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Posted by damian on January 23, 2006, at 22:35:22
HI, I HAVE BEEN ON EFFEXOR SINCE APRIL 2005 AND I REALLY CANT BE SURE IF ITS WORKING FOR ME. IT IS NOW INCREASED AT 300 BUT I STILL HAVE LOTS OF ANXIETY AND DONT KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH IT. SOMEDAYS I THINK I AM OK AND OTHERS I JUST DONT WANT TO BE HERE AT ALL. MY LIFE FEELS LIKE I AM ON A ROLLERCOSTER AND ITS AN OFFULL FEELING. I DONT FEEL LIKE GETTING UP FOR WORK IN THE MORNING. MY KIDS STRESS ME OUT BIG TIME FOR SILLY THINGS THAT REALLY SHOULDNT STRESS PEOPLE OUT AND SOMETIMES I FEEL I AM TOO HARD ON THEM FOR NO REASON. DONT KNOW WHAT I AM GOING TO DO BUT THIS HAS TO STOP. I TRY TO EXPLAIN HOW I FEEL TO MY HUSBAND AND KIDS BUT THEY JUST DONT UNDERSTAND AND I FEEL LIKE I AM ALL ALONE AND CANT TALK TO ANYBODY. EVEN MY OWN DOCTOR SOMETIMES I THINK SHE IS TOO BUSY TO TALK TO ME BECUASE I FEEL RUSHED WHEN I GO TO SEE HER. I DONT THINK SHE REALLY KNOWS WHAT SHE IS DOING, OR MAYBE THATS JUST HOW I FEEL. PLEASE TELL ME THERE IS HOPE FOR ME BECAUSE SERIOUSLY I DONT THINK THERE IS. ANYWAY I WILL WAIT FOR A RESPONSE FROM ANYONE....THANKS......DAMIAN
Posted by Lucia Francisca on January 23, 2006, at 23:57:22
In reply to AM I GOING CRAZY, posted by damian on January 23, 2006, at 22:35:22
damian, i felt like you seem to be feeling just this last weekend. we can call it depression and/or anxiety, but i also think social and environmental factors affect this mood.
i know what you mean about feeling good some days and horrible others. my last week has been like that too.
i just wanted to say that i can relate and that you're not alone. there is hope. i think you will feel better.
i've been trying to get lots of exercise, to exercise once if not 2 times a day. having someone keep you company and taking you outside (it's awful for me being at home alone and thinking) might help. my husband took me to a cool cafe i liked hanging out at and then to an interesting restaurant with really good jazz. that was the best day i had all week and the best i felt.
i really hope you feel better very soon.
> HI, I HAVE BEEN ON EFFEXOR SINCE APRIL 2005 AND I REALLY CANT BE SURE IF ITS WORKING FOR ME. IT IS NOW INCREASED AT 300 BUT I STILL HAVE LOTS OF ANXIETY AND DONT KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH IT. SOMEDAYS I THINK I AM OK AND OTHERS I JUST DONT WANT TO BE HERE AT ALL. MY LIFE FEELS LIKE I AM ON A ROLLERCOSTER AND ITS AN OFFULL FEELING. I DONT FEEL LIKE GETTING UP FOR WORK IN THE MORNING. MY KIDS STRESS ME OUT BIG TIME FOR SILLY THINGS THAT REALLY SHOULDNT STRESS PEOPLE OUT AND SOMETIMES I FEEL I AM TOO HARD ON THEM FOR NO REASON. DONT KNOW WHAT I AM GOING TO DO BUT THIS HAS TO STOP. I TRY TO EXPLAIN HOW I FEEL TO MY HUSBAND AND KIDS BUT THEY JUST DONT UNDERSTAND AND I FEEL LIKE I AM ALL ALONE AND CANT TALK TO ANYBODY. EVEN MY OWN DOCTOR SOMETIMES I THINK SHE IS TOO BUSY TO TALK TO ME BECUASE I FEEL RUSHED WHEN I GO TO SEE HER. I DONT THINK SHE REALLY KNOWS WHAT SHE IS DOING, OR MAYBE THATS JUST HOW I FEEL. PLEASE TELL ME THERE IS HOPE FOR ME BECAUSE SERIOUSLY I DONT THINK THERE IS. ANYWAY I WILL WAIT FOR A RESPONSE FROM ANYONE....THANKS......DAMIAN
Posted by wanttobhappy on January 24, 2006, at 0:52:24
In reply to AM I GOING CRAZY, posted by damian on January 23, 2006, at 22:35:22
my doc strongly suggested i see a pdoc or counselor as soon as i went back on meds, are you seeing anyone besides doc? if not maybe you should. as far as the family goes i absolutely understand (every family is different but the basics are the same)my son is to young to discuss my depression with at this point i would rather he think moms just lazy. as far as my husband in the past when i was on different meds he never asked what they were or how they were working or even if i was having a good or bad day. i have to admit this time i have'nt even told him i'm on anything(recently started effexor after aprox. 3 yr med free)sorry i was planning on being uplifting for you and somehow my own issues started popping out. well mostly i just wanted to say YOU ARE NOT ALONE!! and hearing you talk about family not getting it helped me realize i'm not alone either
THANKS
best wishes
Posted by damian on January 24, 2006, at 5:46:50
In reply to Re: AM I GOING CRAZY, posted by wanttobhappy on January 24, 2006, at 0:52:24
THANKS FOR RESPONDING. IT FELT GOOD TO GET UP THIS MORNING AND SEE SOMEONE HAS READ MY MESSAGE AND WAS ACUALLY ON THE SAME FRAMELINE AS ME. I HAVE TALKED TO MY DOCTOR ABOUT SEEING A PHYCHIATRICE BUT I HAVE BEEN WAITING SINCE NOVEMBER NOW AND HAVENT HEARD ANYTHING BACK YET. I DO HAVE A FOLLOW UP IN ABOUT THREE WEEKS SO I WILL TALK TO HER ABOUT IT AGAIN. SHE WANTS ME TO SEE A PHYCHOLOGIST BUT I DONT HAVE ALOT OF MONEY FOR THAT RIGHT NOW AND REALLY DONT CARE TO SEE ONE. THEY CANNOT ADJUST MEDICATION FOR YOU ONLY A PHCHIATRICE CAN. AT FIRST I THOUGHT I FELT THIS WAY BECAUSE I HAVE HAD SO MANY PROBLEMS WITH MY SONS HEALTH AND BEHAVIOUR PROBLEMS AND THATS WHY SHE THOUGHT "WE" MY FAMILY SHOULD GO SEEK HELP. I DONT THINK SO, THE PROBLEM MAY HAVE STARTED THERE BUT REALLY I THINK THE PROBLEM IS ME , AND NOT THEM SO FORGET THAT THOUGHT... BYE THE WAY DONT WORRY ABOUT TELLING ME ABOUT YOU A BIT I NEED TO KNOW OTHERS HAVE FELT LIKE ME AT ONE POINT IN TIME SO I DONT THINK I AM GOING CRAZY. QUESTION, HAVE YOU EVER FELT TO A POINT THAT YOU DONT WANT TO BE AROUND ANMORE . I DO BUT MY KIDS ARE THE ONLY THING THAT STOP ME BECAUSE THEY ARE ALL I HAVE AS FAR AS BLOOD RELATIVE. THANKS FOR YOUR INPUT
Posted by wanttobhappy on January 24, 2006, at 9:30:10
In reply to Re: AM I GOING CRAZY, posted by damian on January 24, 2006, at 5:46:50
glad to hear your feeling a little better. i have in the past had very negative thoughts and will wholeheartedly admit my son was the only thing that kept me from hurting myself. this round (of depression) i have'nt had those feelings i don't know if i got help sooner or what. check with your local mental health group, sometimes you can get free or cheap therapy through them. i know the money thing can relly make things hard but is'nt your health worth the struggle? if your kids needed meds for diabetes or therapy you would find a way. sometimes i find because its not physical(wich the symptoms really are, most bystanders just dont see it that way) we (mothers/parents) put ourselves on the backburner to simmer and wait. even if you can see someone once a month it's better than nothing. if you are having negative thoughts you should see your doc or go to the hospital asap. when it comes to that you don't have to be strong and try to wait it out!!! it has nothing to do with strength and and you life is WORTH getting help.
hope i was helpful,
all my best
Posted by linkadge on January 24, 2006, at 9:34:34
In reply to Re: AM I GOING CRAZY, posted by wanttobhappy on January 24, 2006, at 9:30:10
Change drugs. I would try Zoloft if you havn't.
Effexor was a bad choice for me. I had similar symptoms, that resolved when I changed to Zoloft.
Linkadge
Posted by damian on January 24, 2006, at 9:53:41
In reply to Re: AM I GOING CRAZY, posted by wanttobhappy on January 24, 2006, at 9:30:10
> glad to hear your feeling a little better. i have in the past had very negative thoughts and will wholeheartedly admit my son was the only thing that kept me from hurting myself. this round (of depression) i have'nt had those feelings i don't know if i got help sooner or what. check with your local mental health group, sometimes you can get free or cheap therapy through them. i know the money thing can relly make things hard but is'nt your health worth the struggle? if your kids needed meds for diabetes or therapy you would find a way. sometimes i find because its not physical(wich the symptoms really are, most bystanders just dont see it that way) we (mothers/parents) put ourselves on the backburner to simmer and wait. even if you can see someone once a month it's better than nothing. if you are having negative thoughts you should see your doc or go to the hospital asap. when it comes to that you don't have to be strong and try to wait it out!!! it has nothing to do with strength and and you life is WORTH getting help.
> hope i was helpful,
> all my bestI KNOW YOU PROBABLY RIGHT ABOUT PUTTING MYSELF ON THE BACKBURNER BUT THATS JUST THE WAY I AM, THINK MORE ABOUT THE KIDS THAN MYSELF BUT THERAPY DOES COST MONEY AND I AM SO FAR BEHIND IN BILL RIGHT NOW BECAUSE I MISS TOO MUCH WORK THAT I CANT EVEN GET A LOAN TO HELP ME OUT BECAUSE OF CREDIT RATING. I REALLY CANT AFFORD TO PAY FOR HELP. AND AS FAR AS GOING TO THE HOSPITAL I AM AFRAID TO BECAUSE I JUST WOULDNT KNOW WHAT TO SAY AT THE TRIAGE, AND HOW LONG WILL I WAIT IN THE EMERGE...I WILL PROBOBLY LEAVE SAYING FORGET IT I CANT WAIT ANYMORE. I KNOW YOUR TRYING TO HELP BUT REALLY I DO FEEL HELPLESS IN ALL OF THIS AND I CANT SEEM TO FIND A WAY OUT.....BELIEVE ME I REALLY WISH I COULD SO I COULD BE A BETTER MOM TO MY FAMILY. I AM SURE ITS TAKING ITS TOLE ON THEM TOO. MY SON NEEDS SO MUCH ATTENTION AND IF I WERE TO BE KEPT IN THE HOSPITAL I WOULD GO NUTS WORRYING ABOUT HIM, AND MY DAUGHTER IS ALSO A MOMMIES GIRL SO SHE WILL CRY EVERYNIGHT UNTIL I AM BACK........I JUST DONT KNOW ANYMORE, I FEEL STUCK WITH NO WAY OUT.
Posted by shasling on January 24, 2006, at 16:38:29
In reply to Re: AM I GOING CRAZY, posted by damian on January 24, 2006, at 9:53:41
Agree with both wanttobehappy and linkadge. Do not wait three weeks to see your doctor. He/she made the choice to rx you this particular med and they need to know if you are reacting poorly.
Also, different med might make all the difference in the world. Please do not wait three weeks like this, honey. Its unnecessary. Put it back on the doc. It is not your job to a) suffer or b) figure out by yourself how to fix it.
Posted by damian on January 24, 2006, at 16:47:55
In reply to Re: AM I GOING CRAZY » damian, posted by shasling on January 24, 2006, at 16:38:29
> Agree with both wanttobehappy and linkadge. Do not wait three weeks to see your doctor. He/she made the choice to rx you this particular med and they need to know if you are reacting poorly.
>
> Also, different med might make all the difference in the world. Please do not wait three weeks like this, honey. Its unnecessary. Put it back on the doc. It is not your job to a) suffer or b) figure out by yourself how to fix it.you are probably are all right but right now i really dont care about anything and i am going to bed. i am exausted and i cant think straight. i will be back tomorrow after work.
Posted by Phillipa on January 24, 2006, at 20:30:57
In reply to Re: AM I GOING CRAZY, posted by damian on January 24, 2006, at 16:47:55
Listen to Link he knows his meds and you don't need to suffer like this. There are other meds and if money is an issue the social services can help you get a pdoc and medication on a sliding scale. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by Lucia Francisca on January 24, 2006, at 22:11:13
In reply to Re: AM I GOING CRAZY, posted by damian on January 24, 2006, at 5:46:50
Damian, to be blunt, yes, i have felt suicidal before. i've never actually tried to commit suicide though. just letting you know that yes, i have felt like that. it's a horrible horrible feeling, probably the worst feeling in the world, the worst feelings i have ever had.
listen, you sound like a good person, just not feeling well right now. i glanced at other messages and agreed, yes please reach out for help to a psychiatrist and therapist or at least a family doctor. also, can you tell your husband you are feeling almost suicidal, or other family and friends? please get good help. i really want you to feel better and hope you do soon.
> THANKS FOR RESPONDING. IT FELT GOOD TO GET UP THIS MORNING AND SEE SOMEONE HAS READ MY MESSAGE AND WAS ACUALLY ON THE SAME FRAMELINE AS ME. I HAVE TALKED TO MY DOCTOR ABOUT SEEING A PHYCHIATRICE BUT I HAVE BEEN WAITING SINCE NOVEMBER NOW AND HAVENT HEARD ANYTHING BACK YET. I DO HAVE A FOLLOW UP IN ABOUT THREE WEEKS SO I WILL TALK TO HER ABOUT IT AGAIN. SHE WANTS ME TO SEE A PHYCHOLOGIST BUT I DONT HAVE ALOT OF MONEY FOR THAT RIGHT NOW AND REALLY DONT CARE TO SEE ONE. THEY CANNOT ADJUST MEDICATION FOR YOU ONLY A PHCHIATRICE CAN. AT FIRST I THOUGHT I FELT THIS WAY BECAUSE I HAVE HAD SO MANY PROBLEMS WITH MY SONS HEALTH AND BEHAVIOUR PROBLEMS AND THATS WHY SHE THOUGHT "WE" MY FAMILY SHOULD GO SEEK HELP. I DONT THINK SO, THE PROBLEM MAY HAVE STARTED THERE BUT REALLY I THINK THE PROBLEM IS ME , AND NOT THEM SO FORGET THAT THOUGHT... BYE THE WAY DONT WORRY ABOUT TELLING ME ABOUT YOU A BIT I NEED TO KNOW OTHERS HAVE FELT LIKE ME AT ONE POINT IN TIME SO I DONT THINK I AM GOING CRAZY. QUESTION, HAVE YOU EVER FELT TO A POINT THAT YOU DONT WANT TO BE AROUND ANMORE . I DO BUT MY KIDS ARE THE ONLY THING THAT STOP ME BECAUSE THEY ARE ALL I HAVE AS FAR AS BLOOD RELATIVE. THANKS FOR YOUR INPUT
Posted by ghostshadow on January 25, 2006, at 20:13:01
In reply to Re: AM I GOING CRAZY, posted by damian on January 24, 2006, at 16:47:55
i have felt EXACTLY as you do - when the first med i was on (paxil) lost effectiveness, and when my doc tried me on effexor. switched me to another med (lexapro) which is a bit better, and just added wellbutrin. don't suffer in silence - your children need their mother. (as to not wanting to be around anymore, mine is so bad sometimes i want "not to ever have been".)
Posted by 4WD on January 25, 2006, at 22:07:22
In reply to Re: AM I GOING CRAZY » damian, posted by ghostshadow on January 25, 2006, at 20:13:01
Damian,
You CAN get better! Effexor obviously is just not the right med for you or the dosage is too high. I take Effexor but can only take a low dose or else I get hyper. Many antidepressants have made me feel worse - I took Luvox for two weeks and became deeply suicidal.
You have a lot on your plate right now it sounds like. And working, too. Call your doctor tomorrow! Tell her you are having suicidal thoughts and need to do something. If you are actually planning to commit suicide or even seriously thinking about it, tell someone. If you are not actively planning it, tell that to your doctor but tell her the way you are feeling is not tolerable! You have to do something now.
I have been where you are. I know how badly it hurts. It's good to vent here, where we understand and care. I will be praying for you tonight but you have to do your part and take some action. Please get help.
Marsha
Posted by damian on January 26, 2006, at 15:06:29
In reply to Re: AM I GOING CRAZY » damian, posted by ghostshadow on January 25, 2006, at 20:13:01
> i have felt EXACTLY as you do - when the first med i was on (paxil) lost effectiveness, and when my doc tried me on effexor. switched me to another med (lexapro) which is a bit better, and just added wellbutrin. don't suffer in silence - your children need their mother. (as to not wanting to be around anymore, mine is so bad sometimes i want "not to ever have been".)
OK, I HEAR YOU AND I WILL TALK TO MY DOCTOR WHEN I SEE HER, I THINK ITS NEXT WEEK MY NEXT APPOITEMENT BUT THE THINK SO ITS NOT ALL THE TIME I FEEL LIKE THIS ONLY AFTER ITS BEEN A COUPLE OF MONTHS ITS BEEN INCREASED AND THAN AFTER THE COUPLE OF MONTHS HAVE GONE BY BANG IT STARTS ALL OVER AGAIN OR IF SOMETHING STRESSFUL COMES UP THAN I LOSE MY MIND, WITHOUT ANYONE KNOWING I JUST FEEL TOTALLY EGDY AND CANT THINK ANYMORE TO A POINT THAT I JUST GO TO BED CUASE I DONT WANT TO HAVE TO DEAL WITH ANYTHING. ANYWAY I HEAR YOU ALL I WILL ASK TO SEE A PHYCHOLIGIST BECAUSE YOU ARE ALL RIGHT AND I AM REALLY GLAD I JOINED THIS SITE. DAMIAN
Posted by damian on January 26, 2006, at 15:11:04
In reply to Re: AM I GOING CRAZY » damian, posted by Phillipa on January 24, 2006, at 20:30:57
> Listen to Link he knows his meds and you don't need to suffer like this. There are other meds and if money is an issue the social services can help you get a pdoc and medication on a sliding scale. Fondly, Phillipa
I AM NOT GOING TO SUFFER ANYMORE BECAUSE ITS JUST TOO MUCH. IN ONE WEEK I HAVE LOST ANOTHER FIVE POUNDS AND THIS IS CRAP. ANYWAY AT FIRST I DIDNT CARE ABOUT THE WEIGHT LOST BUT NOW I HAVE LOST 45 POUNDS SINCE APRIL AND THATS NOT EVEN ON A DIET. I HAVE BEEN READING ALOT OF THE COMMENTS FROM EVERYONE AND I AM REALLY GLAD I HAVE BECUASE IT REALLY SHOWS ME I'M NOT NUTS I JUST HAVE A PROBLEM TO DEAL WITH AND IF MY DOC DONT DO SOMETHING SOON SHE IS FIRED. DAMIAN
Posted by damian on January 26, 2006, at 15:18:16
In reply to Re: AM I GOING CRAZY, posted by 4WD on January 25, 2006, at 22:07:22
> Damian,
>
> You CAN get better! Effexor obviously is just not the right med for you or the dosage is too high. I take Effexor but can only take a low dose or else I get hyper. Many antidepressants have made me feel worse - I took Luvox for two weeks and became deeply suicidal.
>
> You have a lot on your plate right now it sounds like. And working, too. Call your doctor tomorrow! Tell her you are having suicidal thoughts and need to do something. If you are actually planning to commit suicide or even seriously thinking about it, tell someone. If you are not actively planning it, tell that to your doctor but tell her the way you are feeling is not tolerable! You have to do something now.
>
> I have been where you are. I know how badly it hurts. It's good to vent here, where we understand and care. I will be praying for you tonight but you have to do your part and take some action. Please get help.
>
> MarshaI HEAR YOU MARSHA I WILL BE SEEING HER NEXT WEEK AND IF DOESNT DO ANYTHING I WILL BE FREAKING AT HER BECAUSE THIS HAS GONE LONG ENOUGH. THE ONLY TIME I REALIZE THIS IS WHEN I CAN THINK SRAIGHT. WHEN THE MEDS INCREASE I CAN THINKS STRAIGHT SOME OF THE TIME BUT AFTER A COUPLE OF MONTHS I AM A DISASTER AGAIN AND I NEED AN INCREASE LIKE NOW, EXEPT TODAY I AM NOT TOO BAD. BUT YESTERDAY IT WASNT , I HAD A TWELVE HOUR SHIFT AND WHEN I GOT HOME I WAS EXAUSTED AND COULDNT DEAL WITH ANYONE SO I WENT TO BED AND IT NEVER DAWNED ON ME UNTIL TODAY THAT I HADENT EATEN YET WHEN I WENT TO BED. I GUESS I WAS JUST TOO BUSY. ANYWAY DONT WORRY TODAY I FEEL BETTER SO HOPEFULLY I WILL UNTIL MY NEXT APPT. THANKS FOR YOUR INPUT. DAMIAN
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