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Posted by tinydancer on March 8, 2004, at 1:53:41
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not, posted by Apperceptor on March 7, 2004, at 23:30:50
> I like the approach...I wish I remember who said it (?)...of saying you like pictures of those who mean a lot to you.
Hi App, Tiny Dancer here.
I hope I didn't say anything to cause you to feel hurt or put down in any way. I am really happy to have you here. I think you have contributed a lot of worthwhile information here. I just saw that you had quoted me there up above and decided to pipe up...
Barring my insolence, did you understand my point of view and my feelings? You can even email me if you would like:
[xxx]
That goes for anyone of course.
Posted by tinydancer on March 8, 2004, at 1:56:27
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Apperceptor, posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 23:41:43
> LOL A, no way would I ask and I know I would not do anything wrong with his picture and he most likey would not mind my asking and give me one...but I would rather send Tinydancer in there to do the job for me :) SHE'S got guts lol ..Thanks and we will see if he does..IF he does it will be posted as a new thread :) for all to see.
HAHA! Well, I don't know if I have guts, I just trust my T a lot and feel safety in asking him whatever is on my mind. But I do have a nasty habit of doing that anyway....I am giggling about this whole "doing something bad" with the picture. Really! Um, I have never done anything bad with ANY picture...Prefer to use my mind with EYES CLOSED...hahaha
Posted by tinydancer on March 8, 2004, at 1:58:48
In reply to Re: the couch.., posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 0:39:15
I'm laughing because this is something I would do. When I was dating my husband he was trying to grab me or something and I went the wrong way and fell off the bed. Really hard. We were dressed and everything, I just happened to be laying on the bed. He actually TELLS people about this. It really hurt, although it was pretty funny.
Posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 2:07:35
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Pfinstegg, posted by tinydancer on March 8, 2004, at 1:58:48
Yeah - that's the thing about couches and beds - sex is always in the air!
Posted by tinydancer on March 8, 2004, at 3:20:38
In reply to Re: the couch.. » tinydancer, posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 2:07:35
> Yeah - that's the thing about couches and beds - sex is always in the air!
LOL!!!!
Posted by fallsfall on March 8, 2004, at 7:05:02
In reply to Re: the couch.., posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 0:39:15
What a great story!!
Posted by shortelise on March 8, 2004, at 9:46:42
In reply to Re: the couch.., posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 0:39:15
lol thanks for the first laugh of my day.
ShortE
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 15:07:44
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Fallen4myT, posted by tinydancer on March 8, 2004, at 1:56:27
Oh Tinydancer I have faith in you :) and know your nasty habit of asking could work for me. I so wish I could send you in my place lol...
Now on the matter of using your mind :) you sure thats *all* you use ....giggling. DO NOT ANSWER THAT LOL LMAO!!!!!
Now you have me loling thinking of your T reading this and wondering..are her eyes open or closed right now :) (Fallen bushes AND LOL's her head off)
<Tinydancer said: "HAHA! Well, I don't know if I have guts, I just trust my T a lot and feel safety in asking him whatever is on my mind. But I do have a nasty habit of doing that anyway....I am giggling about this whole "doing something bad" with the picture. Really! Um, I have never done anything bad with ANY picture...Prefer to use my mind with EYES CLOSED...hahaha"
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 15:16:33
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not, posted by Apperceptor on March 8, 2004, at 0:53:14
OK THANKS :) Oh, it will be an experience all right lol :) I shall wait on your ideas. I AM shy so be ready....Maybe you can take a plane here and tell him you're doing a study on T's and need his picture for the yearbook he would never connect us and I want a wallet color shot :) He was in psychology Today once but no picture just some yapping on him...dang!! I am starting to lol more who thought you'd be working on ideas to help someone get a picture of their T wayyyyy too cute :D
> Let's think of a way to make this an experience for you. I think it will be. I'll get back to you, alright?
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 15:22:18
In reply to Re: the couch.., posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 0:39:15
Pfinstegg , I busted out loling so hard when I saw this. I would have died ..and loled at the same time. You sound a tad like me when I am nervous I cannot sit still and move around way too much. I am sooooo glad I do not have to lay on the sofa :D I have an odd sense of humor and the minute the pillows went off I know I would have started to lol when the necklace went....I would have been belly loling but once I left I would have died, then loled then died loling. Your T sounds like he has a GOOD sense of humor and made it easy..I hope you wear slacks :D IN CASE
Posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 15:51:13
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Pfinstegg, posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 15:22:18
Slacks are an ABSOLUTE requirement, no matter what else (lipgloss, manicure, OK hair, polish on shoes) I may or may not be able to muster on a given day. When I imagine myself lying there in a SKIRT and keeping it DOWN, I think, "well, that would be a cured Pfinstegg!" Not happening any time soon. I'm afraid. He's an absolutely wonderful analyst, but we both have our work cut out for us- for several years, at least, I think. Actually, one of my fantasies (for the future) is to wear my prettiest summer dress in there and be able to lie there quietly without having an apparel disaster!
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 16:34:08
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Fallen4myT, posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 15:51:13
Summer is coming up eh? :) I vote you wear a pretty summer dress....maybe you can add more lol's to this thread :) See, goofy as I am I would wear a skirt and or dress thats ALL I wear to see my T. I would pray I not fall off the sofa though. Ugh in your therapy he doesnt talk in that kind right? yucko if so
Posted by Dr. Bob on March 8, 2004, at 21:28:11
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Fallen4myT, posted by Apperceptor on March 7, 2004, at 22:51:47
> I read an EXCELLENT book a few years back called "A Return to Love," by Marianne Williamson, that talks about the incredible power in forgiveness...
I'd just like to plug the double double quotes feature at this site:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#amazon
The first time anyone refers to a book without using this option, I post this to try to make sure he or she at least knows about it. It's just an option, though, and doesn't *have* to be used. If people *choose* not to use it, I'd be interested why not, but I'd like that redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20020918/msgs/7717.html
Thanks!
Bob
Posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 22:02:07
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Pfinstegg, posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 16:34:08
I think it's great that you wear skirts and dresses and look your prettiest for your T! I'll do it when I safely can ( no knees flying up!) HE always looks great, which I appreciate, and I really would like to walk in there in a pink dress and heels. I'm pretty sure he would like it- and of course remark on it, so that we can have an EXTENDED discussion about my sexual feelings for him! (we have quite extensive ones as it is now, and I've got all I can handle for the moment - but there's always the future beckoning. (I did just buy the pink dress last week)
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 22:19:08
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Fallen4myT, posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 22:02:07
I think the future is now :) ye got the dress...OMG, youre talking about sex with in IN detail I sooo could not. I wish I had seen your posts on these talks..Go for it..wear the dress on a nice day and make a lunch date for after so if he askes you can say well...lunch..you would not be a liar...just keep your knees together...wow I would LOVE to hear your sessions lol....I do exactly like another poster does I dress like I am going on a date LMAO..really sad but true :) YOU CAN do it. WEAR THE PINK DRESS.....OMG its summer...go for it...then go back to slacks :)
Posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 22:34:56
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Pfinstegg, posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 22:19:08
You're just a sweetheart! Thanks! I'm going to do it when the weather is warmer - and I will watch my knees! Although sex discussions are definitely in, *lunch* is definitely out. He's a sweetheart, too, but the boundaries are ironclad there- sometimes I so wish they weren't..
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 22:47:27
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Fallen4myT, posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 22:34:56
Aww thanks and way cool on the dress. Yes pink for spring it is one of the IN colors. I do not think I worded my post too well..what I meant was have a REAL lunch date say with a girlfriend for after T so when he askes why so dressed up...without lying you can say...I am meeting a friend for lunch :D Tis sneaky but hehe would work. Then when you hit him with all the sex talk...he will be looking at legs and thinking......mmmm ya know :)
Posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 23:01:32
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Pfinstegg, posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 22:47:27
Oh, I get what you mean! Well, yes, the sex discussions WOULD be quite a bit more scary if I was lying there in the pink dress with high-heeled sandals on ( I just bought those, too!) But I think I can manage it by summer- now that you've given me this fun challenge, I don't want to let you down!
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 23:10:33
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Fallen4myT, posted by Pfinstegg on March 8, 2004, at 23:01:32
Oh man you have a killer outfit so it is a must and I will hold you to it to wear it to see T. I would think the sex talk would be not so scary as titillating :D Think HE CAN see and may ...wish away..heck he may even lose it like the people in Roger Rabbit his eyes may bug out and you may hear....oooooogaha!!!! ohhhhhgaha!!!!! He sits at your head right?????? Oh man you can REALLY get graphic your face is hidden :P I think I may be more excited about this than you lol
Posted by Pfinstegg on March 9, 2004, at 11:49:15
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Pfinstegg, posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 23:10:33
I won't let you down - promise! The dress is really a summer one, sleeveless, and the sandals very open; I need a hot day for them; where I am it's presently 38 degrees, so I'm off the hook for a bit.! But when the time comes, I'll do it- maybe with a little tanning spray. When anyone lies on a couch and talks about sex, it's usually tremendously arousing, anyway- I'll just be upping the ante by letting him know how much I wanted to be pretty for him! Would you like to " lie in" for me for a session? What would you wear? He's very tall and fit-looking, with a strong, though not exactly handsome face, lots of grey-black hair- definitely sexy himself!
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 9, 2004, at 17:04:40
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Fallen4myT, posted by Pfinstegg on March 9, 2004, at 11:49:15
wow YOU'RE making me hot lol..I wish I could see and hear all this in person (Good God I am a pervette) I can see why your summer/spring outfit would be a TAD off in lol 38 degrees but imagine what all would pop up :)in your session from all that cold :P Would you really say that to your T?...I lol and blush at this..yet....its sooo the "inner me". I would, if I were you add a lacy pink garder belt and make sure just the very tip of one of the garter and stalking showing...it will draw his mind..alllll the way up as if it isnt already. I still don't know HOW YOU CAN stand up after all that talk and look him in the face ....lol omg...way cool. You are cool I must say :) OK if it were me..I would wear a ...this is sumnmer now and you have pink so...I would wear a white dress...tight and short at the top with a flare in the skirt area..I have one in fact. nylons and heels...I have wore these btw but no couch...short skirt..red accesssories..white lace garder belt. My poor T has seen mini skirts and well outfits that has had to make him think..he even said something non T like once :) I do cross and uncross my legs a lot..Need an idea for winter? :D Youre sooo cool I bet your sessions are a riot. Mine are non cerbal but the message IS there :D
> I won't let you down - promise! The dress is really a summer one, sleeveless, and the sandals very open; I need a hot day for them; where I am it's presently 38 degrees, so I'm off the hook for a bit.! But when the time comes, I'll do it- maybe with a little tanning spray. When anyone lies on a couch and talks about sex, it's usually tremendously arousing, anyway- I'll just be upping the ante by letting him know how much I wanted to be pretty for him! Would you like to " lie in" for me for a session? What would you wear? He's very tall and fit-looking, with a strong, though not exactly handsome face, lots of grey-black hair- definitely sexy himself!
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 9, 2004, at 17:16:29
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Fallen4myT, posted by Pfinstegg on March 9, 2004, at 11:49:15
Btw, I think you and I would rather wear our T's :)
Posted by Pfinstegg on March 9, 2004, at 18:11:48
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Pfinstegg, posted by Fallen4myT on March 9, 2004, at 17:04:40
Good outfit! To get a bit more serious for a moment, don't you think we all have these feelings for a good reason? We just want to be our best, sexiest and prettiest selves- in life, and in with the Ts, who get so important and stand in for everyone else. I don't think we have to verbalize everything, either. Just having the feelings is wonderful (and helpful) even if we don't say a word. They know we are having them- and of course, we know it. It gives me a lot more self-confidence, bringing it all in. It all gets accepted in such a natural way, without any big deal being made of it, and, in the process, I get more self-accepting, too. It's as important as all the complex problems I have had with my parents, for example, but no more so. It actually makes getting up, making eye contact and walking out easier than when I try to hide it- or anything else. Well, not every time...but mostly.
I don't know if I can manage a garter belt (well,I have to be honest:I CAN'T!), but I'll be all eyes if you do! It's so much fun to fantasize and be light-hearted about THERAPY CLOTHING. Where else could we ever talk to our hearts' content about such a topic?
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 9, 2004, at 19:18:39
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Fallen4myT, posted by Pfinstegg on March 9, 2004, at 18:11:48
Lmao come on you CAN wear a garter belt they are strechy and comfy now days and I HAVE worn mine a few times..once a black leather one...and I make sure HE KNOWS :) I am kind of a big flirt body wise. I WON'T say a thing or make a move but :) Oh its so fun hunting lol...and um my T without details well has semi crossed the lines a few times and I love it. BUT somehow I cannot imagine talking like you in your sessions It must be a lol in a way and really hot. I think I would either not do it OR throw caution the the wind and make up hotter stuff than I even THINK :P
I know what you mean, its THE ONLY place I can T clothes talk lol. My husband, even checks out my panties I think he needs therapy more than I do :)
I almost always fox up but on T days it goes to the max....I love the smokey eye looks too and mega eye contact
Posted by Pfinstegg on March 9, 2004, at 20:09:10
In reply to Re: the couch.. » Pfinstegg, posted by Fallen4myT on March 9, 2004, at 19:18:39
You flirt! God bless you! And HE'S crossed the line a bit! This is all in a way much more exciting than what happens to me. Analysts don't flirt AT ALL. He's just a completely safe haven for a completely exposed me. What I do get to do is say whatever is on my mind, or whatever my body feels, so I get to learn more and more about me- what I feel and what I want- just totally private stuff one would never say to anyone. I can't actually write any of it here, but there just aren't any limits, the way there usually are in life. An awful lot of the *stuff* seems to have to do with him! It doesn't seem to matter whether I'm talking about stuff I'm actually feeling, wish I felt, wish I didn't, or am just imagining or pretending- it's all stuff he wants me to say. The most he'll say is little comments like, "it's good you're talking about that", or "remember that I said I want ALL of you in this room" (when I feel I've expressed something unacceptable). Once I said I felt jealous that he was going on vacation to Ireland where he would make love with his wife *all the time*. He said ,"doesn't seem fair, does it?" That seemed like a breath-taking admission! And it didn't seem one bit fair! How dare he?
He's awfully experienced, and manages to be intimately involved with me and all my "stuff" without ever crossing any lines- even a little! I guess that's what 30 years of experience will do..Sometimes I wonder what all of this is actually doing, because it's not problem-solving- not zeroing in on anything in particular. Instead, it's apparently helping me integrate all the different parts of me better. I do feel better- less anxious and depressed than I did a year ago, and kind of more substantial- like I am really occupying my little spot on the earth more fully.
But I don't get to flirt, and so far haven't worn a pretty dress, and I do love to hear about people who have!
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