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Posted by ian36 on April 10, 2008, at 19:57:05
I am so tired of this. Moved to a new state started a new job and I've been there two months but still uncomfortable others and worried about what they think of me to the point that I can't relax with them and chat comfortably. I obsess over what people think of me, feel as if everyone is watching me and etc. If not anxious like that I'm depressed and just feel so tired and blah. I've been on every med. Benzos make me lazy and I'm in recovery and abuse them. No ones diagnosed me as bipolar, docs said anxiety depression. Sick of it. I don't think pills make it much better, perhaps they make it worse, like the benzos where I become totally apathetic. The only medical answer might be Lamicatl because I think it evened me out but I was super foggy brained, either from the Lamical zoloft or the Lipitor which gave me amnesia. Maybe this is as good as it gets, maybe it's just attitude and the steps in AA are the answer. I am starting to think meds only make things minimally more tolerable and the changes needed to make a dysfunctional personality happy are huge and rare. Maybe this is as good as it gets...
Posted by Racer on April 10, 2008, at 20:11:16
In reply to What is wrong with me?, posted by ian36 on April 10, 2008, at 19:57:05
> I am so tired of this. Maybe this is as good as it gets, maybe it's just attitude and ... the changes needed to make a dysfunctional personality happy are huge and rare. Maybe this is as good as it gets...
Hm... That sounds a little like something familiar to me... What's that called again? Oh, yeah -- DEPRESSION! With a side helping of anxiety, of course...
(I hope you don't mind a little teasing...)
I'm quite familiar with much of what you're describing. My dx includes both depression and anxiety, and the anxiety is much, much harder to treat for me. I don't have the abuse issues with benzos, but I have a paradoxical reaction to them -- I get much more agitated, and they'll often pitch me into a full blown panic. I also have a bit of a phobia of both doctors and medications, which doesn't help matters any. And my depression often leads me into thinking that this is as good as it gets...
It's not as good as it can get. There are a lot of options out there, some behavioral, some chemical, and I know I haven't tried all of them, and doubt you have, either. I don't know what would help you, but I can tell you a little about what's helped me...
First of all, what you're describing sounds like social phobia, and having a name often helps me feel a lot less crazy. So, I'm offering my experience with being impossibly self-conscious, and feeling totally inept in social situations...
The first thing that helped me was forcing myself to interact with people. It was often hard, but it did eventually get easier. Then again, it's still hard at times. I've just asked my doctor about biofeedback as an option. I haven't heard back from him, but I'm hopeful that he'll have some good information about it. Also helpful in the behavioral arena is therapy, including group therapy. I recommend it if you haven't tried it.
As far as meds go, beta blockers can be helpful; I had the best luck with BuSpar, but a lot of people don't do well with it. Some anti-psychotics can be very helpful for people, too. Anti-depressants can help, too.
I'm afraid I have to leave, so can't write anymore. I hope what I had time for was helpful to you.
And welcome to Babble!
Posted by ian36 on April 10, 2008, at 20:32:38
In reply to Re: What is wrong with me? » ian36, posted by Racer on April 10, 2008, at 20:11:16
Thank you
Posted by bulldog2 on April 10, 2008, at 21:12:04
In reply to What is wrong with me?, posted by ian36 on April 10, 2008, at 19:57:05
I think you have to be patient with meds..From what I've read if one is patient enough and willing to try different meds and combos there's a good chance this thing can be beat. Pushing through all the possibilites can be frustrating at times. Also look at diet, exercise and lifestyle and get yourself as healthy as you can get. Good luck.
Posted by Phillipa on April 10, 2008, at 21:33:08
In reply to Re: What is wrong with me?, posted by bulldog2 on April 10, 2008, at 21:12:04
Footman need a backrub and foot massage. But seriously I feel theraphy is also very helpful. Phillipa
Posted by undopaminergic on April 11, 2008, at 7:01:35
In reply to What is wrong with me?, posted by ian36 on April 10, 2008, at 19:57:05
> I am so tired of this. Moved to a new state started a new job and I've been there two months but still uncomfortable others and worried about what they think of me to the point that I can't relax with them and chat comfortably. I obsess over what people think of me, feel as if everyone is watching me and etc. If not anxious like that I'm depressed and just feel so tired and blah.
>I'd recommend trying out some stimulants first, especially for reducing the fatigue and boosting self-confidence, and hence reducing worrying about what people think. You may also find that stimulants reduce the Lamictal-induced fogginess, or the sedative effects of other antidepressants.
Posted by bulldog2 on April 11, 2008, at 20:55:08
In reply to Re: What is wrong with me? » bulldog2, posted by Phillipa on April 10, 2008, at 21:33:08
> Footman need a backrub and foot massage. But seriously I feel theraphy is also very helpful. Phillipa
You shall have your backrub and foot massage with kisses on your feet..I am your footman
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