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Posted by gadchik on August 31, 2014, at 7:13:38
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies » ed_uk2010, posted by gadchik on August 31, 2014, at 7:10:35
I also notice that someone will start a thread, sev ppl will post and that person will never come back and followup their original thread starter post. Not talking about anyone in particular here.
Posted by SLS on August 31, 2014, at 9:23:51
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies, posted by gadchik on August 31, 2014, at 7:13:38
> I also notice that someone will start a thread, sev ppl will post and that person will never come back and followup their original thread starter post. Not talking about anyone in particular here.
Speaking for myself only, I often find myself without sufficient energy to post follow-ups. I do try to get back to them when I am feeling better, though. However, if I feel that too much time has passed, I assume that anything I write will no longer be relevant. And then there are the feelings of guilt for not informing people that their posts are greatly appreciated.
What a miserable experience.
- Scott
Posted by Phillipa on August 31, 2014, at 9:43:30
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies, posted by SLS on August 31, 2014, at 9:23:51
I do the best I can. Sometimes am posting on ebay item for sale and when get off off goes the computer also. Phillipa
Posted by ed_uk2010 on August 31, 2014, at 10:17:48
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies » ed_uk2010, posted by Tomatheus on August 30, 2014, at 16:25:49
> Sorry, Ed. I'll try to acknowledge all of the replies that I get in the future. I will say that I usually acknowledge all of my replies, but that I did start a recent thread where I didn't acknowledge two replies. And one of them was yours. So, I'm sorry about that, and I'll try to acknowledge each reply that I get from this point forward. I want you to know that I think you're an asset to this forum and that you provide information that I find to be trustworthy. And I have a feeling that I'm not the only one here who feels that way.
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> TomatheusThanks Tomatheus. I hadn't noticed you hadn't replied. In fact, you are one of the best people for replying!
Posted by ed_uk2010 on August 31, 2014, at 10:18:34
In reply to Re: no-reply (nm), posted by linkadge on August 30, 2014, at 15:26:17
Haha. Thanks Link!! ;)
Posted by ed_uk2010 on August 31, 2014, at 10:20:17
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies, posted by ClearSkies on August 30, 2014, at 16:54:12
> It's an issue. Makes you feel invisible, doesn't it?
Yeah. It can be. I sometimes go to considerable effort to find out information for a poster. They then reply to other people's posts and not mine. I wonder... why did I bother!
:)
Posted by ed_uk2010 on August 31, 2014, at 10:21:48
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies » ed_uk2010, posted by SLS on August 31, 2014, at 1:25:36
> > I've noticed that when I reply to people's posts, they often don't respond to my reply or provide any acknowledgement that they've even read it. It's very unrewarding. Perhaps people would get more replies on this board if they acknowledged the people who have taken the time to respond?
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> For what it's worth, Ed, whenever you come to visit, I read virtually all of your posts because I know I will learn a great deal from you regarding pharmacy, the exercising of a deliberative approach when considering various issues, and offering others caring and kindness.
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> - ScottThanks Scott, much appreciated. I try not to post something unless I think it will be useful or accurate.
Posted by ed_uk2010 on August 31, 2014, at 10:23:03
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies, posted by Phillipa on August 31, 2014, at 9:43:30
> I do the best I can. Sometimes am posting on ebay item for sale and when get off off goes the computer also. Phillipa
You always reply PJ :)
Posted by ed_uk2010 on August 31, 2014, at 10:26:58
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies » ed_uk2010, posted by gadchik on August 31, 2014, at 7:10:35
>Exactly, Ed, Ive often thought this myself. Thanks for bringing it to light. I liked to address each and every person who took the time to respond to my post.
This is what I mean. If someone takes the time to answer the poster's question, it very discouraging if the original poster doesn't respond to the reply in any way, especially if other replies have been responded to. I know people sometimes forgot to return to the board, but this doesn't account for responding to certain replies and not others.
Thanks Gadchik
Posted by ed_uk2010 on August 31, 2014, at 10:27:45
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies » gadchik, posted by ed_uk2010 on August 31, 2014, at 10:26:58
-Now feeling slightly scared that I might not have replied to someone haha-
Posted by ClearSkies on August 31, 2014, at 10:58:01
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies, posted by ed_uk2010 on August 31, 2014, at 10:27:45
> -Now feeling slightly scared that I might not have replied to someone haha-
:-)
Posted by Beckett on August 31, 2014, at 23:03:14
In reply to Not acknowledging replies, posted by ed_uk2010 on August 30, 2014, at 12:35:15
I read your posts, and I love it when you respond to one of my questions. Your observations are so astute. I often wish I could say something helpful to you. I know it's silly, but it hurts my feelings when I don't get a response. (Worse yet is starting a new thread that no one answers.) It's old school common courtesy! Internet correspondence can be quite curt and impersonal....
Posted by Dr. Bob on August 31, 2014, at 23:14:18
In reply to Not acknowledging replies, posted by ed_uk2010 on August 30, 2014, at 12:35:15
Posted by gadchik on September 1, 2014, at 8:53:27
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies, posted by Beckett on August 31, 2014, at 23:03:14
Well said, Beckett. I too get my feelings hurt when no one responds, and then I feel silly, as if Im back in school and am the unpopular one. Ya know the words to that Dan Fogelberg song?
"...Just for a moment I was back at school. And felt that old familiar pain..."
Posted by 10derheart on September 1, 2014, at 17:13:40
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies, posted by SLS on August 31, 2014, at 9:23:51
Precisely what happens to me, except for me, it's sometimes even a high energy experience, in the form of sudden ability or interest in other tasks, such as college reading or writing, occurring at the *same time* as I have recently started a thread. The problem comes in the form of high anxiety and guilt about making posts to reply to replies (and soon...) when I simply cannot cope with that along with the work I'm finally getting done - due to massive overwhelm.
I do feel worse sometimes when I read threads like this one, I must say. It's just too much pressure.
Posted by 10derheart on September 1, 2014, at 17:18:59
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies, posted by Beckett on August 31, 2014, at 23:03:14
> I read your posts, and I love it when you respond to one of my questions. Your observations are so astute. I often wish I could say something helpful to you. I know it's silly, but it hurts my feelings when I don't get a response. (Worse yet is starting a new thread that no one answers.) It's old school common courtesy! Internet correspondence can be quite curt and impersonal....
It is not silly at all.....however, I also feel hurt when I perceive insistence or pressure that I must respond, and some people over the years even have time standards. That reality makes me avoid posting much of anything for months, even years, because I cannot possibly be 100% sure I can continue with enough time and energy to make timely - or any - replies. So I'm saying the issue seems to work both ways... Does anyone understand?
Posted by gadchik on September 1, 2014, at 19:14:56
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies » Beckett, posted by 10derheart on September 1, 2014, at 17:18:59
Yes, you put that part of this in perspective for me. I hadnt thought of it like that. So, I now understand a different aspect. Thanks : )
Posted by ed_uk2010 on September 2, 2014, at 14:18:29
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies, posted by Beckett on August 31, 2014, at 23:03:14
> I read your posts, and I love it when you respond to one of my questions. Your observations are so astute. I often wish I could say something helpful to you. I know it's silly, but it hurts my feelings when I don't get a response. (Worse yet is starting a new thread that no one answers.) It's old school common courtesy! Internet correspondence can be quite curt and impersonal....
Why thank you Beckett, how kind!
Unfortunately, internet correspondence can be frankly rude at times.
Posted by ed_uk2010 on September 2, 2014, at 14:18:53
In reply to Re: like (nm) » ed_uk2010, posted by Dr. Bob on August 31, 2014, at 23:14:18
Thanks Dr. B :)
Posted by ed_uk2010 on September 2, 2014, at 14:22:41
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies » Beckett, posted by 10derheart on September 1, 2014, at 17:18:59
>Does anyone understand?
Yes, definitely. I think people often don't reply because they're busy or because they don't see the reply.
I've noticed that some people only reply to specific posters even when other people have put a lot of effort into their thread. This is what tends to get to me. I am sensitive though!
Posted by ed_uk2010 on September 2, 2014, at 14:24:38
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies » SLS, posted by 10derheart on September 1, 2014, at 17:13:40
>making posts to reply to replies (and soon...) when I simply cannot cope with that along with the work I'm finally getting done - due to massive overwhelm.
That can be a problem with personal emails too, which is part of the reason I now email much less than I did. Sending a reply leads to another email, and I don't always have enough time to reply to so many emails.
Posted by Beckett on September 2, 2014, at 23:28:05
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies » Beckett, posted by 10derheart on September 1, 2014, at 17:18:59
Hi 10der, yes I understand. My appreciation of courtesy should not be extended to obligation. Gawd no. I'm with you on that. Glad you brought it up.
Posted by 10derheart on September 3, 2014, at 0:34:46
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies » Beckett, posted by 10derheart on September 1, 2014, at 17:18:59
Posted by 10derheart on September 3, 2014, at 0:38:29
In reply to Re: Not acknowledging replies » 10derheart, posted by gadchik on September 1, 2014, at 19:14:56
...we should just all become politicians since we could clearly do a better job than the vast majority of them who cannot *possibly* put themselves in another's place or realize both "sides" of an issue can be valid and worthy!!
Posted by ed_uk2010 on September 10, 2014, at 13:20:33
In reply to thanks...mutual unerstanding. You know... » gadchik, posted by 10derheart on September 3, 2014, at 0:38:29
> ...we should just all become politicians since we could clearly do a better job than the vast majority of them who cannot *possibly* put themselves in another's place or realize both "sides" of an issue can be valid and worthy!!
Dr. B must be proud of the civility (is that a word?) shown on this thread haha :-)
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