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Posted by Phillipa on February 3, 2006, at 11:27:31
In reply to Fan-freaking-tastic! » justyourlaugh, posted by crazy teresa on February 3, 2006, at 11:22:01
What in the world is going on? No ill intent was ever intended and certainly not to hurt another poster. All I can do is say that I am truly sorry again. I certainly didn't intend to cause problems. I thought it was only a general question and wanted to know what others thought of the word. Don't know what else to say. So I guess I better not say anymore. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by wildcard11 on February 3, 2006, at 11:33:05
In reply to Please be supportive - Wildcard and » Gabbix2, posted by Dinah on February 3, 2006, at 11:19:18
This is between you and Phillipa who is a good friend to me and has said only good things about you. I reacted harshly towards you out of the hurt for my friend and then took a step back and realized that you are hurt too. I truly hope this can be resolved and again I am sorry my temper got the best of me. This seems to be a HUGE misunderstanding between JYL and Phillipa and I truly hope it can be resolved.
Posted by crazy teresa on February 3, 2006, at 11:33:27
In reply to Re: Fan-freaking-tastic!, posted by Phillipa on February 3, 2006, at 11:27:31
Hey, JFP, I don't think this happened on purpose. It just happened.
Let's just fix it. What can we do to fix it? Anybody?
Posted by Phillipa on February 3, 2006, at 11:35:51
In reply to Re: Fan-freaking-tastic! » Phillipa, posted by crazy teresa on February 3, 2006, at 11:33:27
I've apologized what else can I do????? Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by wildcard11 on February 3, 2006, at 11:45:14
In reply to Re: I think you need to back off!!! » wildcard11, posted by Gabbix2 on February 3, 2006, at 11:01:49
I understand how JYL could feel betrayed as some people would but to my knowledge, Phillipa was under the impression that JYL no longer visited the site and was worried that *Fondly* may appear inappropriate by others also. The instant she found out that JYL had read the post, she emailed her trying to work things out which was unsuccessful. This is a big mess and i don't like anyone hurting so i hope this can be resolved.
Posted by wildcard11 on February 3, 2006, at 11:47:56
In reply to Re: Fan-freaking-tastic! » crazy teresa, posted by Phillipa on February 3, 2006, at 11:35:51
Posted by Phillipa on February 3, 2006, at 11:50:11
In reply to New thread name » Gabbix2, posted by wildcard11 on February 3, 2006, at 11:45:14
Wildcard is right that's what I did but I was told not to E-mail her again. What to do? I just don't know. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by Gabbix2 on February 3, 2006, at 12:55:54
In reply to New thread name » Gabbix2, posted by wildcard11 on February 3, 2006, at 11:45:14
I guess, under the same circumstances I would have just asked if anyone was bothered by my use of the word, rather than say someone e-mailed me and told me they didn't like it. It doesn't seem like much a difference, but the other sounds a bit more personal, I guess.
I think quite a few of us have a policy of what is said off the board, stays off the board, and that can help quite a bit.
Posted by Gabbix2 on February 3, 2006, at 12:57:45
In reply to New thread name » Gabbix2, posted by wildcard11 on February 3, 2006, at 11:45:14
. This is a big mess and i don't like anyone hurting so i hope this can be resolved.
Me too : )
Posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 13:19:34
In reply to Re: Fan-freaking-tastic! » Phillipa, posted by crazy teresa on February 3, 2006, at 11:33:27
I don't beleive it! Talk about mole-hills to mountains ! lol (don't mean to offend the mole or the mountain)Who else would be aware of the term "Fondly" EXCEPT a fellow Babbler. Besides, we were asking opinions about it's meaning, we were not personally attacking Anyone. Does it matter who said what to form an opinion, I hate to think the politics are so bad that we have to dance on egg shells. I am definetly going to "lurk" for my own saftey because wishy-washy fence sitters can jump either way. Be strong and stand behind your opinion or don't say something you don't mean. Poor Phillipa, being in such good company just to be turned on totally unnecessarily. Hey, at least she got some activity going!
Posted by muffled on February 3, 2006, at 14:03:03
In reply to muff here's a hug for no real reason » muffled, posted by alesta on January 31, 2006, at 15:13:24
> hi muffled!! i just wanted to return the favor and give you a BIG hug (you gave me one a while ago at a time when i was particularly fragile:))((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((muffy)))))))))))))
>
> i was seriously worried about you when you got blocked.
>
> aim:)***Hey, just found this post, made me smile and feel good it did!!!THX! :-)
Muffled
Posted by crazy teresa on February 3, 2006, at 14:41:51
In reply to Whats to fix? » crazy teresa, posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 13:19:34
I didn't say anything I regret. I was sorry feelings got hurt.
Posted by Gabbix2 on February 3, 2006, at 14:55:27
In reply to Whats to fix? » crazy teresa, posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 13:19:34
> I don't beleive it! Talk about mole-hills to mountains ! lol (don't mean to offend the mole or the mountain)Who else would be aware of the term "Fondly" EXCEPT a fellow Babbler.
***** quite possibly anyone else she writes to, on paper , or via e-mail..
Besides, we were asking opinions about it's meaning, we were not personally attacking Anyone.
***Saying something sounds gratuitously mean spirited isn't personal?
I am definetly going to "lurk" for my own saftey because wishy-washy fence sitters can jump either way. Be strong and stand behind your opinion or
**just post under different name?
Posted by lynn971 on February 3, 2006, at 16:02:41
In reply to Re: Whats to fix? » nout, posted by crazy teresa on February 3, 2006, at 14:41:51
Phillipa,
You are one of the sweetest people I know. I also know that you would never do anything to hurt someone on purpose.
I do know that you sincerely was curious about if Fondly Phillipa was condensending. I also know that if you felt that it was condensending you would change it in a heartbeat. I personally do not think it is condensending. I like it. It is actually refreshing.
YOu did not do anything wrong. I know your heart.'
Love,
Lynn
Posted by lynn971 on February 3, 2006, at 16:09:57
In reply to Someone Said Not To Use Fondly Anymore, posted by Phillipa on January 30, 2006, at 14:03:16
I want to start off by saying that I do not think that you are a bad person. Please do not be sad.
Many people got defensive on behalf of Phillipa because we have sort of become a family and we don't want anyone hurting a "family" member.
If other babblers knew that you were the one who emailed Phillipa, I don't think that they would have taken it as bad because you are a member of the "family"
For all we know it could have been someone who doesnt post anymore or someone who we dont really know because they do not post often.
I keep getting strange emails myself.
I really dont think that the people here are against you.
Luv ya,
Lynn
Posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 16:36:59
In reply to Re: Whats to fix? » nout, posted by Gabbix2 on February 3, 2006, at 14:55:27
**just post under different name?
Are you advocating violating the rules; or are you insinuating that I have already done so?
Posted by Gabbix2 on February 3, 2006, at 16:41:12
In reply to Re: Whats to fix? » Gabbix2, posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 16:36:59
no
Posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 16:47:47
In reply to Re: Whats to fix? » nout, posted by Gabbix2 on February 3, 2006, at 16:41:12
Thank you, I am okay now . Appreciate your quick response.
Posted by Dinah on February 3, 2006, at 17:18:07
In reply to Whats to fix? » crazy teresa, posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 13:19:34
> Poor Phillipa, being in such good company just to be turned on totally unnecessarily.
Please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down.
Dinah, acting as deputy for Dr. Bob
If you or others have questions about this or about posting policies in general, or are interested in alternative ways of expressing yourself, please see the FAQ:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
Follow-ups regarding these issues should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration. They, as well as replies to the above posts, should of course themselves be civil.
Posted by Gabbix2 on February 3, 2006, at 18:40:03
In reply to I let it go...(((((hugs)))))) » Gabbix2, posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 16:47:47
Thank-you
I shouldn't have even gotten involved in this.
I can't think of an excuse though :{
Posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 18:51:40
In reply to Re: I let it go...(((((hugs)))))) » nout, posted by Gabbix2 on February 3, 2006, at 18:40:03
> Thank-you
> I shouldn't have even gotten involved in this.
> I can't think of an excuse though :{
>
> Me either. I was just trying to defend HER (not "we" as originally posted) I'll craw back under my rock now with my PBC. How dumb of me. lol N&out
Posted by crazy teresa on February 3, 2006, at 19:02:42
In reply to Re: Fan-freaking-tastic! » crazy teresa, posted by Phillipa on February 3, 2006, at 11:35:51
Posted by TexasChic on February 3, 2006, at 20:32:20
In reply to Re: Justyourlaugh, posted by lynn971 on February 3, 2006, at 16:09:57
JYL:
Oh my God! I feel so bad and apologize for my insentive words. Of course I didn't think the person they were about would actually read them! I thought it was some random person that Phillipa knows who was trying to put her down. But that's with it taken out of context! I'm sure you weren't trying to be offensive or anything like that. Please don't feel bad JYL. Like Lynn said, if we had known it was you, we would not have reacted the way we did. Please don't feel bad about this. Babblemail me. You can tell me I need a dictionary because I can't spell. Oh, and that I babble on like an idiot sometimes. I'm sure there's more.Phillipa:
You shouldn't feel bad either. Your question had no ill intent, things went arry like they do in a chatroom. See, I can't even spell 'arry'.-T
Posted by TexasChic on February 3, 2006, at 21:15:09
In reply to Whats to fix? » crazy teresa, posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 13:19:34
>> I don't beleive it! Talk about mole-hills to mountains ! lol (don't mean to offend the mole or the mountain)Who else would be aware of the term "Fondly" EXCEPT a fellow Babbler. Besides, we were asking opinions about it's meaning, we were not personally attacking Anyone. Does it matter who said what to form an opinion
It DOES matter who said what to form an opinion. The written word without any tone or facial expressions is extremely ambiguous. Knowing who said it would have completely changed the meaning.
>I hate to think the politics are so bad that we have to dance on egg shells. I am definetly going to "lurk" for my own saftey because wishy-washy fence sitters can jump either way. Be strong and stand behind your opinion or don't say something you don't mean. Poor Phillipa, being in such good company just to be turned on totally unnecessarily. Hey, at least she got some activity going!
We are here to support each other, if that means we're dancing on eggshells, so be it. Its not politics, its caring about your fellow man. And its just the right thing to do.
Just to set the record straight, nobody turned on Phillipa. She posed an entirely innocent question and we all jumped to conclusions that this was someone attacking her. But knowing it was JYL changes the meaning. Its so easy to get all messed up like this in this environment.
I hope Phillpa and JYL both feel better about this and know neither was at fault. Its just the nature of the beast, chatrooms in this instance.
-T
Posted by nout on February 3, 2006, at 21:50:53
In reply to Re: Whats to fix?, posted by TexasChic on February 3, 2006, at 21:15:09
My better judgement tells me to stay under this rock, but since some of us like to beat a d*#d horse(or me) let me pose a couple of questions and pretend you don't know who is asking them.
Do you beleive in capital punishment?
If someone broke into your house, would you shoot or say "who's there"?
What is your favorite color?
What is your favorite food?Just playing d#*+#s advocate. Do your answers change depending on circumstances?
I am not trying to put anyone down,or trying to make them feel less than normal, just illustrating my point to which I made my statement. Now, can we DROP IT? Damage done, apologized,kissed and made-up
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