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Posted by sienna on March 26, 2003, at 0:28:57
Posted by daizy on March 26, 2003, at 8:26:29
In reply to no more of this plesae, posted by sienna on March 26, 2003, at 0:28:57
Yes Dr Bob I have to agree with Sienna, have not posted complaints before, but these days things seem to be getting a bit catty, and its just not what we're here for you know?!!
Posted by IsoM on March 26, 2003, at 10:10:20
In reply to no more of this plesae, posted by sienna on March 26, 2003, at 0:28:57
Oh, boy! This is far TOO much from ace. I thought maybe he just misunderstood jyl but this time she clearly spelled out her intentions to only want to join in the fun & this is the response she gets???
Action needed! THIS is the sort of thing I believe a moderator should step in for - not trivial infractions, but nastiness like ace's response.
Posted by beardedlady on March 26, 2003, at 10:55:16
In reply to Re: no more of this please, posted by IsoM on March 26, 2003, at 10:10:20
> Oh, boy! This is far TOO much from ace. I thought maybe he just misunderstood jyl but this time she clearly spelled out her intentions to only want to join in the fun & this is the response she gets???
...for saying so, but last time this happened with jyl and ace (last week), jyl posted something similar to "ass...uh, I mean ace." And there's another "ass" post on social about him.
I believe jyl was trying to be cute, but two wrongs and all?
Some posters are frustrating to each other, and I think, rather than having Dr. Bob blocking people who truly need help and support, those posters need to recognize it and stay away from each other--meaning don't respond to posts or responses to posts.
Yeah, I know. Easier said. But I'm sick of PBCs and blocks.
beardy
Posted by Tabitha on March 26, 2003, at 15:12:05
In reply to please forgive me..., posted by beardedlady on March 26, 2003, at 10:55:16
I enjoy jyl's posts and find her cryptic style charming. Ace doesn't. Jyl is still posting to ace after he's made it clear he's annoyed. Now they're both becoming rude to each other. Not to excuse ace's remarks, but it's time for Jyl to stop posting to him. Jyl is hurt, but ace is likely feeling harassed by her continued posts.
Posted by IsoM on March 27, 2003, at 4:25:13
In reply to please forgive me..., posted by beardedlady on March 26, 2003, at 10:55:16
Got your point, Beardy. I haven't been at the boards that much & missed the post you mentioned. Like Tabby said, some posters should ignore each other. I know I do & won't even bothering reading some posts. What one don't read can't upset one. Common sense but unfortunately, when one's depressed or ill, common sense isn't that common.
Posted by Willow on March 27, 2003, at 7:30:28
In reply to Re: please forgive me... » beardedlady, posted by IsoM on March 27, 2003, at 4:25:13
a large part of mental health deals with learning healthy social skills. I spend a large part of my time trying to teach my children to ignore remarks that they find irratating. For us that haven't learnt these skills interacting through a media like the board is good playing ground.
Whistling Willow
Posted by Tabitha on March 27, 2003, at 14:13:26
In reply to I believe ..., posted by Willow on March 27, 2003, at 7:30:28
just meant, sometimes if you're rubbing somebody the wrong way, you have to stop trying to change their mind about you, since it can get into a cycle where they'll distort everything you say more and more, it becomes an ugly spiral.
But I feel badly for Jyl, who also got accused of being 'a pervert stalker', not by ace, but hmm, I am starting to wonder... where's Bob when we need him? it's getting out of hand.
Posted by sienna on March 28, 2003, at 1:21:08
In reply to Re: please forgive me... » beardedlady, posted by IsoM on March 27, 2003, at 4:25:13
is not in the message is in the title and hard not to read those when scanning the boarsd. its obvious when there is something going on.
i dont wanna say anymore anymore anymore
Posted by Dr. Bob on March 28, 2003, at 9:40:38
In reply to Re: now I'm sorry I butted in, posted by Tabitha on March 27, 2003, at 14:13:26
> where's Bob when we need him? it's getting out of hand.
Sorry about not being here. I've gone though PB, I guess I need to take a look at PSB next, but I might not have time until later... Thanks for your patience, everyone,
Bob
Posted by Dr. Bob on March 29, 2003, at 1:53:36
In reply to no more of this plesae, posted by sienna on March 26, 2003, at 0:28:57
[Posted by lawrence S. on March 28, 2003, at 14:15:38
In reply to http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/20030325/msgs/212887.html]
> Justyourlaugh has a unique personality which I think is attributed to her high intelligence and creativity. It's understandable how someone can not get it when she just throws in a playfull comment.
Posted by Dinah on March 29, 2003, at 7:09:19
In reply to Re: where's Bob, posted by Dr. Bob on March 28, 2003, at 9:40:38
Posted by kara lynne on March 30, 2003, at 15:12:32
In reply to Re: this person is trying to annoy « lawrence S., posted by Dr. Bob on March 29, 2003, at 1:53:36
...that those of us deemed more artistic and intelligent in our fragility are granted a separate and more leniant set of guidelines...
Posted by beardedlady on March 30, 2003, at 16:36:48
In reply to I hope I'm wrong about this..., posted by kara lynne on March 30, 2003, at 15:12:32
There's usually no consistency at all. Sometimes the more fragile ones are given even less leeway. And then there are some who are allowed run amock. And some are misinterpreted but remain blocked. And some who are clearly joking are blocked. And some who are clearly not joking are ignored.
Don't bother trying to figure it out. You'll get a headache!
beardy : )>
Posted by kara lynne on March 30, 2003, at 19:03:19
In reply to I think you are. » kara lynne, posted by beardedlady on March 30, 2003, at 16:36:48
Well said, beardy. It just seemed to me that two or more people were tango-ing, if you know what I mean, and not all were treated equally. I don't feel like searching for posts to illustrate what I mean, so I'm only left with a feeling, and I do hope I'm wrong. I'm not necessarily in favor of anyone being banned or not, but I do like to see people treated equally--even unartistic, inarticulate, unpopular ones (I speak from my own fears here, I am not labeling others as such!).
Posted by kara lynne on April 3, 2003, at 14:32:24
In reply to Re: I think you are., posted by kara lynne on March 30, 2003, at 19:03:19
This is really hard because again, I don't want to get anyone in trouble, nor do I want anyone banned, but I do want to express my concern: It seems that even the one who wasn't banned here didn't see why she shouldn't have been in this case, and it makes no sense to me either. The original comments which prompted the 'uncivil' response, obviously lead someone to feel put down. I don't understand why that was never taken into consideration. I am really confused by this seemingly arbitrary criteria for banning. I know everyone is over this now, but I am talking about a principle which still vexes me.
Posted by beardedlady on April 3, 2003, at 16:07:08
In reply to Still have a problem., posted by kara lynne on April 3, 2003, at 14:32:24
Did you see my post above? There is no consistency. That's what's consistent.
beardy
Posted by kara lynne on April 3, 2003, at 16:24:24
In reply to Re: Still have a problem. » kara lynne, posted by beardedlady on April 3, 2003, at 16:07:08
I did see your post and appreciated it much. But I still would like the issue addressed--by dr.Bob if possible (naive?). The idea of playing favorites disturbs me (again, no ill-will directed at any possible favorites). You say that may not figure in--I will go back and read your post again. Thanks
Posted by Dr. Bob on April 3, 2003, at 21:00:41
In reply to Still have a problem., posted by kara lynne on April 3, 2003, at 14:32:24
> It seems that even the one who wasn't banned here didn't see why she shouldn't have been in this case, and it makes no sense to me either. The original comments which prompted the 'uncivil' response, obviously lead someone to feel put down. I don't understand why that was never taken into consideration.
1. Regarding the original comments by justyourlaugh:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/20030325/msgs/212851.html
I see your point, and should've said something, sorry.
2. Regarding the response by ace:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/20030325/msgs/212861.html
The idea is to be sensitive to the feelings of others even if one's own have been hurt. Two wrongs don't make a right.
Bob
Posted by kara lynne on April 3, 2003, at 21:38:32
In reply to Re: Still have a problem., posted by Dr. Bob on April 3, 2003, at 21:00:41
Thank you for responding Dr. Bob. Interesting, I was talking about another thread between jyl and krissy, but it also applies here. No, two wrongs definitely don't make a right, but two wrongs should be called two wrongs, not one.
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