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Posted by mrgentle1 on December 8, 2005, at 10:35:00
Hi Guys.. I have been told that EVERYONE talks to themselves out aloud. I am pretty sure that I don't and I am being told that I am in denial.. I understand that people sometimes say their thoughts out aloud but Im not one of those people. Am I not a normal person unless I say things out aloud to myself ??
Posted by linkadge on December 8, 2005, at 11:05:17
In reply to Talking to Yourself, posted by mrgentle1 on December 8, 2005, at 10:35:00
You can do whatever the heck you want.
Linkadge
Posted by Racer on December 8, 2005, at 13:08:48
In reply to Talking to Yourself, posted by mrgentle1 on December 8, 2005, at 10:35:00
Oh, sorry -- I am silly. That was my mother's advice on the subject, though. "It's OK to talk to yourself, Dear, just as long as you don't interrupt..."
Seriously, though, saying that EVERYONE who is "normal" speaks aloud to his or her self is absurd. That's like saying that EVERYONE who is normal will, what? Pick his/her nose in public? Want to rob a bank for fun? I doubt that there is any one thing that EVERYONE does, normal or not. Beyond, of course, breathing and pooping.
If you're happy with your internal conversations, that's fine. You are normal for MrGentle1. How do you like being normal?
Posted by rjlockhart on December 8, 2005, at 20:31:09
In reply to Talking to Yourself, posted by mrgentle1 on December 8, 2005, at 10:35:00
im rj,
i've been posting here for about 2 years. The last year has been the most intense in mental insability. Paranoid about going crazy, god, i do not want to even look at my old posts.
Talking to yourself, personally as an aid, i dont consider a mental illness. I talk to myself in my head all the time to keep it together, and what am i going to do next, becuase i think im going to just lose it.
Talking to other imaginations outloud, hallucinations, or people who dont exist, is mostly considered a mental illness. Usally from symptoms of Schizophrenia.
What i've learned is if your worried your crazy, in some cases your usally not, more nuerosis and worry. People who are crazy usally have their own reality.
I wished i gave this advice to myself sometime back ago.
mind over matter.
Matt
Posted by mrgentle1 on December 8, 2005, at 21:07:45
In reply to As long as you don't interrupt » mrgentle1, posted by Racer on December 8, 2005, at 13:08:48
I am very interested in this topic because the lady that labelled me in denial, has also taken it upon herself to speak on behalf of mankind by stating that EVERYONE talks to themselves. I consider myself to be apart of mankind and I do not talk to myself out aloud, hence proving her theory wrong. I do have a thought pattern, but that stays in my head
Posted by Phillipa on December 8, 2005, at 21:54:49
In reply to Re: As long as you don't interrupt, posted by mrgentle1 on December 8, 2005, at 21:07:45
I think we all process what is going on at the moment in our heads. Does she mean that saying out loud something like" Now why did I do that?" mean you are talking to yourself. I know most people do catch themself thinking out loud at times. But not everyone does this. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by mrgentle1 on December 9, 2005, at 0:34:04
In reply to Talking to Yourself, posted by mrgentle1 on December 8, 2005, at 10:35:00
See here is the thing.. The topic of talking to yourself came up in a conversation I was having with my friends wife. I said that I didn't do it and then hells gates opened. I was told that not only did I talk to myself but that I was also in denial.. And to make things even more interesting, she claimed that every single person in the world talks to themselves.. Each time I said that I didn't I was told that I was a liar. Mind you this is coming from a 29yo mother of two who used to work with an Insurance company.. Apparently thats all you need these days to speak on behalf of mankind.
Posted by med_empowered on December 9, 2005, at 2:37:55
In reply to Re: Talking to Yourself, posted by mrgentle1 on December 9, 2005, at 0:34:04
OK, so if you talk to yourself and people SEE you, you may come off as "crazy" but...its really not a big deal. Sometimes, people with schizophrenia or other psychoses do talk aloud to people who aren't really there...in this case, though, its not that talking to themselves *means* they're crazy--its more the content (conversations with imaginary people out loud, which they think are actually occuring).
I sometimes talk to myself. Now and then my thoughts are so fast I can't write them down or anything, so I talk it out for a bit to calm everything down a bit. Also, sometimes I do "prep" before social events--I have social anxiety, so it calms my nerves a bit before I have to deal with people.
So..talking to yourself isnt a big deal. Just try not to do it in public.
Posted by Larry Hoover on December 9, 2005, at 11:29:27
In reply to Talking to Yourself, posted by mrgentle1 on December 8, 2005, at 10:35:00
> Hi Guys.. I have been told that EVERYONE talks to themselves out aloud. I am pretty sure that I don't and I am being told that I am in denial.. I understand that people sometimes say their thoughts out aloud but Im not one of those people. Am I not a normal person unless I say things out aloud to myself ??
I read your three posts on the subject, and this other person is wrong.
If one accepts that it is normal to talk to oneself, it does not make it abnormal if one doesn't. Simple as that. What isn't normal is someone trying very hard to make you uncomfortable (denial? puh-lease) over such an issue.
Here's a Holiday Season Tip, though. Sometimes there's this voice in my head, the one that reminds me of when I've messed up, especially when the mess up is humiliating. I literally, in my head, tell that voice to f*ck off. That's a technique I learned from a therapist (called narrative dialog), and it works (like a charm) for me. When that voice is particularly annoying (or my annoyance threshold is low), I have been known to give voice to that two word expression. One time, there I was, in the midst of the most congested shopping crowds, and I quite loudly gave voice to it. "F*ck off!", I yelled. Suddenly, dead silence all around. And it was like a parting of the sea. I walked straight up to the cash register. The lineup had vanished.
Welcome to Babbleland, mrgentle1. Make yourself at home.
Lar
Posted by ace on December 9, 2005, at 11:44:19
In reply to Re: Talking to Yourself » mrgentle1, posted by Larry Hoover on December 9, 2005, at 11:29:27
> > Hi Guys.. I have been told that EVERYONE talks to themselves out aloud. I am pretty sure that I don't and I am being told that I am in denial.. I understand that people sometimes say their thoughts out aloud but Im not one of those people. Am I not a normal person unless I say things out aloud to myself ??
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> I read your three posts on the subject, and this other person is wrong.
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> If one accepts that it is normal to talk to oneself, it does not make it abnormal if one doesn't. Simple as that. What isn't normal is someone trying very hard to make you uncomfortable (denial? puh-lease) over such an issue.
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> Here's a Holiday Season Tip, though. Sometimes there's this voice in my head, the one that reminds me of when I've messed up, especially when the mess up is humiliating. I literally, in my head, tell that voice to f*ck off. That's a technique I learned from a therapist (called narrative dialog), and it works (like a charm) for me. When that voice is particularly annoying (or my annoyance threshold is low), I have been known to give voice to that two word expression. One time, there I was, in the midst of the most congested shopping crowds, and I quite loudly gave voice to it. "F*ck off!", I yelled. Suddenly, dead silence all around. And it was like a parting of the sea. I walked straight up to the cash register. The lineup had vanished.
>
> Welcome to Babbleland, mrgentle1. Make yourself at home.
>
> Lar
>Is it necessary to use cuss words?
Posted by jamestheyonger on December 9, 2005, at 12:25:42
In reply to Re: Talking to Yourself, posted by mrgentle1 on December 9, 2005, at 0:34:04
"See here is the thing.. The topic of talking to yourself came up in a conversation I was having with my friends wife. "
Consider the source and if they have any professional qualifications to speak with authority on whatever subject. Question all absolute statements when made on anything as complex as human behavior.
Posted by Larry Hoover on December 9, 2005, at 12:38:31
In reply to Re: Talking to Yourself » Larry Hoover, posted by ace on December 9, 2005, at 11:44:19
> Is it necessary to use cuss words?Of course not. I'm sorry my anecdote offended your sensibilities.
Lar
Posted by gardenergirl on December 9, 2005, at 16:10:53
In reply to Re: Talking to Yourself » ace, posted by Larry Hoover on December 9, 2005, at 12:38:31
Thanks for sharing your coping strategy with us.
:)gg
Posted by ed_uk on December 11, 2005, at 15:20:38
In reply to I laughed. I can just picture it. » Larry Hoover, posted by gardenergirl on December 9, 2005, at 16:10:53
I say my thoughts out loud sometimes, but only when I'm alone. It helps me concentrate.
Ed
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