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Posted by Deneb on December 4, 2006, at 16:07:09
In reply to pseudoname (trigger), posted by Dr. Bob on December 4, 2006, at 4:50:30
I can't believe it.
I met him in Toronto. Now he's gone? I had dinner and breakfast with him and others. It was fun. Now he's dead? I just can't believe this.
I never knew anyone who took their own life.
This makes me think of my own mortality. What if I kill myself too? It's possible, isn't it? I think I'll get my pdoc to tell Babble if that happens. My parents don't know how to use a computer.
I remember what he looked like. I asked him if I could take his picture and he said he would rather I not. I remember him telling his border crossing story, of how he told the customs officer(s) that he was meeting internet friends and of how they got suspicious of him when he told them that.
Pseudoname looked forward to the APA presentation. He even got registered before any of us others had. I think he also had a lot of fun with the drug exhibits. I remember he said people there thought he was a pdoc and so he went along with it.
((((((((((((((((((pseudoname)))))))))))))))))))) You were a kind gentle person.
I wish you weren't dead. :-( Now I'll never see you again.
Deneb*
Posted by Dinah on December 4, 2006, at 17:15:12
In reply to pseudoname (trigger), posted by Dr. Bob on December 4, 2006, at 4:50:30
Oh, I am so sorry to hear this. I had always enjoyed our discussions on Psychology and wished he would post more often about ACT.
And I remember how excited he was about Toronto, and how he seemed to enjoy it so.
It's such a very sad loss.
Posted by Fallsfall on December 4, 2006, at 17:26:55
In reply to Re: pseudoname (trigger), posted by Dinah on December 4, 2006, at 17:15:12
I enjoyed meeting Pseudoname in Toronto.
I will miss him.
Posted by tensor on December 4, 2006, at 17:29:18
In reply to Re: pseudoname (trigger), posted by Dinah on December 4, 2006, at 17:15:12
"Maybe one day we'll wake up and this will
all just be a dream..." -Eminem
Posted by madeline on December 4, 2006, at 17:45:17
In reply to pseudoname (trigger), posted by Dr. Bob on December 4, 2006, at 4:50:30
It makes me so sad to think how the best of medicine, therapy failed him so completely.
He wasn't the first and he won't be the last.
But for right now, he is the most important.
Rest well pseudoname, your work here is done.
Ours is just beginning.
Posted by Crazy Horse on December 4, 2006, at 19:34:49
In reply to pseudoname (trigger), posted by Dr. Bob on December 4, 2006, at 4:50:30
I'm so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with the family.
-Monte
Posted by 10derHeart on December 4, 2006, at 19:39:01
In reply to Re: pseudoname (trigger), posted by Phillipa on December 4, 2006, at 11:40:31
I just found out.
I'm so sorry and sad.
PN, you were the sweetest, kindest person. I am honored I was able to meet you in person.
I'm too shocked to say more now. My deepest sympathy to family and friends.
You mattered XXXXX, you really did.
Posted by adrift on December 5, 2006, at 0:23:40
In reply to pseudoname (trigger), posted by Dr. Bob on December 4, 2006, at 4:50:30
This is so very sad, my thoughts are with his family.
Posted by ClearSkies on December 5, 2006, at 10:58:20
In reply to pseudoname (trigger), posted by Dr. Bob on December 4, 2006, at 4:50:30
So very sad. I appreciated Pseudoname's contributions. I'll always wonder if we could have helped him.
good bye, friend.
Posted by Declan on December 5, 2006, at 15:34:45
In reply to Re: pseudoname (trigger), posted by ClearSkies on December 5, 2006, at 10:58:20
Somethings about ourselves we never realise.
Pseudoname was gracious in such an unusual way.
It might well have meant little to him to know that I think this, but now I wish I had told him.
Posted by dreamboat_annie on December 5, 2006, at 18:49:41
In reply to Re: pseudoname (trigger), posted by ed_uk on December 4, 2006, at 15:07:53
I am saddened to hear of pseudoname's passing. I read his posts and he seemed like a kind, gentle soul with an abundance of compassion. May he rest in peace. My sincere condolences go out to his family and friends.
Posted by dreamboat_annie on December 5, 2006, at 18:55:22
In reply to Re: pseudoname (trigger), posted by ClearSkies on December 5, 2006, at 10:58:20
I'll always wonder if we could have helped him.
This is no way meant to be cold or unfeeling. It has taken me a long time to come to this realization, and even longer to accept it, although it may be a bit of a generalization. To start, two people close to me committed suicide, one of my best friends lost two family members to suicide, another friend lost her sister to suicide, two other acquaintances took their own lives, and, when I was 12, the mother of two children I babysat committed suicide. When my sister-in-law took her own life, I, too, thought I could have done more. It took me a long time to get over her death, but eventually I realized, that she was at peace - a peace she had never known in life. I think that at some point an individual who has suffered and struggled with mental illness, and been beaten down time after time, only to keep trying to get up again, comes to a point of sweet surrender. They have fought the good fight, but just can’t do it anymore. I think that, perhaps, what people close to the individual mistake for a lifting of depression may actually be a period of relief for the individual who has made a decision to escape the shackles of depression (or other mental illness) and end their emotional pain.
I’m sorry if this was inappropriate. It is not my intention to hurt anyone with my views.
Posted by liliths on December 6, 2006, at 8:37:08
In reply to pseudoname (trigger), posted by Dr. Bob on December 4, 2006, at 4:50:30
> Hi, everyone,
>
> I'm very sorry, but I need to pass on the below.It really hurts to know his pain was too great to bear but I understand his decision. Tears run down my face as I write... for him, for myself... for all of us who struggle so hard to live.
He was a wonderful, supportive presence on this board and will be greatly missed.
namaste,
lilith
Posted by All Done on December 6, 2006, at 17:50:44
In reply to pseudoname (trigger), posted by Dr. Bob on December 4, 2006, at 4:50:30
I'm so sorry to hear this. I always enjoyed reading posts by Pseudoname.
I wish things didn't end up this way for him. It's heartbreaking.
Posted by gardenergirl on December 6, 2006, at 18:18:57
In reply to Re: pseudoname (trigger) » Dr. Bob, posted by Squiggles on December 4, 2006, at 10:26:50
Sorry to interrupt, but I've redirected the posts regarding posting about death to the Admin board.
Here is a link: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20061202/msgs/710976.html
Thanks,
deputy gg
Posted by muffled on December 6, 2006, at 19:47:35
In reply to pseudoname (trigger), posted by Dr. Bob on December 4, 2006, at 4:50:30
Suicide is a terrible thing :(
In every way :(
For everyone:(
RIP pseudoname :(
Muffled
Posted by LlurpsieBlossom on December 7, 2006, at 17:24:07
In reply to Wish there was something more that could be done., posted by madeline on December 4, 2006, at 17:45:17
I didn't find out until just now.
We were good babblebuddies, and I feel so fortunate that he trusted me enough to share some of the more personal details of his life.
(((pseudo)))
No words for sobbing. My heart hurts that you were suffering so much. I'm going to go back to my saved babblemails from you. I still feel like I'm writing to you in a way, but you're gone now. I hope you've found peace, and a place where you can be you, and feel loved and love yourself. You deserved all of that and much more. I'm sorry you had to wait so long, and you couldn't find it in this lifetime.
your friend,
L
Posted by rip van periwinkle on December 7, 2006, at 22:45:10
In reply to (((pseudo))) **trigger**, posted by LlurpsieBlossom on December 7, 2006, at 17:24:07
I am so very, very sorry
I miss you very much
peace to you
love,
sleepygirl
Posted by Dr. Bob on December 7, 2006, at 23:23:06
In reply to Re: pseudoname (trigger) » ClearSkies, posted by dreamboat_annie on December 5, 2006, at 18:55:22
> I think that at some point an individual who has suffered and struggled with mental illness, and been beaten down time after time, only to keep trying to get up again, comes to a point of sweet surrender.
I know this isn't a "media story", but I still think it's important to be careful about how we talk about suicide:
> Certain ways of describing suicide in the news contribute to what behavioral scientists call "suicide contagion" or "copycat" suicides.
> Research suggests that inadvertently romanticizing suicide or idealizing those who take their own lives by portraying suicide as a heroic or romantic act may encourage others to identify with the victim.
>
> http://www.afsp.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=home.viewpage&page_id=7852EBBC-9FB2-6691-54125A1AD4221E49Follow-ups regarding this should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. Here's a link:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20061202/msgs/710976.html
Thanks,
Bob
Posted by Dr. Bob on December 7, 2006, at 23:23:11
In reply to (((pseudo))) **trigger**, posted by LlurpsieBlossom on December 7, 2006, at 17:24:07
> I met him in Toronto. Now he's gone?
>
> I remember him telling his border crossing story, of how he told the customs officer(s) that he was meeting internet friends and of how they got suspicious of him when he told them that.> I'm going to go back to my saved babblemails from you.
I met him in Toronto, too. So I went back to his posts about that. It was a sign of improvement that he felt up to going:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20060412/msgs/639931.html
And had a great sense of humor about it:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20060412/msgs/640021.html
And made the most of being there. He not only had fun with the exhibits, but also went to the forum on Harry Potter. :-)
I'll miss him,
Bob
Posted by Dr. Bob on December 8, 2006, at 0:31:23
In reply to Re: in memory of pseudoname, posted by Dr. Bob on December 7, 2006, at 23:23:11
> I met him in Toronto, too. So I went back to his posts about that.
We also have pseudoname to thank for one of the folders at Psycho-Babble Tips:
Buprenorphine for Depression
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/psycho-babble-tips/links/buprenorphine_for_de_001146748536Bob
Posted by LlurpsieBlossom on December 8, 2006, at 10:12:14
In reply to Re: in memory of pseudoname, posted by Dr. Bob on December 8, 2006, at 0:31:23
I am still struggling with the loss of this kind, intelligent, sensitive soul.
I agree with Dr. Bob, he was having a pretty good summer, and was generally upbeat, but this fall was really difficult.
His last communication with me was really touching and poignant, and I will save it forever. I feel honored that he trusted me, and psycho-babble, enough to reveal his human frailties and vulnerabilities.
I would like to have a thread to remember him by. It's difficult, because he was often such a reserved person on the public boards, yet he had a unique wit and sense of how to comfort someone that really shone through in his more personal communications. I will miss hearing funny stories about his colorful life, and I'm sorry that I never got to meet him IRL. I think he really cared about others, and I am sad that he was often unable to recognize what a wonderful, intelligent, giving person he was.
Grace & peace to you, pseudoname
yours,
-L
Posted by shadowplayers721 on December 8, 2006, at 10:46:07
In reply to pseudoname (trigger), posted by Dr. Bob on December 4, 2006, at 4:50:30
Posted by linkadge on December 8, 2006, at 10:58:31
In reply to In memory of pseudoname » Dr. Bob, posted by LlurpsieBlossom on December 8, 2006, at 10:12:14
What a horrable event.
I think it is good that we know. Without knowing what happened, this board would forever be missing something.
Linkadge
Posted by linkadge on December 8, 2006, at 11:04:37
In reply to In memory of pseudoname » Dr. Bob, posted by LlurpsieBlossom on December 8, 2006, at 10:12:14
Not that it still won't be.
Linkadge
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