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Posted by Miller on January 11, 2003, at 16:01:04
You are blocking so many people right now!!! I was thinking if you are taking into consideration the highly emotional posts that are being read and discussed.
The people here are very protective of each other, which is a good thing. However, some are getting blocked for doing just that - protecting their friends.
I bet one common element to all of us is the frustration of having a difficult time expressing ourselves. Otherwise, we probably wouldn't need support at all, we would know how to ask for it.
Is there any reconsiderations you can give to all of those currently "blocked"?
Sincerely,
-Miller
Posted by bluedog on January 11, 2003, at 20:54:31
In reply to Dr. Bob!!!, posted by Miller on January 11, 2003, at 16:01:04
I made a post that I regretted from the moment I hit submit on my keyboard. I broke one of my own rules and that was to never project my own insecurities onto others in public.
I was aware of kid a's history with his cleft pallet when I wrote my post but my post was merely aimed at kid a to give him something to think about. I was just hoping for a more thoughtful response from him than I actually received. Yes his reply hurt and I interpreted the subject title of the post as a subtle dig at me that he has friends here and I don't. Alii's reply also hurt me (and in Tabitha's words I am now very "leery" also on PSB) BUT it was never my intention for either kid a or alli to be blocked
I am now afraid that I have made enemies on PSB and that is a thought I cannot handle. I also cannot handle the thought that private emails are probably now being exchanged about me at this moment between the parties involved.
Alii pointed out in her post that PSB is Kid a's outlet and I can imagine that it is very hard for him and Alii to have now lost that outlet.
As the person that was actually hurt by alii and kid a's posts I would like to request that you consider lifting the blocks that you have placed on them. I think the point has been made and I was warmed by the supportive posts that I received and the confirmation that I do have friends here.
I would then very much appreciate a a thoughtful discussion on the whole issue of the posting of photos and the context in which personal photo's are posted. Alii has already posted her views on the topic but when she included my previous message she removed the links provided by myself in that message. I would very much like to know what other posters views are on this whole topic or whether I am some sort of freak for feeling the way I did about context in which kid a continued to post his pics (I would very much appreciate if this discussion can be limited to the relative safety of the ADMIN BOARD as you advised when you blocked kid a)
I would much rather have this occur than for private emails to be exchanged between blocked posters on the topic.
Thanks Dr Bob.
Posted by Dinah on January 11, 2003, at 21:10:09
In reply to Dr Bob - Re. Kid a , Alli and posting of photos, posted by bluedog on January 11, 2003, at 20:54:31
Hi Bluedog,
I understand that it must be dreadful for someone with social anxiety to imagine that people are emailing about them. My heart goes out to you there.
But rest assured that Dr. Bob doesn't make his administrative decisions on behalf of any one poster. He makes them based on his interpretations of the civility guidelines and in what he considers to be the best interest of the community.
You couldn't have gotten Dr. Bob to block alii or kid a if you asked him to, so you shouldn't feel at all responsible for his blocking them based on his interpretations of the guidelines.
It didn't have anything really to do with you, and I'm sure the majority of any emailing that is going on is about dr. bob - and he can take it. :)
Don't worry, bluedog. There's enough in life to worry about. Come on back to social and join in.
Dinah
Posted by dreamerz on January 12, 2003, at 2:38:41
In reply to Re: Dr Bob - Re. Kid a , Alli and posting of photos » bluedog, posted by Dinah on January 11, 2003, at 21:10:09
Bluedog..
Don't worry.. if it helps I rarely email anyone once on a blue moon..
Posted by Noa on January 12, 2003, at 12:40:35
In reply to Re: bluedog, posted by dreamerz on January 12, 2003, at 2:38:41
Let me second what dreamerz said--if it helps to know, I don't email anyone either--what you see is what you get.
Internet boards are so prone to occasional erruptions because of the mode of communication--it is easy to misread intentions, humor, feelings, etc. And, like Phil said on PSB, we sometimes "shoot from the hip". Sometimes it is hard to gauge how something we say will be percieved by others. But I feel Dr. Bob has taken measures to help keep the erruptions in check, so the conflict stuff is not such a prominent feature here. It just comes in cycles every once in a while.
If it helps to know, when I see people getting into such tiffs online, I, personally, don't put much energy into thinking about who was right or who was wrong. It happens. It will blow over.
But I am sorry that people do get hurt. I am sorry you are feeling hurt now. I hope you will feel comfortable participating on the boards again.
This is the end of the thread.
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