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Posted by DaisyM on November 5, 2003, at 0:28:02
I find that because the past few weeks have been so tough and awful (last week I was in 3 times and on the phone once)I wanted this week to be better -- but not for me, for my Therapist. I am convinced that he must be getting tired of me being so sad about everything. Monday I tried to steer clear of the painful topics and talk about more areas where I still feel in charge (or can pretend to be) so he could feel like I was getting better or at least trying to feel stronger, but we ended up in a dark place anyway.
But life remains hard, I'm sad and anxious, there have been two very stressful events in the past 2 days and tonight my son told me that he use to think I was supermom before he knew I had my own problems and my own counselor. Wow, that hurt -- not that he meant it that way.
I promised myself this week I would get through it on my own, no crisis calls and no sad and whining on Thursday night. It is just impossible.
Can I ask him to do all the talking instead?
-D
Posted by KimberlyDi on November 5, 2003, at 13:17:44
In reply to Wanting to have a positive session, posted by DaisyM on November 5, 2003, at 0:28:02
You can't take on the weight of having to fake it for your therapist. You are not responsible for the therapist's feeling of success. Even if you feel you are having a setback in your progress, you aren't a failure. Honesty has to be the most important factor in therapy. Honesty and trust. You be yourself.
My son thought I was supermom also. He no longer has me on a pedestal. He knows I have fears too. He tells me "It's ok Mom, I just want you to be happy." It's ok not to be perfect. Your son will still love you.
You'll be ok. Good luck.
KDi in Texas
I find that because the past few weeks have been so tough and awful (last week I was in 3 times and on the phone once)I wanted this week to be better -- but not for me, for my Therapist. I am convinced that he must be getting tired of me being so sad about everything. Monday I tried to steer clear of the painful topics and talk about more areas where I still feel in charge (or can pretend to be) so he could feel like I was getting better or at least trying to feel stronger, but we ended up in a dark place anyway.
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> But life remains hard, I'm sad and anxious, there have been two very stressful events in the past 2 days and tonight my son told me that he use to think I was supermom before he knew I had my own problems and my own counselor. Wow, that hurt -- not that he meant it that way.
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> I promised myself this week I would get through it on my own, no crisis calls and no sad and whining on Thursday night. It is just impossible.
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> Can I ask him to do all the talking instead?
> -D
Posted by Dr. Bob on November 5, 2003, at 19:10:57
In reply to Wanting to have a positive session, posted by DaisyM on November 5, 2003, at 0:28:02
> I find that because the past few weeks have been so tough and awful (last week I was in 3 times and on the phone once)I wanted this week to be better -- but not for me, for my Therapist...
Since this is about therapy rather than medication, I'd like to redirect follow-ups to Psychological Babble. Here's a link:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20031030/msgs/276803.html
Thanks,
Bob
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