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Posted by lynn971 on February 3, 2006, at 16:02:41
In reply to Re: Whats to fix? » nout, posted by crazy teresa on February 3, 2006, at 14:41:51
Phillipa,
You are one of the sweetest people I know. I also know that you would never do anything to hurt someone on purpose.
I do know that you sincerely was curious about if Fondly Phillipa was condensending. I also know that if you felt that it was condensending you would change it in a heartbeat. I personally do not think it is condensending. I like it. It is actually refreshing.
YOu did not do anything wrong. I know your heart.'
Love,
Lynn
Posted by lynn971 on February 3, 2006, at 16:09:57
In reply to Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by Phillipa on January 30, 2006, at 14:03:16
I want to start off by saying that I do not think that you are a bad person. Please do not be sad.
Many people got defensive on behalf of Phillipa because we have sort of become a family and we don't want anyone hurting a "family" member.
If other babblers knew that you were the one who emailed Phillipa, I don't think that they would have taken it as bad because you are a member of the "family"
For all we know it could have been someone who doesnt post anymore or someone who we dont really know because they do not post often.
I keep getting strange emails myself.
I really dont think that the people here are against you.
Luv ya,
Lynn
Posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 16:36:59
In reply to Re: Whats to fix? » nout, posted by Gabbix2 on February 3, 2006, at 14:55:27
**just post under different name?
Are you advocating violating the rules; or are you insinuating that I have already done so?
Posted by Gabbix2 on February 3, 2006, at 16:41:12
In reply to Re: Whats to fix? » Gabbix2, posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 16:36:59
no
Posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 16:47:47
In reply to Re: Whats to fix? » nout, posted by Gabbix2 on February 3, 2006, at 16:41:12
Thank you, I am okay now . Appreciate your quick response.
Posted by Dinah on February 3, 2006, at 17:18:07
In reply to Whats to fix? » crazy teresa, posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 13:19:34
> Poor Phillipa, being in such good company just to be turned on totally unnecessarily.
Please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down.
Dinah, acting as deputy for Dr. Bob
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
Follow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above posts, should of course themselves be civil.
Posted by Gabbix2 on February 3, 2006, at 18:40:03
In reply to I let it go...(((((hugs)))))) » Gabbix2, posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 16:47:47
Thank-you
I shouldn't have even gotten involved in this.
I can't think of an excuse though :{
Posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 18:51:40
In reply to Re: I let it go...(((((hugs)))))) » nout, posted by Gabbix2 on February 3, 2006, at 18:40:03
> Thank-you
> I shouldn't have even gotten involved in this.
> I can't think of an excuse though :{
>
> Me either. I was just trying to defend HER (not "we" as originally posted) I'll craw back under my rock now with my PBC. How dumb of me. lol N&out
Posted by crazy teresa on February 3, 2006, at 19:02:42
In reply to Re: Fan-freaking-tastic! » crazy teresa, posted by Phillipa on February 3, 2006, at 11:35:51
Posted by TexasChic on February 3, 2006, at 20:32:20
In reply to Re: Justyourlaugh, posted by lynn971 on February 3, 2006, at 16:09:57
JYL:
Oh my God! I feel so bad and apologize for my insentive words. Of course I didn't think the person they were about would actually read them! I thought it was some random person that Phillipa knows who was trying to put her down. But that's with it taken out of context! I'm sure you weren't trying to be offensive or anything like that. Please don't feel bad JYL. Like Lynn said, if we had known it was you, we would not have reacted the way we did. Please don't feel bad about this. Babblemail me. You can tell me I need a dictionary because I can't spell. Oh, and that I babble on like an idiot sometimes. I'm sure there's more.Phillipa:
You shouldn't feel bad either. Your question had no ill intent, things went arry like they do in a chatroom. See, I can't even spell 'arry'.-T
Posted by TexasChic on February 3, 2006, at 21:15:09
In reply to Whats to fix? » crazy teresa, posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 13:19:34
>> I don't beleive it! Talk about mole-hills to mountains ! lol (don't mean to offend the mole or the mountain)Who else would be aware of the term "Fondly" EXCEPT a fellow Babbler. Besides, we were asking opinions about it's meaning, we were not personally attacking Anyone. Does it matter who said what to form an opinion
It DOES matter who said what to form an opinion. The written word without any tone or facial expressions is extremely ambiguous. Knowing who said it would have completely changed the meaning.
>I hate to think the politics are so bad that we have to dance on egg shells. I am definetly going to "lurk" for my own saftey because wishy-washy fence sitters can jump either way. Be strong and stand behind your opinion or don't say something you don't mean. Poor Phillipa, being in such good company just to be turned on totally unnecessarily. Hey, at least she got some activity going!
We are here to support each other, if that means we're dancing on eggshells, so be it. Its not politics, its caring about your fellow man. And its just the right thing to do.
Just to set the record straight, nobody turned on Phillipa. She posed an entirely innocent question and we all jumped to conclusions that this was someone attacking her. But knowing it was JYL changes the meaning. Its so easy to get all messed up like this in this environment.
I hope Phillpa and JYL both feel better about this and know neither was at fault. Its just the nature of the beast, chatrooms in this instance.
-T
Posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 21:50:53
In reply to Re: Whats to fix?, posted by TexasChic on February 3, 2006, at 21:15:09
My better judgement tells me to stay under this rock, but since some of us like to beat a d*#d horse(or me) let me pose a couple of questions and pretend you don't know who is asking them.
Do you beleive in capital punishment?
If someone broke into your house, would you shoot or say "who's there"?
What is your favorite color?
What is your favorite food?Just playing d#*+#s advocate. Do your answers change depending on circumstances?
I am not trying to put anyone down,or trying to make them feel less than normal, just illustrating my point to which I made my statement. Now, can we DROP IT? Damage done, apologized,kissed and made-up
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 4, 2006, at 3:37:42
In reply to Whats to fix? » crazy teresa, posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 13:19:34
> I am definetly going to "lurk" for my own saftey
Please don't post under more than one name at the same time. If for any reason you feel you need to change your posting name, follow these steps:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#names
Follow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above post, should of course themselves be civil.
Thanks,
Bob
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 4, 2006, at 3:38:20
In reply to JYL,i apologise for my harsh reaction » Dinah, posted by wildcard11 on February 3, 2006, at 11:33:05
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 4, 2006, at 3:38:27
In reply to Re: JustyourlaughPhillipaJustyourlaughPhillipa, posted by TexasChic on February 3, 2006, at 20:32:20
Posted by crazy teresa on February 4, 2006, at 9:19:28
In reply to Re: Whats to fix? » nout, posted by Gabbix2 on February 3, 2006, at 14:55:27
Posted by wildcard11 on February 4, 2006, at 10:21:08
In reply to You were right, (nm) » Gabbix2, posted by crazy teresa on February 4, 2006, at 9:19:28
Please? Phillipa is hurting, JYL is hurting and so are others. That is not why we are here is it? I hope not. This was never meant to hurt anyone but it did. I wish i could change it but i can't. Again i apologise to you JYL for getting all self righteous and b*tchy. Phillipa is a close friend of mine but that is no excuse to jump on anyone else. You were hurting too. Can we all just pull together and make this better? I'll start. I am starting a new thread to say something good about Phillipa and JYL. It's a little start but ya gotta start somewhere.
Posted by Gabbix2 on February 4, 2006, at 21:20:10
In reply to You were right, (nm) » Gabbix2, posted by crazy teresa on February 4, 2006, at 9:19:28
Thank you for noticing!
You know I couldn't really say anything myself ;)
I have a weird 6th sense that way. It's completely useless, but it's all mine..
Posted by spriggy on February 4, 2006, at 23:35:51
In reply to Re: You were right, » crazy teresa, posted by Gabbix2 on February 4, 2006, at 21:20:10
Posted by crazy teresa on February 5, 2006, at 12:23:40
In reply to I always thought fondly was your first name.. LOL (nm), posted by spriggy on February 4, 2006, at 23:35:51
I hope you're feeling better.
XOXOXO
Posted by alexandra_k on February 5, 2006, at 17:24:45
In reply to Re: blocked » nout, posted by Dr. Bob on February 4, 2006, at 3:37:42
obviously i don't get here enough ;-)
personal criticism can be hard to take. a little while back clearskies offered some personal criticism of my posting style and... i felt offended, yes.
and i reached out to other babblers for support and validation because the criticism actually hurt me and i felt very self-conscious indeed about my posting style.
but... after a day or two i was able to see that she didn't intend to hurt me.
i think...
what happened here is similar to what happens in other places too... one person is hurting and we think that to support them we too have to rail against their alleged 'persecuter'
the trouble comes when we know their alleged 'persecuter' and are we really forced to take sides?
hmm.
only in high school i would have thought...
Posted by alexandra_k on February 5, 2006, at 18:10:08
In reply to Re: just found this thread..., posted by alexandra_k on February 5, 2006, at 17:24:45
sorry... i missed the boat.
Posted by Racer on February 5, 2006, at 20:34:22
In reply to Re: Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore » Racer, posted by justyourlaugh on February 3, 2006, at 1:06:48
> racer..
> i am going to view this whole matter as a lesson..
> my head is high.{sigh}
Please keep in mind that we were all responding based solely on the limited information we had. I certainly don't know what you actually wrote, although it seems clear that Phillipa was upset by it. Based on what I did know at the time, I think my post was entirely appropriate.
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 6, 2006, at 1:46:09
In reply to Re: blocked » nout, posted by Dr. Bob on February 4, 2006, at 3:37:42
> Please don't post under more than one name at the same time.
For the record, I can't think of a reliable way to differentiate between two people using one computer (or Internet connection) and one person using two names:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#computer
So I should've said something like:
Please don't post under more than one name at the same time -- or use someone else's computer or Internet connection.
Sorry about that,
Bob
Posted by alesta on February 9, 2006, at 9:36:29
In reply to Re: Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by justyourlaugh on February 3, 2006, at 0:39:04
> ..
> ..
> do not twist "my " words..i did not "suggest", you were condesending..i was "suggesting" to you personal concerns between 2 friends..
>
> i am sad you did this..
> it makes me ill..to think my attentions were displayed as hurtful and.....
>
> i am a good moral person..
> why would you let others believe i was otherwise?
> ..
>
>hi jyl,
man, i'm really sorry...i had no idea what the situation was...i know you are a good, moral person..no doubt in my mind. the use of fondly every time probably just struck you funny or somethin...or...whatever the situation was..i understand man. you didn't do anything wrong. i'm sorry. hope you hold no hard feelings. i'd write more, but i am in dire, dire straits right now in my own life. (i'm having to hold off on babble relationships for a spell..i can't have any distractions right now..hope you guys understand.) i wasn't even going to post here at all right now...hope you're ok. don't take any of this personally please. i haven't read what you wrote me yet..i am not sure what is in the post and am too stressed to deal if it was unpleasant..so hope you understand.:) i am preoccupied w/ things right now so hope i conveyed this well enough..love, and thinking nothing negative of you!:-)
hope you can say the same??
take care,
aim
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