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Posted by giget on June 20, 2003, at 11:26:28
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me » Sabina, posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 18:11:17
I completely feel like an outsider. I have always felt that way in my life, as through I stand out and everyone notices the womyn on the outside of the party.
Here I feel like an outsider also. It just seems like people are not talking when I need them too. They seem to answer other people, I don't know.
BUT the time I really needed someone to get me out of the black hole... everyone here was there for me. That is what made me choose to stay posting. Now that I am sorta on the mend, I hope to help someone else.
> I know the outsider feeling. Do you ever stand in a group of people, in a social or nonsocial setting, and feel like not only do you not fit in with them, but they seem to be in another dimension or somehow miles away? I feel that so often, and the feeling reaches back to at least kindergarten. I know it's probably an anxiety thing, derealization or depersonalization or something. It stinks.
>
> I'm glad to have here too.
Posted by Dinah on June 20, 2003, at 13:09:23
In reply to Maybe it's just me, posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 16:05:55
The stuff I was picking up on really was real, and not a figment of my imagination. It doesn't really matter to me the whys or wherefores as much as the fact that I'm not imagining things that aren't there.
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20030508/msgs/235444.html
I hope he/she feels better soon, and I'm sorry I didn't reach out a hand to the posts. I was just too confused and was wondering about what was real too much.
Posted by Dinah on June 20, 2003, at 13:11:37
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me, posted by giget on June 20, 2003, at 11:26:28
I'm sorry you feel that way, Giget. But it's such a common feeling that I'm sure it has to be part of the way the message board system works rather than anything personal to you.
Why don't we start an introductions thread for all the new people, and lots of the old people to tell as much or as little as they like about themselves and we can all start over again?
Posted by kalyb on June 20, 2003, at 13:33:32
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me » kalyb, posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 16:34:27
> It's the posts that seem to be hinting that certain posters understand what other posters are saying, or know who they are, or things like that. Even in the cases where I can pretty easily guess what's going on. Because then I feel like I need to be very careful in what I say so as not to give away what I think I might know.
-------------------------I've only been here for 6 weeks, and at first I glanced at the PB Social board and thought that everyone knew everyone else. It was daunting. I stuck to reading about meds on PB instead.
Then I started reading more Social posts. I can't remember what my first post was, but it might have been someone with a problem that I totally empathised with. So I posted. Then I got frustrated with things and posted a vent/rant and got masses of sympathy. I realised that here is the one place on earth and cyberspace where there are people who understand.
I feel safe here. I feel I can let my imagination run riot if I like. I can reveal my feelings. I can rant. I can hug. I can dredge up pearls of wisdom I didn't know I had and see them please someone who is hurting, which in turn makes me happy and feel valued. I can speak to total strangers here without fear of rejection. I can even tease without fear of it backfiring.
I guess I've got to the point where I value this board so much, and find it so helpful, that I no longer see it as a private party or a clique. All social groups, societies, clubs and gatherings have cliques anyway, and to outsiders they always look closer and more buddy-buddy than they are on the inside. You either let that bother you, or you join one of your own and enjoy just being there, and it's good to remember to look out for newcomers staring at you, afraid of your clique, thinking they've walked into the wrong party - extend a hand of welcome if you can.
Kalyb xx
Posted by Tabitha on June 20, 2003, at 14:37:11
In reply to Re: Well, at least I'm not crazy, posted by Dinah on June 20, 2003, at 13:09:23
now that's strange. I was convinced I knew ALS as someone else.. but not a 'she'.
funny, I was thinking of changing my name too.. but I'd tell everybody. clean underwear indeed.
Tabitha was the name of my first cat, but it's also the name of a corny soap-opera character. I fear the tacky association.
Posted by giget on June 20, 2003, at 14:52:32
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me » giget, posted by Dinah on June 20, 2003, at 13:11:37
That is ok.. it is life.
I only have internet at work, so I will be gone all weekend, but if you start a thred I will surely be there on Monday morning... 7:45am.
I think it would be good to get to know people!
Thanks
> I'm sorry you feel that way, Giget. But it's such a common feeling that I'm sure it has to be part of the way the message board system works rather than anything personal to you.
>
> Why don't we start an introductions thread for all the new people, and lots of the old people to tell as much or as little as they like about themselves and we can all start over again?
Posted by Zo on June 20, 2003, at 19:51:20
In reply to Maybe it's just me, posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 16:05:55
Dinah,
Would you email me at zo19 at yahoo dot com ? I've got some personal information for you.
Warmly,
Zo
Posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:14:59
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me » Dinah, posted by Zo on June 20, 2003, at 19:51:20
Posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:16:08
In reply to deja vieu jr hi (nm), posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:14:59
Posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:17:44
In reply to deja vieu jr hi (nm), posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:14:59
Posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:19:31
In reply to Is Zo zenhussy? (nm), posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:16:08
Posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:21:54
In reply to is melodrama fun? (nm), posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:19:31
Posted by Dinah on June 20, 2003, at 20:22:34
In reply to Is Zo zenhussy? (nm), posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:16:08
Posted by Dinah on June 20, 2003, at 20:22:59
In reply to deja vieu jr hi (nm), posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:14:59
Posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:22:59
In reply to is melodrama fun? (nm), posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:19:31
Posted by Dinah on June 20, 2003, at 20:23:29
In reply to is melodrama fun? (nm), posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:19:31
Posted by Dinah on June 20, 2003, at 20:24:46
In reply to I'm out with the out group (nm), posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:21:54
We in the out group prefer to think of it as the alternate clique. :)))
(Just kidding guys)
Posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:25:06
In reply to Re: is melodrama fun? No, it's not. (nm) » OddipusRex, posted by Dinah on June 20, 2003, at 20:23:29
Posted by Dinah on June 20, 2003, at 20:26:10
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me » Dinah, posted by Zo on June 20, 2003, at 19:51:20
Zo, feel free to email me. My address is listed in the FAQ.
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#deputies
Is everything ok?
Dinah
Posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:27:00
In reply to so what's the big secret? waarmly (nm) » Dinah, posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:25:06
Posted by Dinah on June 20, 2003, at 20:30:35
In reply to so what's the big secret? waarmly (nm) » Dinah, posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:25:06
I was a bit afraid I was having some reality testing problems again.
Some people have buttons about self injury or suicide. Mine is a fear of going mad. Mad I tell you. Mad.
I laugh, but it's a relatively serious concern of mine, triggered when I think I see relationships between things, but I'm not sure if I'm imagining it. I like to think I'm usually right because I have good intuition but just don't have all the information. But who can know?
So there. Everyone knows now how to drive me round the bend. (Of course, I trust you implicitly, Oddipus)
Posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:36:06
In reply to emotional blackmail spread around the pain (nm) » OddipusRex, posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:27:00
borderline sadists in masquerade masks sucking the life out of everyone around them whiny babies self pitying narcissistic succubi still give me your number and I'll call 911 for you Life is Good!!!!!!
Posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:38:29
In reply to boil and bubble, posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:36:06
Poops on the sidewalk and hides to see who'll step in it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
Posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:43:26
In reply to The dog poet, posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:38:29
Posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:45:25
In reply to don't trust no chicks quoting ladylazurus (nm), posted by OddipusRex on June 20, 2003, at 20:43:26
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