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Posted by msdibbs on September 28, 2003, at 14:54:22
Guess I'm having a big ol' pitty party today, but hey, it's my birthday and I sititng here with just me and my computer and a brain slicing headache. My fiance just stormed out of house mumbling something about me just feeling sorry for myself and he can't take this anymore. He can't take it anymore? Hell, I stopped taking this med (which was making me feel great), simply because my sex drive to a nose dive. In the past three weeks, the weaning off process has been the hardest experience of my life. Through my tears this morning, I shouted at him, that if I had any other infliction (diabetes,cancer, etc), and was feeling sick from the meds, he'd be at my bedside -but because this is something he can't understand, he chalks it up to me being silly. I am the only one who feels this way?
I am feeling rather pathetic right now, but honestly the people out there writing these posts seem like the closest thing I have to "understanding" friends...........
Posted by linkadge on September 28, 2003, at 17:49:09
In reply to B'day blues coming off Effexor, posted by msdibbs on September 28, 2003, at 14:54:22
I don't mean to sound rude, but your sexual health pales in comparison to your mental health. Sex alone cannot and will not prevent major depression (if yours decides to return).
At least in most people's books it can't.You can try alternatives like SAMe, SJW, fish oil, folic acid + b12, but in the end if they don't work you may have to go back to prescription drugs. You must make it plain and clear to him, that this is the illness you have, 'take me as I am or leave me'. The last thing you want to do is develop a relationship that a partner cannot except in its present form.
Some people foolishly think that a relationship/marriage/love can cure depression. If somebody has a genetic predisposition, then it will always be lurking in the background. He needs to know that the possibility will always be there, because it will. New drugs will inevitably come out yes - but in my opinion, if a parner cannot be with you in your worst - they don't diserve to be with you in your best.
Linkadge
Posted by curiouskitty on September 28, 2003, at 19:27:21
In reply to B'day blues coming off Effexor, posted by msdibbs on September 28, 2003, at 14:54:22
If you are going to be seriously depressed when you go off Effexor, is it really worth it? This depression thing and the treatment process can be the difference between life and death. Yes -- it is a =life= and =death= illness!
Are you really prepared to be sad like that again?
I'm sorry that your S.O. is not being more supportive, but you have to take care of yourself first. No one else will be able to heal you, and sadly, there is no "magic sex" that will fix it, either. (Wouldn't *that* be nice if it were?!?)
In the meantime, perhaps you could talk to your doctor about something like Wellbutrin SR to balance out the sexual side effects? It has worked for some, and you may be one of the lucky ones that may benefit from this.
Good Luck and take care -- curiouskitty
> Guess I'm having a big ol' pitty party today, but hey, it's my birthday and I sititng here with just me and my computer and a brain slicing headache. My fiance just stormed out of house mumbling something about me just feeling sorry for myself and he can't take this anymore. He can't take it anymore? Hell, I stopped taking this med (which was making me feel great), simply because my sex drive to a nose dive. In the past three weeks, the weaning off process has been the hardest experience of my life. Through my tears this morning, I shouted at him, that if I had any other infliction (diabetes,cancer, etc), and was feeling sick from the meds, he'd be at my bedside -but because this is something he can't understand, he chalks it up to me being silly. I am the only one who feels this way?
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> I am feeling rather pathetic right now, but honestly the people out there writing these posts seem like the closest thing I have to "understanding" friends...........
Posted by loolot on September 28, 2003, at 22:24:39
In reply to B'day blues coming off Effexor, posted by msdibbs on September 28, 2003, at 14:54:22
I think we must be long lost twins. I had basically the same experience a month ago on my birthday coming off effexor with the same reaction from my boyfriend. I went off it for weight gain and sexual problems. Sounds like you might be having the emotional crash. Im sooo sorry. But, take heart , it will get better.
I dont agree with the other posters, there are oter meds for you to try which dont have sexual side effects. Have you been on Wellbutrin?
There are other options as well
One thing you need to do NOW is make an appointment with a good PDoc and get some new meds before you are too debilitated to do anything for yourself. Just get yourself to that phone tomorrow and call, no matter what!
Posted by Jasmine Neroli on October 1, 2003, at 0:04:04
In reply to Re: B'day blues coming off Effexor » msdibbs, posted by loolot on September 28, 2003, at 22:24:39
I'm so sorry you had such a crappy birthday, coming off almost any drug used around here causes symptoms equal to any miserable illness/disease.
I can relate soooooo much, cuz just the other day I was told by a "friend" that I too "was being stupid" when I had another in a series of recent anxiety attacks and went semi-hysterical!!! It's hard for others to understand...you can't "see" mental illness, it's invisible, except to the ones suffering.
Keep up your search for a drug that works, with as few side effects, for you, as poss. Basically, that's what everyone here is after!!
Get your fiancee to read some posts to this site..it would be a good education!
Take care.
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