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Posted by mbluett on October 28, 2006, at 23:27:39
Hi there Phillipa,
I am have been reading and responding to this board for for several years in and on/off fashion. I have noticed your name appears alongside many posts and responses. I am really interested to know how you have you'll been able to use and advise people on the use of SO MANY psycoactive drugs.
Please excuse my ignorance. I'm looking forward to your ressponse.
Posted by willyee on October 29, 2006, at 7:49:31
In reply to Who are you Phillipa?, posted by mbluett on October 28, 2006, at 23:27:39
I have noticed your name appears alongside many posts and responses.
.....LOL
Posted by Meri-Tuuli on October 29, 2006, at 8:46:03
In reply to Who are you Phillipa?, posted by mbluett on October 28, 2006, at 23:27:39
Posted by ronaldo on October 29, 2006, at 8:51:35
In reply to Re: Who are you Phillipa?, posted by willyee on October 29, 2006, at 7:49:31
Posted by willyee on October 29, 2006, at 9:32:53
In reply to Philipa is a lovely person!! :o) (nm), posted by Meri-Tuuli on October 29, 2006, at 8:46:03
The poster did not comment on her as a person.He did not insult her as a person.What he did was notice how she posts to every single thread,even with not productive input.
Im glad at least someone sees that,as im thinking im crazy.
If you were real friends you would speak to her about an obviously obsessive need to be part of every thread.Its not heatlhy,and i would tell a friend that.I spend too much time on myspace,and a family member pointed this out to me,i did not get mad,or insulted,but agreed to the obvious i was and know its a problem i need to overcome.Many of her posts to threads are just random comments.
Again take this as mean,but a friend would be concerned of this.
As far as your comment to me phillipa,i dident really appreciate it,i understand ill have no symptahy as im sure im not liked,but i know for a fact the comment :nice when i want to be" is rather uncalled for.
I post when i believe,or hope i can actualy offer input to the poster,im always kind in my posts,and almost always end with well wishes.Where you got that comment im not sure,perhaps because im am not afraid to post comments like these,and im not afraid of being banned for speaking my mind.
Anyway the poster dident comment on phillipa as a person,just on a noticable trend which if you looked now you would see she is in every single thread.A friend to her,and yet you dont see this as a concern for someone,ok well then flame me,but i told her as a friend in email in a kind way perhaps thats why.
And ill ask that you phillipa please refrain from personal emails to me,keep it on this group,thank you.
I know my heart,and i know im not mean,and i will speak if i see a friend or person i like doing something that is possably harmmful to them.She is still a friend as well as i understand this is just a message board,i dont know her as a person,but as a person i know she is caring and shows great concern,but that is not the issue at hand.Anyway ill refrain from posting here since i seem to be to rough on the edges i suppose.
Posted by Meri-Tuuli on October 29, 2006, at 10:12:32
In reply to Re: Philipa is a lovely person!! :o) » Meri-Tuuli, posted by willyee on October 29, 2006, at 9:32:53
> The poster did not comment on her as a person.
Well he asked 'who are you Philipha?' in the title of the tread, and I'm just describing how I experience her, or who I think she is, and I just so happen to think she is a lovely person.
I don't think it matters whether someone posts something to a thread and its not that relevent to the post. Its the support that counts, well at least for me.
I often post 'stupid' things in response to someone's thread, that probably aren't insightful or helpful, but I post nonetheless.
You can chose to ignore them.
But we're part of a community here, and that means supporting other members of the community, even if the posts aren't informative or whatever, its the thought and the support that counts many times.
Kind regardsMeri
Posted by Phillipa on October 29, 2006, at 10:50:47
In reply to Who are you Phillipa?, posted by mbluett on October 28, 2006, at 23:27:39
Merri put it very well. But I also like to let people know someone heard them and when especially I see a thread that no one has respoded to I like to offer support. I also worked in psych and hope to work there again so the more knowledge I can gain the better. And I've been on all the SSRI, SSNRI, some mood stabalizers and bezos of course so of course I'm always looking for a med that will work as so far no med has put me into any type of remission. And I'm glad to meet you. Love Phillipa
Posted by Phillipa on October 29, 2006, at 10:55:54
In reply to Re: Philipa is a lovely person!! :o) » Meri-Tuuli, posted by willyee on October 29, 2006, at 9:32:53
Will sorry you feel that way. I feel good about myself when I offer support. I may not be the most knowledgeable person here but who is? Aren't we all here to learn? And support others? Oh well you can't please everyone. Love Phillipa
Posted by Girlnterrupted on October 29, 2006, at 12:11:08
In reply to Re: Philipa is a lovely person!! :o) » willyee, posted by Phillipa on October 29, 2006, at 10:55:54
I'm sorry but I will have to agree with Willyie on this. Everytime there's a new post, I immediately see a response from Philipa, and I know for a fact that it won't be anything fully related to the topic or something worth reading (most of the time at least.) Maybe a few messages are, but most of them I know they're more intended to aid Philipa feel good about herself rather than the person who is needing help.
I've been seeing this for a while and everytime I see "Philipa" in a thread, it sort of annoys me because I know I'll have to waste some minutes reading something that I know will not be helpful or related and will be just bs that she needs to post to feel good. Sorry for speaking my mind, I don't mean to be nasty but I can't help feeling this way. I thought I was the only one who felt that way and just kept it inside, but now I know I'm not the only one.
Another thing is, why does Philipa say "Love, Philipa" to just about every stranger on the Internet? That sounds a bit hypocritical, in my opinion. You say "Love" to your friends and family, but not to every stranger online. Sorry but it makes her come across as totally fake and it adds to the excess.
Posted by zazenducky on October 29, 2006, at 12:19:03
In reply to Re: Philipa is just a person :o, posted by Girlnterrupted on October 29, 2006, at 12:11:08
Posted by Dinah on October 29, 2006, at 13:23:49
In reply to Re: Philipa is just a person :o, posted by Girlnterrupted on October 29, 2006, at 12:11:08
>... and I know for a fact that it won't be anything fully related to the topic or something worth reading...
Please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down.
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
Follow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above posts, should of course themselves be civil.
Dr. Bob is always free to override deputy decisions. His email is on the bottom of each page. Please feel free to email him if you believe this decision was made in error.
Dinah, acting as deputy for Dr. Bob
Posted by Dinah on October 29, 2006, at 13:27:12
In reply to Re: Philipa is a lovely person!! :o) » Meri-Tuuli, posted by willyee on October 29, 2006, at 9:32:53
> What he did was notice how she posts to every single thread,even with not productive input.
>Please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down.
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
Follow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above posts, should of course themselves be civil.
Dr. Bob is always free to override deputy decisions. His email is on the bottom of each page. Please feel free to email him if you believe this decision was made in error.
Dinah, acting as deputy for Dr. Bob
Posted by Dinah on October 29, 2006, at 13:37:47
In reply to Re: Philipa is a lovely person!! :o) » willyee, posted by Phillipa on October 29, 2006, at 10:55:54
Such a positive and gracious response. I hope that I can learn from it.
Posted by willyee on October 29, 2006, at 14:35:54
In reply to Re: Philipa is just friendly and supportive (nm), posted by zazenducky on October 29, 2006, at 12:19:03
Again this is not the issue,there is a social board,people post here,with limited time to come and use it,and when they open a comment they are hoping to see a response that will help them in there question,not a supportive wish.
If one wanted to they can randomly start a thread titled such and express there overall support,but again when a poster has a question,they might be under time contstraint to read responses,and to open a response up and it not contain to the question is unfair to the poster.
Posted by Dinah on October 29, 2006, at 14:36:11
In reply to Please be civil » willyee, posted by Dinah on October 29, 2006, at 13:27:12
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20061018/msgs/698749.html
Here's a link.
Posted by gardenergirl on October 29, 2006, at 15:13:19
In reply to Phillipa (and others), posted by Dinah on October 29, 2006, at 13:37:47
> Such a positive and gracious response. I hope that I can learn from it.
I agree. You took the words right out of my mouth, Dinah. :)
Phillipa, good for you!
gg
Posted by Girlnterrupted on October 29, 2006, at 16:15:41
In reply to Re: Phillipa (and others) » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on October 29, 2006, at 15:13:19
I love positive and gracious responses. Positive and gracious people can cure you of all your ills in life, including mental illness. That's why this is a forum for people like us. Read my post and you'll feel better just by my kindness. Scientific info can't compete with loving posts.
> > Such a positive and gracious response. I hope that I can learn from it.
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> I agree. You took the words right out of my mouth, Dinah. :)
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> Phillipa, good for you!
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> gg
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Posted by gardenergirl on October 29, 2006, at 16:47:12
In reply to Re: Phillipa (and others) » gardenergirl, posted by Girlnterrupted on October 29, 2006, at 16:15:41
> I love positive and gracious responses. Positive and gracious people can cure you of all your ills in life, including mental illness.
If only 't were true.
If wishes were horses and all...
gg
Posted by corafree on October 29, 2006, at 17:26:30
In reply to Who are you Phillipa?, posted by mbluett on October 28, 2006, at 23:27:39
Phillipa's a person with a big heart that spills out on all she meets.
Wish I were so intuitive and thoughtful.
love, cf
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 29, 2006, at 18:55:23
In reply to Re: Phillipa (and others) » gardenergirl, posted by Girlnterrupted on October 29, 2006, at 16:15:41
> Positive and gracious people can cure you of all your ills in life, including mental illness. ... Scientific info can't compete with loving posts.
Please don't be sarcastic or exaggerate.
But please don't take this personally, either, this doesn't mean I don't like you or think you're a bad person.
Sharing something about your own issues and their possible role in your reaction might be an interesting exercise -- and might help others respond to you supportively.
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please first see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#enforceFollow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above post, should of course themselves be civil.
Thanks,
Bob
Posted by Phillipa on October 29, 2006, at 20:08:31
In reply to Re: please be civil » Girlnterrupted, posted by Dr. Bob on October 29, 2006, at 18:55:23
Thanks Dinah, gg, Dr. Bob and others. I will continue to be supportive here to everyone who posts a civil thread. Sometimes people need to know that someone at least heard them. Me included. Love Phillipa. ps I use love because I do feel love for my fellow man.
Posted by mbluett on October 30, 2006, at 8:12:37
In reply to Who are you Phillipa?, posted by mbluett on October 28, 2006, at 23:27:39
Posted by iforgotmypassword on October 30, 2006, at 13:42:04
In reply to Wouldn't that be great? » Girlnterrupted, posted by gardenergirl on October 29, 2006, at 16:47:12
I found the messages criticizing her very inappropriate, and it is hard to believe that they are coming from a helpful, supportive stance. I am sorry.
She is in the same boat as a lot of us, and many of us value her support. I know due to my low functioning, most of the contact with other humans I make is online or when my Dad comes to see me. I don't know her specific life situation, but maybe it helps her not go crazy to keep contact on this forum. I know things like this help me.
Many times I don't just want 'support' and overlook it when it is offered. So? She is a retired psychiatric nurse and she is trained to recognize that it cannot help everyone, but all she can do is try, she knows it cannot help everyone, that is not the point. If it helps anyone it makes it worthwhile. She is also not 'on the job' so it isn't even her duty to help you. Some of us are thankful that she IS here. If a SHORT supportive message is unhelpful to you. You are a click away. A SINGLE CLICK, to make it to another post. I have significantly detrimental problems with focus and I know that this is not very taxing on the head.
Wilyee if you do not want her conacting you, tell her discreetly, it is very demeaning to say this in front of a whole forum of people. It is like you are trying to humiliate her. I know I would be humiliated.
She is primarily interested in what other people have to say, is it a crime to bounce back with some support?
IT KEEPS SOME OF US POSTING AND NOT GIVING UP.
Posted by corafree on October 30, 2006, at 14:32:12
In reply to echoing support: philipa is lovely, posted by iforgotmypassword on October 30, 2006, at 13:42:04
This entire incident was a very sad one and has done a bit of irrepairable damage to my feelings about certain persons and discussions.
I find Phillipa often brings up important issues about an issue. She also 'never leaves someone hanging w/o a response to their thread'.
I will sometimes post on a thread because I feel the need to follow its responses to educate myself on a topic.
You could just begin to feel what it would be like to lose her presence here when this began, and I'll bet I wasn't the only one who was worried.
BTW, love, is defined as a strong affection for a person or thing. Some here have taken it to mean more than this. I believe Phillipa is a married woman, and I'm a woman one would be lucky to be loved by. (Yep .. I'm bragging.)
cf
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 30, 2006, at 21:47:18
In reply to echoing support: philipa is lovely, posted by iforgotmypassword on October 30, 2006, at 13:42:04
> it is hard to believe that they are coming from a helpful, supportive stance.
>
> It is like you are trying to humiliate her.Thanks for supporting Phillipa, but when you do that, please don't also jump to conclusions about someone else or post something that could lead them to feel accused or put down. Two wrongs don't make a right.
But please don't take this personally, either, this doesn't mean I don't like you or think you're a bad person.
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please first see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#enforceFollow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above post, should of course themselves be civil.
Thanks,
Bob
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