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Posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 16:05:55
And heaven knows it could be, because I'm in a lousy mood.
But lately it seems like Babble has become an in club and I just don't get the jokes. People seem to be talking in code. Passing notes to friends. I do see the point in changing identities and getting a fresh start, and I'm equally sure there are legitimate off board reasons to change posting names. But it seems that some people are in the know, and others aren't. And I'm one of the nots. I'm wondering with all the new posters if they're someone I should know.
On the other hand, I'm in a vile humor, so perhaps I should just go hide till I'm feeling better.
Posted by kalyb on June 19, 2003, at 16:13:26
In reply to Maybe it's just me, posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 16:05:55
Hmm. No, I don't think it's just you. But I don't think it's anything to worry about either, Dinah.
don't forget - we're all nuts on here anyway, and therefore entitled - nay, obligated! - to make no sense sometimes.
[And that was most definitely a joke, before anyone gets upset!]
Kalyb xx
Posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 16:34:27
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me, posted by kalyb on June 19, 2003, at 16:13:26
:-)
It's not the posts that make no sense that are grating on me. If it was clear to me that it was just poetic or enigmatic, that would be fine.
It's the posts that seem to be hinting that certain posters understand what other posters are saying, or know who they are, or things like that. Even in the cases where I can pretty easily guess what's going on. Because then I feel like I need to be very careful in what I say so as not to give away what I think I might know.
It's making my head spin.
Posted by NikkiT2 on June 19, 2003, at 17:28:36
In reply to Maybe it's just me, posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 16:05:55
Exactly how I feel Dinah.. I used to post here sooo much, and these days I just feel so "Not part of the crowd" I can't think of anything to say.. so often the posts are so aimed towards one person, or a group of people that there is nothing I can say in reply.
Maybe we should start our own group!! *grins*Nikki x
Posted by janejj on June 19, 2003, at 17:30:16
In reply to Maybe it's just me, posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 16:05:55
don't worry i always feel strangely inferior on this board, hence the reason I don't post much.
Janejj
Posted by Sabina on June 19, 2003, at 17:51:25
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me, posted by janejj on June 19, 2003, at 17:30:16
I've always been a bit of an outsider, so much so that I don't usually notice such things. I'm just happy to have found you guys.
Posted by shar on June 19, 2003, at 17:52:59
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me, posted by janejj on June 19, 2003, at 17:30:16
Well, I am naive and gullible, and never seem to catch on to the things other people know automatically. I believe a secret decoder ring might help.
Shall we?
Shar
Posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 18:08:31
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me, posted by janejj on June 19, 2003, at 17:30:16
Hi Janejj,
Do you mind if I ask you why you feel that way? I have had the wonderful chance of meeting a number of people when we used to go to Babble Chat that feel the same way you do. And I have invariably found that they have an immense amount to offer, and the board is much the poorer for their reticence. Is it just here, or do you feel that way elsewhere as well?
Posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 18:11:17
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me, posted by Sabina on June 19, 2003, at 17:51:25
I know the outsider feeling. Do you ever stand in a group of people, in a social or nonsocial setting, and feel like not only do you not fit in with them, but they seem to be in another dimension or somehow miles away? I feel that so often, and the feeling reaches back to at least kindergarten. I know it's probably an anxiety thing, derealization or depersonalization or something. It stinks.
I'm glad to have here too.
Posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 18:13:04
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me » Dinah, posted by NikkiT2 on June 19, 2003, at 17:28:36
Grin.
Or maybe I should follow my own advice to another poster and just jump in with both feet. I just need to come up with the internal sustenance to do it.
Posted by janejj on June 19, 2003, at 18:13:31
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me » janejj, posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 18:08:31
Hi Dinah,
Its hard to exactly explain why. Its just a feeling. The messages seem somewhat odd to me at times, I guess like others have said 'coded' and I feel stupid for not understanding or feel that they are for someone else to understand.
Its just this board I have no problems posting any where else. often times I will write a reply hee and then not post it.
janejj
Posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 18:16:20
In reply to Secret decoder ring, posted by shar on June 19, 2003, at 17:52:59
Oooh. I think it would.
I have this problem with secrets and things. One time on the board, I had the suspicion that someone was posting under two names at once. All of the sudden I was looking for that everywhere.
This feels like the same thing. I get the feeling that something's slipping past me, and suddenly it seems like everything's slipping past me.
Or I feel so stupid right now that everything just seems mysterious. One of the two.
A secret decoder ring would certainly help.
Posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 18:18:27
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me » Dinah, posted by janejj on June 19, 2003, at 18:13:31
Hi Janejj,
Hmmmm.... Could you try hitting that confirm button sometimes? Or posting to me? I promise I'm not at all scary or judgemental. I'd like to get to know you better.
Posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 18:18:52
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me, posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 18:18:27
Posted by janejj on June 19, 2003, at 18:31:30
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me, posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 18:18:27
lol, OK, I'd like to get to know you better too!
Posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 18:51:11
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me » Dinah, posted by janejj on June 19, 2003, at 18:31:30
Posted by whiterabbit on June 19, 2003, at 19:26:14
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me » Dinah, posted by janejj on June 19, 2003, at 18:31:30
I stopped posting under the name of Gracie because my husband would read my posts and give me hell about the things I wrote. But I use the name of Gracie to sign my letters because I wanted everyone on the board to know it was still me, and I believed my husband wouldn't have the patience to read every post so he could find out what I had changed my name to. Whether he's figured it out or not doesn't matter anymore because I was served with a summons just yesterday to appear in court for divorce proceedings.
-Gracie
Posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 19:38:52
In reply to Name change, posted by whiterabbit on June 19, 2003, at 19:26:14
Oh, that kind of name change doesn't get me in a tangle of thought. You were really open about it. Another poster did the same thing. No problem.
I'm sorry you were served. I know that it didn't come as a shock (there's an understatement) but it still must have been upsetting.
Posted by Emme on June 19, 2003, at 22:12:55
In reply to Maybe it's just me, posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 16:05:55
This board makes me a little sad sometimes because I feel like I can't really figure out how to connect with anyone here or "break in" to the group. Maybe that's because I don't have the time or energy to read and post enough to be a real presence here. Although I have to say that the one time I posted here in total crisis, the replies I got were so warm and smart that I saved them all so I could reread them from time to time.
Emme
Posted by whiterabbit on June 19, 2003, at 22:33:50
In reply to Re: Name change » whiterabbit, posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 19:38:52
I did know it was coming but still, actually holding the papers in your hand that your husband filed to end a 20-year relationship - it's like a hard slap across the face.
8-(
Posted by Emme on June 19, 2003, at 22:55:45
In reply to Re: Name change » Dinah, posted by whiterabbit on June 19, 2003, at 22:33:50
I'm so sorry to hear about that. I'll keep you in my thoughts.Emme
> I did know it was coming but still, actually holding the papers in your hand that your husband filed to end a 20-year relationship - it's like a hard slap across the face.
> 8-(
Posted by jane d on June 19, 2003, at 23:07:17
In reply to Re: Maybe it's just me, posted by Emme on June 19, 2003, at 22:12:55
> This board makes me a little sad sometimes because I feel like I can't really figure out how to connect with anyone here or "break in" to the group. Maybe that's because I don't have the time or energy to read and post enough to be a real presence here. Although I have to say that the one time I posted here in total crisis, the replies I got were so warm and smart that I saved them all so I could reread them from time to time.
>
> Emme
>I also am an intermittent poster. There are a lot of us here. I don't really have the energy to post properly tonight but I wanted to tell you that I felt the same way when I started posting. I think now that I was wrong about that. The "group" fluctuates from day to day - even minute to minute according to who is posting at that time. And you are a part of it as soon as you post.
Jane,
who really, really needs to go to bed now before she starts getting philosophical
Posted by Eddie Sylvano on June 20, 2003, at 9:13:54
In reply to Maybe it's just me, posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 16:05:55
> But lately it seems like Babble has become an in club and I just don't get the jokes. People seem to be talking in code. Passing notes to friends.
-------------Heh. The whole world seems like that to me, so I'm with you.
It's really only the social board that's taken this direction to any extent, which makes sense. Everything else is moderated to some end. maybe we need a babble-babble board.
Posted by yesac on June 20, 2003, at 10:27:56
In reply to Maybe it's just me, posted by Dinah on June 19, 2003, at 16:05:55
About the name change - you are right, it has nothing to do with anything on the board. In fact, I wish that I hadn't felt that I needed to change it, and I gave it a significant amount of thought before doing so. The reason I decided to change it is because my name was much too obvious (it was my initials and last name) and I didn't want anyone who knows me in *real life* to happen upon it and start reading all my posts. I'm much more open on here compared to real life.
As for feeling like an outsider, it doesn't bother me as much as it would in a real social situation, but it does occassionally get to me. What I do is just pretty much ignore the posts that I don't understand or that seem to be directed at certain people. I try to be more open in my own posts so that anyone can feel comfortable with responding, and that's how I want it to be.
Posted by slinky on June 20, 2003, at 10:41:32
In reply to name change + more » Dinah, posted by yesac on June 20, 2003, at 10:27:56
..I change my name when I'm paranoid.
Anyway, I get tired of seeing my name.
It's like putting on fresh underwear.
Yes I put on clean one's daily..although naked is the new dressed in fashion.
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