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Posted by 64bowtie on February 23, 2005, at 11:10:27
In reply to Re: I Regret Starting This Thread..., posted by Mark H. on February 22, 2005, at 15:08:19
...thanx again. No apology necessary.
Mark,
Let's see if we can do better next time... Although my outer layers are all scorched and tattered from this affair, my inards are well intact.
I wouldn't wish this onto anyone! I am left with little or no integrity here at Babble. Its taken me 15 months to get as far as I got and now, POOF, all gone! I came to Babble in friendship and now I am leaving in flames; a mere cinder of my old self!
I would expect reasonable people to not recoil and revile me if I expressed any desire to savage and destroy any someone else. I would expect to be blocked first by those who can. Instead, here at Babble, the intended victim is blocked, allowing the savagery to continue. Hmmmmmm.....
I have to ask myself if this is an emotionally safe place to be. ...and, in my case as the intended victim, is it a wise business decision to stay here and just ignore the details?
I continue to seek those who are themselves seeking wellness (above all the clamor). If that appeals to you, please share how you go about it.
Rod
Posted by 64bowtie on February 23, 2005, at 11:22:23
All,
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20050219/msgs/462231.html
I said, ...reasonable people [NOT] recoil and revile me...
That's a mistake...
I meant to say that, ...I expect that reasonable people [WOULD] recoil and revile me if I expressed desires to saveg and destroy someone...
Now, please reread the post with this change!
Its not a change of heart! Its a change of typing!!! I don't do good typing yet!
Rod
Posted by AuntieMel on February 23, 2005, at 13:43:45
In reply to Re: I Regret Starting This Thread... » Mark H., posted by 64bowtie on February 23, 2005, at 11:10:27
How about if we all move on? I wouldn't worry about integrity, you know - people *do* tend to forget if we let them.
Glad to have you back.
Posted by TamaraJ on February 23, 2005, at 13:50:35
In reply to Re: new day, new chapter » 64bowtie, posted by AuntieMel on February 23, 2005, at 13:43:45
The U.N. could use someone like you, or a prototype of you!
Posted by AuntieMel on February 23, 2005, at 15:15:11
In reply to AuntieMel - you are a blessing! » AuntieMel, posted by TamaraJ on February 23, 2005, at 13:50:35
That's so kind of you. It's just that I find very few things to be black and white. Sometimes that can be a curse.
Posted by Broken on February 23, 2005, at 15:15:47
In reply to AuntieMel - you are a blessing! » AuntieMel, posted by TamaraJ on February 23, 2005, at 13:50:35
I believe I stated the exact same thing to Auntie just a few days ago. It takes a special person to have that quality.
Posted by Dinah on February 23, 2005, at 16:46:58
In reply to Re: AuntieMel - you are a blessing!, posted by Broken on February 23, 2005, at 15:15:47
Posted by Dinah on February 23, 2005, at 16:57:31
In reply to Re: I Regret Starting This Thread... » Mark H., posted by 64bowtie on February 23, 2005, at 11:10:27
Your integrity is in fine shape. There's no need for you to leave. And I'm hoping we can just all put this behind us and move on (on Babble).
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 23, 2005, at 22:29:55
In reply to Re: I Regret Starting This Thread... » Mark H., posted by 64bowtie on February 23, 2005, at 11:10:27
> the intended victim is blocked, allowing the savagery to continue.
Sorry, but please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down. The time before last you were blocked for 4 weeks, so this time it's for 8.
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
Follow-ups regarding these issues, as well as replies to the above post, should of course themselves be civil.
Thanks,
Bob
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 23, 2005, at 22:34:27
In reply to Re: preliminary PBC - I'm curious » Dr. Bob, posted by AuntieMel on February 23, 2005, at 7:57:06
> How about capping the length of blocks?
>
> alexandra_kThey *are* capped now, at 52 weeks.
> Why didn't you think you could do that in this case?
>
> AuntieMelAs Dinah said:
> this was a volatile situation that you wanted put to rest.
Bob
Posted by alexandra_k on February 23, 2005, at 23:06:44
In reply to Re: preliminary PBC, posted by Dr. Bob on February 23, 2005, at 22:34:27
One year?
I didn't know that.
That is a long time.I dunno.
Posted by AuntieMel on February 24, 2005, at 8:51:53
In reply to Re: AuntieMel - you are a blessing!, posted by Broken on February 23, 2005, at 15:15:47
Writing something (when there is time to think) is buckets easier than living it real time.
Posted by alexandra_k on February 24, 2005, at 12:58:38
In reply to Re: I'm blushing guys, but, posted by AuntieMel on February 24, 2005, at 8:51:53
> Writing something (when there is time to think) is buckets easier than living it real time.
Buckets easier, it is true.
But still plenty hard enough...
Posted by Dinah on February 24, 2005, at 13:38:04
In reply to Re: I'm blushing guys, but, posted by AuntieMel on February 24, 2005, at 8:51:53
Well, the hard part is taking time to think. :)
Posted by alexandra_k on February 24, 2005, at 14:23:56
In reply to Re: I'm blushing guys, but » AuntieMel, posted by Dinah on February 24, 2005, at 13:38:04
Or just leaving it alone sometimes...
Posted by alexandra_k on February 24, 2005, at 14:26:29
In reply to Re: preliminary PBC, posted by Dr. Bob on February 23, 2005, at 22:34:27
I still think one or maybe two months is a hell of a long time.
> > How about capping the length of blocks?
> >
> > alexandra_k
>
> They *are* capped now, at 52 weeks.
Posted by mair on February 24, 2005, at 17:05:56
In reply to Re: Isn't a year a bit excessive????? » Dr. Bob, posted by alexandra_k on February 24, 2005, at 14:26:29
..Particularly since the length of the block has everything to do with the number of times you've been blocked before, and generally nothing to do with the seriousness of the offense.
Mair
Posted by gardenergirl on February 24, 2005, at 19:25:40
In reply to Of course it is » alexandra_k, posted by mair on February 24, 2005, at 17:05:56
I wonder how many people even return to Babble after a block that long. Although I suppose people could lurk until their block was up.
gg
Posted by justyourlaugh on February 24, 2005, at 22:41:15
In reply to Re: blocked for 8 weeks » 64bowtie, posted by Dr. Bob on February 23, 2005, at 22:29:55
i looked around?
64 has a right to his thoughts..
he was hurt..
why was he punished while others were not?
64 has always stated his intentions..he is here to supprot..to educate..to learn from others..
never would i believe his life experiences were tossed aside...silly but valid...why was i never blocked?
j
Posted by AuntieMel on February 25, 2005, at 10:14:17
In reply to Re: blocked for 8 weeks..really?, posted by justyourlaugh on February 24, 2005, at 22:41:15
Why don't you get blocked?
because:
You always ask questions in such a sweet way you could never be accused of being even remotely uncivil. Even when you don't agree with something you word it in such a kind way that shows *your* feelings and never says anything bad about another person.
People don't get angry with you. We all want to adopt you.
Posted by AuntieMel on February 25, 2005, at 10:31:59
In reply to Of course it is » alexandra_k, posted by mair on February 24, 2005, at 17:05:56
A while back I emailed Dr. Bob about establishing a point system for blocks so that the length of time fits the crime.
Possible things to consider would be intent - if it could be determined, past blocks, the seriousness of the offense, etc. Points would be subtracted if the uncivil post was provoked or others did the baiting first (often the case with chemist.) I'm sure there are many other things that could be added to the list.
He seemed very agreeable to considering it, but wanted a proposal first.
I've been thinking about it since, but I don't feel I'm qualified to do it all.
How about if we get together to put together a proposal??
Posted by AuntieMel on February 25, 2005, at 10:34:42
In reply to For: Mair, Dinah, Alexandra, jyl, gardenergirl, posted by AuntieMel on February 25, 2005, at 10:31:59
Posted by verne on February 25, 2005, at 10:41:51
In reply to Re: Isn't a year a bit excessive????? » Dr. Bob, posted by alexandra_k on February 24, 2005, at 14:26:29
I think anything over a week or two is excessive. By then the thread with the offending post is played out and forgotten.
Blocks of several weeks or months isn't remedial but just plain punitive. I have to think hard to remember a time when I was punished in this way - perhaps grade school, time-out in a corner. Or being put on the "closed" ward while in the hospital. But in those cases, there's forgiveness within minutes or, in the case of the psych ward, a couple weeks.
Except for this post, I'm no longer participating at this site. I'll still browse for information on meds but otherwise I'm done. I've left kindergarten for good.
Verne
Posted by AuntieMel on February 25, 2005, at 11:57:47
In reply to Re: Isn't a year a bit excessive?????, posted by verne on February 25, 2005, at 10:41:51
Everything you need to learn in life comes from kindergarden.
Posted by alexandra_k on February 25, 2005, at 15:25:30
In reply to For: Mair, Dinah, Alexandra, jyl, gardenergirl, posted by AuntieMel on February 25, 2005, at 10:31:59
I think that if we don't like the present system then the burden is on us to suggest something better. I would be more than happy to discuss alternatives (I have been trying to get people interested in doing just that for a while now...)
One thing to bear in mind might be that the present system is relatively simple. If we want a whole bunch of factors taken into account then it could be complicating things rather a lot. Also, things like 'intent' can be hard to establish...
But yeah, I think that is a good idea.
>if the uncivil post was provoked or others did the baiting first (often the case with chemist.)
Yeah. Though, I guess that we are supposed to learn not to respond to 'baiting'..
> He seemed very agreeable to considering it, but wanted a proposal first.Hmm. IMO asking for a proposal is a good way to let the matter drop ;-) But yeah, we could take him up on that.
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