only one here who's wanted a reply from me. Anybody else?
> >
> > Of course, Dr. Bob. :)
> >
> > I just have my own ways of going about it.
> >
> > You don't mind, do you?
> >
> > Dinah
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> > I suppose it would be nice if you replied to that email I sent you, some time ago now.
> > Although, now Ive forgotten what it was about...
> >
> > LegWarmers
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> I don't mind, and sorry, could you send it to me again?
>Ill see if I can find it but I had forgotten about it until you asked.
> Also, could you (or anybody else who wants to join in) say more about what that experience (wanting a reply from me) was like?
probably similar to you waiting for a response from someone??
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> > Is it OK that I love Dr. Bob? Do you think he minds? Do you think it's weird? Do you think it's like loving a brick wall? LOL
> >
> > Deneb
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> And, to continue, whether warm feelings or outright love for me were involved?LOL Im sorry, but are you being serious?
Posted by Dinah on February 24, 2006, at 10:57:30
In reply to Re: reply to me » Dr. Bob, posted by LegWarmers on February 24, 2006, at 10:53:32
I see a forthcoming research paper. :)
Dr. Bob can be singlemindedly analytical.
Posted by Deneb on February 24, 2006, at 11:03:01
In reply to Re: reply to me, posted by Dr. Bob on February 24, 2006, at 4:10:08
> Deneb, it's great that you're being so open about how you feel, but right now could you give others a chance to respond before you tell us more?
>
> BobSure! No problem Dr. Bob. :-)
I want to hear about what other people have to say about this too.
Deneb
Posted by LegWarmers on February 24, 2006, at 11:03:11
In reply to Re: reply to me » LegWarmers, posted by Dinah on February 24, 2006, at 10:57:30
> I see a forthcoming research paper. :)
>
> Dr. Bob can be singlemindedly analytical.ahh, well that was very strange! I had to double check he had written the post!
keep me out of the researchDr. Bob, please : ) and thank you
Posted by muffled on February 24, 2006, at 13:17:47
In reply to Re: reply to me, posted by Dr. Bob on February 24, 2006, at 4:10:08
> > > I wonder if you're the only one here who's wanted a reply from me. Anybody else?
> >
> > Of course, Dr. Bob. :)
> >
> > I just have my own ways of going about it.
> >
> > You don't mind, do you?
> >
> > Dinah
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> > I suppose it would be nice if you replied to that email I sent you, some time ago now.
> > Although, now Ive forgotten what it was about...
> >
> > LegWarmers
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> I don't mind, and sorry, could you send it to me again?
>
> Also, could you (or anybody else who wants to join in) say more about what that experience (wanting a reply from me) was like?
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> > Is it OK that I love Dr. Bob? Do you think he minds? Do you think it's weird? Do you think it's like loving a brick wall? LOL
> >
> > Deneb
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> And, to continue, whether warm feelings or outright love for me were involved?
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> Deneb, it's great that you're being so open about how you feel, but right now could you give others a chance to respond before you tell us more?
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> BobNo offense intended. Just its how I feel bout things is all.
Posted by muffled on February 24, 2006, at 13:20:58
In reply to Hmmmmmmmm.Lab rats., posted by muffled on February 24, 2006, at 13:17:47
NOW I see. Hope I'm wrong.
Don't think I am.....
Posted by 10derHeart on February 24, 2006, at 15:22:30
In reply to Wondered why Dr.Bob was being so nice?Ahhh., posted by muffled on February 24, 2006, at 13:20:58
Well, muffy, I certainly see where you're coming from. This thread has turned slightly creepy for me, actually :-(
(And no, in case anyone wants to suggest it....I'm NOT going to say any more about that)
But...I believe Dr. Bob is also generally nice just for the sake of being nice, too :-)
Posted by 10derHeart on February 24, 2006, at 15:29:47
In reply to Re: reply to me » Dr. Bob, posted by Deneb on February 24, 2006, at 11:03:01
Huh.
I think that request might have made me feel at least a bit shut down, and therefore a bit put down. Your response was most understanding and graceful.
I'm sure I'm projecting, and maybe more than a little. I don't suppose I ever react well to being asked to hold my thoughts, hold my tongue, don't share more, wait to tell me the rest....even temporarily.
Interesting and triggering.
{shrug} Well, Deneb, you know you can post away and as much about these questions/feelings over on Social anyway, right? You know, just in case you do have more to say but aren't sure how long you're supposed to wait for others who may or may not add anything here :-)
Or at least, I'm assuming that would be okay.
Posted by Deneb on February 24, 2006, at 16:38:33
In reply to Re: reply to me » Deneb, posted by 10derHeart on February 24, 2006, at 15:29:47
> Huh.
>
> I think that request might have made me feel at least a bit shut down, and therefore a bit put down. Your response was most understanding and graceful.Hmmm...I didn't feel put down by the request, should I feel put down? I just thought that Dr. Bob didn't want my responses to influence what other people write. I'm happy that Dr. Bob isn't freaked out about my loving him.
I'm not creeped out about his questions. He's just curious.
I really like how he finds it interesting that I love him.
Deneb
Posted by Dinah on February 24, 2006, at 17:28:12
In reply to Re: reply to me » 10derHeart, posted by Deneb on February 24, 2006, at 16:38:33
I suspect that his interests lies more along the lines of "Transference and the on line administrator of a very large group" or "How transference affects the administration of a very large group".
I don't mind helping him out, and I don't find it creepy, but neither do I see it as anything particularly personal on his part.
Not that I have any particular insight into Dr. Bob's mind.
Posted by Dinah on February 24, 2006, at 17:29:27
In reply to Re: Wondered why Dr.Bob was being so nice?Ahhh. » muffled, posted by 10derHeart on February 24, 2006, at 15:22:30
lol. Actually, you have to admit that it's a very Dr. Bob thing to do. Only he could think to ask that question without realizing how it would sound. :)
Posted by muffled on February 24, 2006, at 22:31:03
In reply to Re: Wondered why Dr.Bob was being so nice?Ahhh. » 10derHeart, posted by Dinah on February 24, 2006, at 17:29:27
> lol. Actually, you have to admit that it's a very Dr. Bob thing to do. Only he could think to ask that question without realizing how it would sound. :)
***He's a shrink, he proly thinks about every word he says, and what body language and asffect to go along with it. Its what he does.
I think its research and I feel like a predator is scoping out his prey waiting, waiting to get the weak.
Thats what I feel like.
Nobody gonna get me. Nobody f*cks with me. Nobody.
Yeah, I gotta stop reading this sh*t.
I kinda screwed up righht now.
Ya. Sh*t.
Later
Posted by Dinah on February 25, 2006, at 10:50:29
In reply to We being scoped, all there is to it........., posted by muffled on February 24, 2006, at 22:31:03
It's not that bad, muffled. He's not putting us in a cage and performing tests. He's just observing what happens naturally and wants to understand it better.
I'm a teeny bit surprised that he's not already familiar with the transference issues, though. I know I've already completely described my issues on Psychology. :)
There are most likely lots of people that observe anything that goes on a public internet site. Other consumers, college psych students, maybe even a few therapists have the wit to try to find out what's really going on in our brains. And maybe a few people who don't like particular posters. Dr. Bob is just interested in the dynamics of groups. Maybe other people interested in the dynamics of groups watch us too.
I've got no problem helping him with that and I'm always happy to answer any questions he has or volunteer anything I might notice (globally). It's a worthy enough goal. We even talk about it on Psychology sometimes, don't we? The effect of Babble participation?
I only mentioned it this time because how he asked his question sounded a bit funny or narcissistic if one didn't keep in mind his interest in group dynamics. And I didn't want anyone to be hurt by that.
Posted by muffled on February 25, 2006, at 11:00:22
In reply to Re: We being scoped, all there is to it......... » muffled, posted by Dinah on February 25, 2006, at 10:50:29
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 26, 2006, at 3:08:17
In reply to Re: reply to me » Deneb, posted by Dinah on February 24, 2006, at 17:28:12
> > Also, could you (or anybody else who wants to join in) say more about what that experience (wanting a reply from me) was like?
>
> Me or Legwarmers? I wasn't sure whether you meant both of us, or just her, since you put our responses together.
>
> DinahAnybody who wants to join in.
> > And, to continue, whether warm feelings or outright love for me were involved?
>
> LOL Im sorry, but are you being serious?
>
> LegWarmersI was...
> I suspect that his interests lies more along the lines of "Transference and the on line administrator of a very large group" or "How transference affects the administration of a very large group".
>
> DinahNo, I just wondered if Deneb was alone or if others could join her. Which might help her feel supported. Sorry about kind of shifting gears...
Bob
Posted by Dinah on February 26, 2006, at 6:37:57
In reply to Re: support, posted by Dr. Bob on February 26, 2006, at 3:08:17
So, to be clear, you asked
> > And, to continue, whether warm feelings or outright love for me were involved?
Because you wanted to others to show her that others could join her in her feelings, and thus feel supported by other Babblers?
Hmmm....
So you want other Babblers to tell Deneb whether they've had warm feelings or outright love for you for no reason of your own, but to support her? Am I correct there?
Posted by LegWarmers on February 26, 2006, at 9:22:25
In reply to Re: support, posted by Dr. Bob on February 26, 2006, at 3:08:17
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> > > And, to continue, whether warm feelings or outright love for me were involved?
> >
> > LOL Im sorry, but are you being serious?
> >
> > LegWarmers
>
> I was...
>It just came accross, like a very.... odd request, that's all
>
> No, I just wondered if Deneb was alone or if others could join her. Which might help her feel supported. Sorry about kind of shifting gears...
ah ok, makes sense now.
Posted by fallsfall on February 26, 2006, at 10:16:00
In reply to Re: reply to me, posted by Dr. Bob on February 24, 2006, at 4:10:08
I've been honored by your responses to my emails. In a way, I think that sending an email to you is like a "Jessica" test. That if you send back a response I feel like you at least see me as an individual in the sea of Babblers.
When we were talking about me helping with technical things on the site a couple of years ago, it was disappointing to me that you took so long to reply. Rationally I knew that it was because what you needed to say would take time to put together. But I wanted you to be as excited about it as I was. You did reply, eventually, but I think I was more interested than you were.
I'm very careful to only send you emails that I think are "important". Because I want you to be motivated to pay attention to them, and see me as a helpful Babbler.
It feels like there is sibling rivalry on Babble. And one way to score points is to get an email from you.
Thanks for asking.
Falls.
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