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Posted by baseball55 on July 8, 2013, at 20:14:37
In reply to Re: a refuge(e) board, posted by SLS on July 8, 2013, at 8:44:37
I came to babble initially for the psych board. Then I was having problems with meds and found the med board. The psych board is less active than it used to be, but I don't recall any problems on the board -- hostility, arguments, etc. I think posters are mostly empathic there, since it hinges so much on our anguished relationships with therapists.. I'm not sure it needs more moderation, though it certainly needs more posters.
Posted by Phillipa on July 8, 2013, at 20:42:55
In reply to Re: a refuge(e) board, posted by Toph on July 8, 2013, at 8:40:18
My time if home is facebook and ebay. Phillipa
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 9, 2013, at 2:32:06
In reply to Re: a refuge(e) board, posted by Toph on July 8, 2013, at 8:40:18
> you are making things much too difficult for yourself and the posting community. You can begin to relieve yourself of burden by strongly suggesting to <redacted> that he maintain civility in his posts under the auspices of the rules proscribing over-generalization and exaggeration. Other people have suggested additional proscriptions that are being violated by <redacted>. If the posting behaviors you enumerate are not modified by him, then you proceed to block him from posting. The same protocol should be used to moderate my posting and those of everyone else.
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> Something about this whole situation seems odd to me. It is as if you were caught between a rock and a hard place.
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> - ScottAs far as what's too difficult for me, the old model was unsustainable and this model has (so far) been sustainable.
It's odd that I have power, but I'm not using it?
Think of it as a dialectic. Lou has taken the role of Rock. Some posters have taken the role of Hard Place. Do you ever find yourself caught between a rock and a hard place? What do you do then?
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> What if Babble is less active for reasons other than it's design or the amount of time Bob spends here? What if participation is being siphoned off by dynamic outside interests such as Facebook, Twitter, Pintarest, Instagram, blogs and countless other sites? I know they don't offer mental health support, but it appears the cyber world is evolving faster than Babble.
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> TophWhat if PB and FB are evolving in different directions?
Bob
Posted by SLS on July 9, 2013, at 5:33:39
In reply to Re: the big picture, posted by Dr. Bob on July 9, 2013, at 2:32:06
> > you are making things much too difficult for yourself and the posting community. You can begin to relieve yourself of burden by strongly suggesting to <redacted> that he maintain civility in his posts under the auspices of the rules proscribing over-generalization and exaggeration. Other people have suggested additional proscriptions that are being violated by <redacted>. If the posting behaviors you enumerate are not modified by him, then you proceed to block him from posting. The same protocol should be used to moderate my posting and those of everyone else.
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> > Something about this whole situation seems odd to me. It is as if you were caught between a rock and a hard place.> As far as what's too difficult for me, the old model was unsustainable
Surely, the old model of enforcement was.
> and this model has (so far) been sustainable.
You do what you gotta do for yourself. The health of Psycho-Babble is dependent on the health of its benefactor and moderator, whether it be psychological or physical.
> It's odd that I have power, but I'm not using it?
It would be odd were you to feel that you don't have the power.
> Think of it as a dialectic. Lou has taken the role of Rock. Some posters have taken the role of Hard Place. Do you ever find yourself caught between a rock and a hard place?Not here. I have no one else to answer to. However, I find myself being frustrated, disappointed, and sad at times. These things are dissipating, though, as my interest in participating on Psycho-Babble wanes.
- Scott
Posted by Dinah on July 9, 2013, at 8:01:44
In reply to Re: the big picture » Dr. Bob, posted by SLS on July 9, 2013, at 5:33:39
> However, I find myself being frustrated, disappointed, and sad at times. These things are dissipating, though, as my interest in participating on Psycho-Babble wanes.
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> - ScottIt would be a huge loss to Babble were you to lose interest in participating. But I do understand.
You have been so important to Babble for so long, but ultimately a poster's power is limited, and the responsibility for Babble really lies with those with the power.
Posted by Dinah on July 9, 2013, at 8:22:57
In reply to Re: the big picture, posted by Dr. Bob on July 9, 2013, at 2:32:06
> It's odd that I have power, but I'm not using it?
But...
You are using it. You aren't using it in this circumstance but you are using it. Moreover, you're also spending time talking about double quotes and clarifying posts.
There has to be more than your simply choosing not to exercise your power. Do you disagree with the stance of "some posters"?
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 9, 2013, at 9:21:45
In reply to Re: the big picture, posted by Dinah on July 9, 2013, at 8:22:57
> There has to be more than your simply choosing not to exercise your power. Do you disagree with the stance of "some posters"?
Do you ever find yourself between a rock and a hard place? What do you do then? Do you decide which you agree with?
Bob
Posted by SLS on July 9, 2013, at 11:09:33
In reply to Re: the big picture, posted by Dr. Bob on July 9, 2013, at 9:21:45
> > There has to be more than your simply choosing not to exercise your power. Do you disagree with the stance of "some posters"?
> Do you ever find yourself between a rock and a hard place? What do you do then? Do you decide which you agree with?How much would you lose if you were to choose that which you agree with? How much would Psycho-Babble lose if you were to choose that which you disagree with?
Are posting blocks no longer available to you as a tool for moderation?
- Scott
Posted by Dinah on July 9, 2013, at 11:29:33
In reply to Re: the big picture, posted by Dr. Bob on July 9, 2013, at 9:21:45
I'm afraid I don't see it as a rock and a hard place situation.
People have reported posts to you. You have done nothing about those posts. You seem to be saying you're doing nothing because you don't wish to spend time moderating. And yet you have been moderating, so that can't be the entire problem.
What you haven't said is something like "I don't think those posts are uncivil." Do you think the reported posts were in line with site rules? Are you going to amend the site guidelines about overgeneralizations, exaggerations, and accusations to fit the new reality?
Where is the rock and the hard place? One poster is posting a certain way, other posters have complained. You can either say you agree or don't agree with the posters who are complaining. Or you might say you agree and will post a warning.
Either way you have complaints, but I don't understand the rock and hard place simile as a cause of what you admit is a choice not to exercise your power.
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 9, 2013, at 15:12:04
In reply to Re: the big picture » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on July 9, 2013, at 11:29:33
> I'm afraid I don't see it as a rock and a hard place situation.
OK, reasonable people can disagree. Do you ever find yourself between a rock and a hard place? What do you do then?
Bob
Posted by Toph on July 9, 2013, at 15:55:25
In reply to Re: the big picture, posted by Dr. Bob on July 9, 2013, at 15:12:04
Posted by 10derheart on July 9, 2013, at 16:32:57
In reply to Re: the big picture, posted by Dr. Bob on July 9, 2013, at 2:32:06
>the old model was unsustainable
You've mentioned this more than once. What do you mean by the old model?
Civility?
Deputies?
Moderating?
Something else?I'm not being funny or sarcastic. I really don't know.
Posted by gardenergirl on July 9, 2013, at 16:34:05
In reply to Re: the big picture, posted by Dr. Bob on July 9, 2013, at 15:12:04
People are asking you for action, and you're giving them a process group. Imagine if a sports referee did that in response to questions about rules or complaints about a participant's actions. How could play continue?
I don't recall anyone asking you to help them process their feelings about the behavior in question. You seem to be trying to get folks to change the way they react. As Dinah pointed out, you haven't answered the main question. You're saying this is exhausting, but good lord, you're making it so much bigger than is asked of you.
My unsolicited suggestion is to keep it simple. Address the specific issue one way or another, or say directly that you are declining to. Boom, question answered.
Then, if folks ASK you to help them process it, feel free. But frankly, assuming that's what is really being asked or perhaps that's what you feel is needed feels patronizing and a little insulting, at least to me.
Posted by Phillipa on July 9, 2013, at 18:29:57
In reply to Re: the big picture, posted by Dr. Bob on July 9, 2013, at 15:12:04
If the rock can't be moved. Then I move on. Phillipa
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 9, 2013, at 18:32:00
In reply to Re: the big picture » Dr. Bob, posted by gardenergirl on July 9, 2013, at 16:34:05
> > the old model was unsustainable
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> You've mentioned this more than once. What do you mean by the old model?
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> 10derheartDepending on the administration to make this a refuge.
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> People are asking you for action, and you're giving them a process group. Imagine if a sports referee did that in response to questions about rules or complaints about a participant's actions. How could play continue?
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> You seem to be trying to get folks to change the way they react. As Dinah pointed out, you haven't answered the main question. You're saying this is exhausting, but good lord, you're making it so much bigger than is asked of you.
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> if folks ASK you to help them process it, feel free. But frankly, assuming that's what is really being asked or perhaps that's what you feel is needed feels patronizing and a little insulting, at least to me.
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> gardenergirlOnline, play can continue while we discuss.
Yes, I'm trying to get folks to change the way they react.
Yes, I'm trying to look at the big picture, too.
My posts don't have to be read or responded to either.
Maybe now I've taken the role of Hard Place.
Bob
Posted by gardenergirl on July 9, 2013, at 18:45:55
In reply to Re: the big picture, posted by Dr. Bob on July 9, 2013, at 18:32:00
> Depending on the administration to make this a refuge.Is there some reason you can't or won't just come out and say you aren't willing to moderate any more?
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> Yes, I'm trying to get folks to change the way they react.Um, you complain about this being exhausting, but you focus your energies on what you can't control as opposed to what you can? Um, hello??!!??
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> Yes, I'm trying to look at the big picture, too.
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> My posts don't have to be read or responded to either.
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> Maybe now I've taken the role of Hard Place.
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> BobYou sound a bit peeved, now. Did the mirror stung a little bit? If so, why might that be? Oh wait, now I'm trying for a therapeutic/teachable moment with you, and you surely did not ask for that from me. Not every moment needs to be a teachable and/or therapeutic one. Wait, what?
Posted by Dinah on July 9, 2013, at 18:52:10
In reply to Re: the big picture, posted by Dr. Bob on July 9, 2013, at 18:32:00
Are you saying that you don't intend to do anything with posts like the ones that have been brought to your attention?
If so, is this because you don't believe they violate the rules?
Have the rules changed?
If so, perhaps you should update the FAQ's.
I don't know if you're the hard place, but you are confusing me.
If you say that you think those rules are fine under the existing rules, we can decide what to do.
If you say they may not be but you have no intention of enforcing existing rules (and also have no intention of clarifying the new ones), then we can decide what to do.
If you aren't clear, we'll keep trying to engage you in conversation because we're confused.
Posted by Dinah on July 9, 2013, at 18:54:16
In reply to Re: the big picture » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on July 9, 2013, at 18:52:10
Well, to be honest, I think I have gotten the point that you're not going to do anything with these posts or future similar posts, and that your decision is pretty final.
What I'm not sure about is whether the rules have changed or if you are saying you're not going to enforce rules, or if you are saying you'll enforce rules sometimes but not others, and we'll never know when you'll do what.
Posted by Dinah on July 9, 2013, at 18:54:46
In reply to Re: the big picture » Dr. Bob, posted by gardenergirl on July 9, 2013, at 18:45:55
Seems like old times. :/
Posted by gardenergirl on July 9, 2013, at 19:08:36
In reply to Re: the big picture » gardenergirl, posted by Dinah on July 9, 2013, at 18:54:46
Old times, but new attitudes. :)
Posted by Dinah on July 9, 2013, at 19:09:54
In reply to Re: the big picture » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on July 9, 2013, at 19:08:36
Yup.
Posted by SLS on July 9, 2013, at 19:54:32
In reply to Re: the big picture » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on July 9, 2013, at 19:08:36
> Old times, but new attitudes. :)
What would happen if the old times had precipitated complaints from external sources?
I am not sure of anything. I still think that something is odd.
- Scott
Posted by gardenergirl on July 9, 2013, at 20:07:34
In reply to Re: the big picture » gardenergirl, posted by SLS on July 9, 2013, at 19:54:32
I'm not sure what you mean.
Posted by Phillipa on July 9, 2013, at 20:08:54
In reply to Re: the big picture » SLS, posted by gardenergirl on July 9, 2013, at 20:07:34
Not Bob and the rock isn't going to change mind so why bother? Phillipa
Posted by SLS on July 9, 2013, at 20:22:25
In reply to Re: the big picture » SLS, posted by gardenergirl on July 9, 2013, at 20:07:34
Hi GG.
> I'm not sure what you mean.
Perhaps the hard-place resides outside of Psycho-Babble.
I'm sorry to be so cryptic. It's what I don't know that prevents me from saying more.
- Scott
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