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Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
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Posted by muffled on November 10, 2010, at 16:53:02
In reply to I hope I will be a good civility buddy, posted by Deneb on November 10, 2010, at 16:38:16
> I hope I will be a good civility buddy. I must admit that I don't really follow all the posts about changing admin and such. To tell you the truth my eyes kind of just glaze over whenever Babblers go into detail about the politics here.
>
> Also I wasn't a very good greeter. I kind of just lost interest. I hope I can keep up with the civility buddy thing.Deneb, you are so amazing. watching you grow these years has been a wonderful thing :)
You have learned so much about yourself and how to function.
Maybe you can float and be a general 'helper' whereever you can...
Sometimes greet, sometimes help in other capacities.
You already do that!
You already help!
How cool is THAT!!!
:)
Posted by gardenergirl on November 11, 2010, at 11:55:18
In reply to Re: I hope I will be a good civility buddy, posted by muffled on November 10, 2010, at 16:53:02
Hope this is the right thread. I'm glad to try to help out anyone who has questions about civility or wants to babblemail me about posts.
gg
Posted by floatingbridge on November 11, 2010, at 12:15:51
In reply to Re: And how about volunteer civility buddies? » floatingbridge, posted by Dinah on November 9, 2010, at 18:22:41
> You are welcome, and I hope you consider it. If you have any questions about Dr. Bob's civility decisions, you could always ask me, or anyone else you think may understand.
>
> It would be interesting to see what could come of it. There might even be some side benefits of increased feelings of community.O.K. Dinah, you can count me in. There is one hitch--I have a young child whose
needs come first. What is the expected turn around time for a buddy's response?
Posted by Dinah on November 12, 2010, at 12:39:46
In reply to Re: And how about volunteer civility buddies?, posted by floatingbridge on November 11, 2010, at 12:15:51
That makes six of us to start with.
10derheart, Deneb, Partlycloudy, Gardenergirl, Floatingbridge, and Dinah
I'll compile the list and ask Dr. Bob to include it in the FAQ.
If anyone else is interested, just let me know.
Floatingbridge, we all have other obligations, and it would have to understood that some patience might be needed. Do you have a suggestion for a reasonable turnaround time? If a civility buddy thinks their time might be very limited for a time, perhaps she could suggest that another civility buddy be contacted if the poster would prefer not to wait.
Posted by floatingbridge on November 12, 2010, at 21:41:25
In reply to Wonderful!, gardenergirl and floatingbridge, posted by Dinah on November 12, 2010, at 12:39:46
I'm curious to find out what other babblers would want as far as response time from buddies.
The idea of a 'civility tree', similar to the telephone 'snow trees' we used in RI sounds good.
What about posting some brief information about a person's (somewhat) current availability? That way a person could use that info to decide whom to contact.
I also work with a sort of grievance committee, and we decided on a reasonable response time: 24 hours in this case. That's too long for babble.
Sometimes I may not check my email for up to 12 hours. I'd like someone contacting me to know that they aren't forgotten, lost, or a low priority.
What are reasonable expectations?
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Posted by hyperfocus on November 12, 2010, at 21:59:14
On that note one thing that would be really useful but not easy to implement would be delayed posting. Everybody has their triggers that take them to dark places. I remember reading a thread on Admin that triggered me badly because it seemed that other posters were ganging up and bullying this one poster who also had C-PTSD from the school bullying he went through. I wrote a post making explicit profane threats against everybody that would have gotten me blocked for a century if I had posted it. Thankfully I waited a few hours till I cooled down before deciding whether to send it or not.
I know it's just a pipe dream and this wouldn't be trivial to implement because it's extra work to write a batch job that runs every hour or whatever to scoop up posts in the queue, which would have its own issues with regular posting. But I bet half of the people who got blocked, if they had a few hours to think about it wouldn't have written what they did.
Posted by Dinah on November 13, 2010, at 14:50:36
In reply to Re: Delayed posting, posted by hyperfocus on November 12, 2010, at 21:59:14
I wonder if it could be selectively enacted as part of the early block reduction?
People might be more willing to have a delay than they would to have someone assigned to review their posts.
Your willpower is impressive. When I had a similar experience (as I related in another thread), it was only the fact that the site went down that saved me.
Posted by Dr. Bob on November 13, 2010, at 21:13:02
In reply to Re: some kind of Elders Council, posted by Dr. Bob on November 8, 2010, at 23:51:46
> ELDER'S COUNCIL: This might be a fabulous dual-purpose group. As already suggested, the Elder's Council could serve to work with Dr. Bob on determining whether a member really has been incivil, developing a more consistent and predictable application of blocks for those who opt out of the CB route, and fill in for Bob when he is absent or unavailable.
>
> These are all just ideas. Others may have better ideas. But it's a starting place. I don't think it has to be set up perfectly. 'Kinks' can be worked out along the way.
>
> I just think it is really, really important that movement take place, and I think whatever the system is, it must satisfy Dr. Bob's objectives for maintaining civility. A syste that circumvents blocking like I've suggested might make it easier for Bob's sometimes narrow latitude on incivility to be better tolerated, less contentious.
>
> Solstice> Solstice got good ideas
> Eg. a council of elders.
> They would cover for Bob when he gone.
> And ultimately then maybe this site would become more 'ours', and not so much just 'His'.
> My main problem is with Bobs in and out, and his judgement about some things is not what I like. he's not really that invested in Babble, yet to those who post here, it is 'home', and that is a HUGE thing. People should have some degree of safety and autonomy in their own 'home'. Then they can feel more able to more fully share etc.
>
> au·ton·o·my noun
> plural au·ton·o·mies
> Definition of AUTONOMY
> 1: the quality or state of being self-governing; especially : the right of self-government
> 2: self-directing freedom and especially moral independence
> 3: a self-governing state
>
> A council could override Bob(an effective council would).
> The balance of power would shift.
> I would have more trust(over time anyways) that a broader group of people might better have the interests of the 'present' community at heart.
> I think it might be a challenge for the elders council at times....but it could possibly work.
> The ONLY way I would be interested in being a part of all this would be if Bob was willing to relinquish some of his control.
> Ultimately, he would be the highest authority still.
> And he could be the techie guy as he is good at that.
> And then he himself can feel more free to participate somewhat, ask questions, study about topics etc...
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> muffled> Deputies covered for Bob when he was gone, and consulted among themselves for a consensus.
>
> I don't recall posters feeling any better about actions.
>
> I see it as more likely that the council would either have to allow everything to retain the good feelings of the more outspoken posters, or would grow to receive the same feelings Bob receives. In my experience, posters are less able to tolerate rage than Dr. Bob is. I think part of the secret of Babble's longevity is Bob's ability to be a container for rage.
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> I may be cynical, but I can't see people welcoming pbc's or blocks from anyone. Conversely I can't see all posters welcoming a lack of pbc's or blocks either. People tend to feel differently when they feel attacked.
>
> I do agree that Solstice has good ideas.
>
> But I don't believe the site would be better served by Dr. Bob giving over his power to a group. There would just be different problems.
>
> I am members of sites that are entirely group led. There are still splinter factions, huge blowouts and dissolvings of the group.
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> This isn't utopia.
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> Dinah> well.. the credit for the council actually belongs to hyperfocus, I believe :-) I took ideas I've seen from everywhere and just tried to see how they might fit together.
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> > They would cover for Bob when he gone.
> > And ultimately then maybe this site would become more 'ours', and not so much just 'His'.
>
> The could cover in his absence. But I think that his ownership of the site is something that we all have to figure out a way to be okay with. In many ways, it is "our" site because without us, it would not exist. But when it comes to final decisions, those things will always belong to Bob. Just as surely as he created the site, he alone has the power to dismantle it.
>
> Solstice
Posted by 10derheart on November 13, 2010, at 21:34:20
In reply to Re: some kind of Elders Council, posted by Dr. Bob on November 13, 2010, at 21:13:02
....and so.....?
Posted by floatingbridge on November 13, 2010, at 21:51:35
In reply to Re: some kind of Elders Council » Dr. Bob, posted by 10derheart on November 13, 2010, at 21:34:20
I currently will not be able to be a full civility buddy. I've written Dinah and explained my limitations :(
Personally, I feel that practing civility can be an important part of personal and interpersonal healing. I appreciate the many posters who practice civility in their personal and unique ways. They are great models for me.
Maybe, with a little remission....
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Posted by Solstice on November 13, 2010, at 22:54:09
In reply to Re: some kind of Elders Council, posted by Dr. Bob on November 13, 2010, at 21:13:02
Bob -Have you any feedback? I posted a proposal for you outlining a system for people who are blocked or under threat of block to get guidance on repairing incivility through the Civility Buddy set-up. The Proposal is further down here in its own thread. It addresses some of the potential issues you pulled together for this post you made today. Please take a look and let us know what you think.
Solstice
> > ELDER'S COUNCIL: This might be a fabulous dual-purpose group. As already suggested, the Elder's Council could serve to work with Dr. Bob on determining whether a member really has been incivil, developing a more consistent and predictable application of blocks for those who opt out of the CB route, and fill in for Bob when he is absent or unavailable.
> >
> > These are all just ideas. Others may have better ideas. But it's a starting place. I don't think it has to be set up perfectly. 'Kinks' can be worked out along the way.
> >
> > I just think it is really, really important that movement take place, and I think whatever the system is, it must satisfy Dr. Bob's objectives for maintaining civility. A syste that circumvents blocking like I've suggested might make it easier for Bob's sometimes narrow latitude on incivility to be better tolerated, less contentious.
> >
> > Solstice
>
> > Solstice got good ideas
> > Eg. a council of elders.
> > They would cover for Bob when he gone.
> > And ultimately then maybe this site would become more 'ours', and not so much just 'His'.
> > My main problem is with Bobs in and out, and his judgement about some things is not what I like. he's not really that invested in Babble, yet to those who post here, it is 'home', and that is a HUGE thing. People should have some degree of safety and autonomy in their own 'home'. Then they can feel more able to more fully share etc.
> >
> > au·ton·o·my noun
> > plural au·ton·o·mies
> > Definition of AUTONOMY
> > 1: the quality or state of being self-governing; especially : the right of self-government
> > 2: self-directing freedom and especially moral independence
> > 3: a self-governing state
> >
> > A council could override Bob(an effective council would).
> > The balance of power would shift.
> > I would have more trust(over time anyways) that a broader group of people might better have the interests of the 'present' community at heart.
> > I think it might be a challenge for the elders council at times....but it could possibly work.
> > The ONLY way I would be interested in being a part of all this would be if Bob was willing to relinquish some of his control.
> > Ultimately, he would be the highest authority still.
> > And he could be the techie guy as he is good at that.
> > And then he himself can feel more free to participate somewhat, ask questions, study about topics etc...
> >
> > muffled
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> > Deputies covered for Bob when he was gone, and consulted among themselves for a consensus.
> >
> > I don't recall posters feeling any better about actions.
> >
> > I see it as more likely that the council would either have to allow everything to retain the good feelings of the more outspoken posters, or would grow to receive the same feelings Bob receives. In my experience, posters are less able to tolerate rage than Dr. Bob is. I think part of the secret of Babble's longevity is Bob's ability to be a container for rage.
> >
> > I may be cynical, but I can't see people welcoming pbc's or blocks from anyone. Conversely I can't see all posters welcoming a lack of pbc's or blocks either. People tend to feel differently when they feel attacked.
> >
> > I do agree that Solstice has good ideas.
> >
> > But I don't believe the site would be better served by Dr. Bob giving over his power to a group. There would just be different problems.
> >
> > I am members of sites that are entirely group led. There are still splinter factions, huge blowouts and dissolvings of the group.
> >
> > This isn't utopia.
> >
> > Dinah
>
> > well.. the credit for the council actually belongs to hyperfocus, I believe :-) I took ideas I've seen from everywhere and just tried to see how they might fit together.
> >
> > > They would cover for Bob when he gone.
> > > And ultimately then maybe this site would become more 'ours', and not so much just 'His'.
> >
> > The could cover in his absence. But I think that his ownership of the site is something that we all have to figure out a way to be okay with. In many ways, it is "our" site because without us, it would not exist. But when it comes to final decisions, those things will always belong to Bob. Just as surely as he created the site, he alone has the power to dismantle it.
> >
> > Solstice
Posted by Dinah on November 14, 2010, at 0:23:58
In reply to resignation, with hope...., posted by floatingbridge on November 13, 2010, at 21:51:35
There are many ways to contribute at Babble, and all your contributions are valuable.
Posted by Dr. Bob on November 27, 2010, at 1:53:12
In reply to Re: Amnesty, posted by Dr. Bob on November 8, 2010, at 23:51:37
> if wholesale release isn't the best idea, then maybe reducing everyone's block to 10% of its original length or something similar would provide for a more gradual influx.
>
> Solsticehttp://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969512.html
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Posted by Dr. Bob on November 27, 2010, at 1:57:49
In reply to And how about volunteer civility buddies?, posted by Dinah on November 9, 2010, at 8:58:48
> CIVILITY BUDDIES: The only way a wholesale release of Blocks will be successful is if the incivility continues to be managed. A system using Civility Buddies is worth trying. Right now, people can volunteer to be CB's, and members under threat of block can ask for help from CB's. That works great for people who have sufficient insight to realize they need to get assistance. Those folks don't generally end up with these unbelievable blocks, though. Maybe there can be a process where a member cited for incivility chooses i) get a Civility Buddy to walk them through the process of repairing the incivility and making it 'right'; or ii)default to however Bob wants to handle their incivility. This puts the power in the hands of the infractor. Maybe it can be set up for a temporary suspension of posting privileges by CB's until the infractor decides which route to take - and release of of the suspension is contingent on the infractor's cooperation with their Civility Buddy. There are a multitude of ways a Civility Buddy system can work when a potential block is being handled.
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> Solsticehttp://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969512.html
> Posters who got blocked might not agree that their post was incivil. They may think the block is unfair. But if they want the block lifted, they will have to cooperate with a CB who can help them figure out how to think and feel about what happened in a way that helps themn stay within the guidelines and make repair - even if they don't feel like what they said did any harm. You mentioned having a part that sometimes gets disruptive for you, and how you tell that part to step to the background and wait until you have time to give the attention that part's asking for. It's kind of the same with this. We have to defer to Bob's civility guidelines because it is his site. Someone has to set the standard. He gets to make the rules for the 'world' he created. A Babbler that's been blocked is a little like that 'disruptive part' you mentioned. They are told to take a back seat. Then a Civility Buddy can 'sit down with them' and try to help them figure it out.
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> There is just no way to avoid the reality that we have a Leader who has some authority that no one else can have. It's the only way for a group to survive and thrive.> > I would have more trust(over time anyways) that a broader group of people might better have the interests of the 'present' community at heart.
>
> I think trust will build over time if the system works. Bob won't look like such a 'bad guy' because blocked members would have the ability to get themselves out of trouble. Not by duking it out with him over the merits of the block, but by putting themselves into the CB process to make reparations.
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> Solsticehttp://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969637.html
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Posted by Free on November 27, 2010, at 2:22:07
In reply to Re: realistic possibilities » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on November 10, 2010, at 9:14:36
Posted by Dinah on Amnesty thread: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969567.html
> If this is implemented, I think it would be important to have some criteria for parole. Leaving it entirely to the choice of the parole board, so to speak, might lead to conscious or unconscious favoring of the popular, or confusion and distrust by posters.
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> The criteria could be developed by you, or by the council, or through discussion and at least partial consensus on the administration board.
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> But transparency has always been a value on Babble, and I think it's a value that should continue in any implementation of parole. People should be able to understand if they might meet criteria before they apply, and why they were rejected if they were rejected. People should be able to understand the process, and the likely result, IMO.
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> Otherwise it would lead to more confusion and anger than exist with civility guidelines. And the council might be faced with even more anger than in my opinion is already unfortunately likely.
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> As I stated before, I'd suggest linking parole to a willingness to abide by site guidelines upon return. The first time could be based entirely on the word of the person asking for it. The next time and subsequent times could ask for more assurances than that, if the word has proven to be insufficient. There could be a fair amount of judgment on the parole board's part on what that might be. But I think the basic framework should be easily understandable by all.
>
> That's just my suggestion. I'm sure others would have other suggestions.A Parole Board...
It's an interesting idea. What other visions do you have?
Posted by Dinah on November 27, 2010, at 2:22:09
In reply to Elders Council and Parole Board......... » Dinah, posted by Free on November 10, 2010, at 11:12:33
I thought I was responding to Dr. Bob's suggestion. What he described sounded like a parole board although he referred to it as an Elders Council.
I linked the idea to one I had previously had about the benefit of linking a return to Babble with a willingness to attempt to live by civility guidelines.
I don't know that I have any other visions that I haven't already described. I was responding to one already offered by Dr. Bob. I guess I figure suggestions by Dr. Bob have a greater chance of being implemented.
Posted by Dinah on November 27, 2010, at 2:22:21
In reply to Elders Council and Parole Board......... » Dinah, posted by Free on November 10, 2010, at 11:12:33
Do you see Dr. Bob's suggestion as having some other meaning? I might have misinterpreted.
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969518.html
Posted by Free on November 27, 2010, at 2:22:24
In reply to Re: Elders Council and Parole Board......... » Free, posted by Dinah on November 10, 2010, at 11:18:48
> Do you see Dr. Bob's suggestion as having some other meaning?
>Yes.
>I might have misinterpreted. > http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969518.html
>I understand.
If Bob is really serious about setting up a Council of Wise Elders or a Parole Board or whatever -My final vote would be for...
Okay, now I don't think Sigismund would do it, so Twinleaf and Fayeroe(sorry Pat). I think Fayeroe has experience working in the criminal system, so she would be an excellent candidate.
Well, at this point, my therapist would have me practice opposite action and effectiveness. So it's time for me to hit the gym, and then to my real life group therapy. Everyone have a great evening! You too, Bob. And try some Belgian Chimay. Red.
Posted by Dr. Bob on November 27, 2010, at 3:41:38
In reply to Re: some kind of Elders Council, posted by Dr. Bob on November 8, 2010, at 23:51:46
> > Nominations and elections?
> >
> > Solstice
>
> > Is Bob going to give a council some tools?
> > Is he going to give them as a council some of his power?
> >
> > muffled
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> > I think it would be a good idea to have a review board. As it stands now, blocks have no real relation to a poster's willingness to return and abide by site rules. I'd rather see blocks be lifted if a poster agrees to abide by site guidelines. The first time, it could be based solely on their word that they are ready. After that, they could propose concrete ways that could help them stay within site guidelines. For example, choosing a civility buddy, choosing not to post on topics that have proved troublesome, etc.
> >
> > Dinah
>
> >What if the council had the power to lift blocks? (after some minimum cooling-off period) What tools would they need? >Would they be given criteria for making their decisions or would they have the freedom to decide however they wanted?
> >Would there be any requirements besides being nominated?
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> >FYI, requirements to be a deputy:
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> >http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#required
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> >Bob
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> > I think if Bob were to actually set up a "council" of some sort to consult and discuss his admin policies with, it should be balanced with different points of view.
> >
> > Free
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> >Would you want to elect them?
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> >Bob
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>
> Hmm.... Council of Wise Elders and Civil Buddies...Thich Nhat Hanh and Linehan would be excellent models...too bad they're not available.
>
> You're serious, Bob? I do see your openness and I appreciate it, but...
>
> This is all very complicated, and it could get as bad or worse as it was when there were more people monitoring. This site was littered with PBCs and Blocks. The constant out of context mincing and parsing of words under the microscope on many of the boards are what's brought babble to its current place of reduced postage. Many of the people who received long blocks were wonderful "civil" people(some were even die-hard Bob/Babble supporters), but they got caught up in a maddening cycle of getting pbc'd/blocked for some unfair interpretations. Mistakes are bound to happen, but it happened enough to not feel safe anymore.
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> Yeah, it's not easy.
>
> Honestly, a lot of people getting in the mix with a lot of power to say what's civil and not civil, and to block and unblock, with different interpretations. To dictate which threads/topics are/aren't troublesome to post on, could get way more confusing, crazy-making, etc.
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> Given a choice, I would take you, Bob, and Racer (who's doing a great job moderating) doing admin work WITH REDUCED BLOCKS. And if anyone wants a civility buddy for some advice, great.
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> To answer this part of your question: "Would there be any requirements besides being nominated?"
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> A council member should possess objectivity and humility, without any vested interests in the outcome of a given conflict.
>
> Far as electing Babblers...off the top of my head, Twinleaf and Sigsmund (sorry again Sig) would be qualified. And Solstice. (Hey, Solstice, I may not agree with all of your ideas but I do appreciate your sincere efforts. :-))
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> Freehttp://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969541.html
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Posted by Dr. Bob on November 27, 2010, at 4:01:19
In reply to And how about volunteer civility buddies?, posted by Dinah on November 9, 2010, at 8:58:48
> Dr. Bob - I can't tell you how much I appreciate the dialogue..
>
> > > If I remember correctly, the Elders Council addresses the blocks themselves.. determining if they are merited, etc. My Mediator idea is centered around helping posters who get themselves in 'trouble' repeatedly.
> >
> > Then maybe that's more like what Dinah's calling volunteer civility buddies?
>
> Yes.. and I posted more about it in response to another of your posts. Bottom line (in my way of thinking) is that naturally, all CB's will be volunteer. It's not a job anyone will be coerced to perform. I think they need to be an organized group.. an 'entity' if you will. As I said in my other post, people who have the insight to understand they need a helping hand probably already get it. I'm focusing on the members who are genuinely unclear about why their post was incivil. Incivil posts are generally the product of 'hot' emotions. 'Hot' emotions generally shut down rational thinking and executive functioning. Some members may have emotions that escalate faster than they are realistically able to manage. There are situations like PTSD that (as I'm sure you know) keeps their fight or flight on a hair trigger... there's emotional dysregulation, all kinds of things. Members who cope with being split into 'parts' may end up with one part losing control, and the other parts paying the price.. a dilemma Muffled so poetically described repeatedly. That's where your expectations get unwieldy. I'm thinking of a Civility Buddy "process" where an incivil poster is 'deposited'.. and if they want to restore their posting privileges, they will walk through the process with a Civility Buddy to completion - satisfaction of your legitimate requirement that they repair the breech.
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> > The power to avoid blocks is already really in the hands of posters. Even if they're really unable to understand how they end up blocked, they still have the power to stop posting.
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> I don't think enough factors of the dynamic are included. Think of what we know about abused women and why they stay in abusive marriages, even at the risk of the well being of their children. Do they have the power to walk out the door with their kids and find refuse? Sure. But they don't FEEL the power. That's what I'm trying to distinguish. If a poster is cited for incivility, each and every time they will have to make a choice. i) CB Process; or ii) the mercy of Dr. Bob. That kind of a thing will TEACH them about the power they have in a tangible way.
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> "Power to stop posting" - while it certainly 'is' a choice they can make.. please understand that it seems silly to me to consider that viable. They are here because they want to post. Set something up that helps the folks who have not been able to keep themselves out of trouble.
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> > > And as far as your suggestion that posters could ask you why they got blocked, I see that as limited. You don't elaborate much, and your writing style is easily interpreted as cryptic.
> >
> > If I need to elaborate more, posters have the power to ask again. Plus, as Dinah said, other posters can elaborate.
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> This is might be too loose of a thing to work well with the posters who have their own spot in your block book. These are folks whose emotions get hot very quickly. They need a structured process where their privileges are suspended - and they have to make a coice. Cooperate with a CB who will walk them to restoration, or opt for the mercy of Dr. Bob. You're asking people who's brains have been hijacked by hot emotions to think, reason, and figure things out as if they are in a more rational state. That is just not a fair expectation.. and in my estimation, that is why the blocks - even year long blocks - are not successful. It will never end if the status quo is maintained.
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> > > a general call to the community for someone who cares to volunteer to help just hasn't worked. That's why I'm thinking that if there are designated people who are trusted here can step in and walk with the poster in danger so they don't have to figure it out alone.
> >
> > I think it's worth a try.
>
> I am thrilled beyond what I can possibly describe!
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> > The risk is that a poster might not have any friends designated, and they might be influenced more by their friends than a designated person they don't know.
>
> Well.. in what I envision, this shouldn't detract from the system's effectiveness. Civility Buddies would be an organized group of balanced, respected members who have volunteered to serve. An incivil poster who hasn't retracted on their own would be 'deposited' into the CB process. They would not be able to post, and would have a single decision to make. Either: i) work with a CB who is available; or ii) sit there and wait for a CB you like; or iii) throw yourself upon the mercy of Dr. Bob. If they need a space of time to restore their emotional 'baseline' - suspension of privileges provides that. Depending on the nature of the incivility and nature of the incivil poster, the CB 'process' could be hours short - or days/weeks long. If they become unacceptably incivil to the CB 'walking' with them, they can be defaulted to the mercy of Dr. Bob. I think the main thing is that this kind of process would provide the space of time for emotions to cool, for rationality to be restored, and for them to work with someone who can model for them - a peer who can help them understand where their communication crossed the line.
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> Entirely eliminating blocks is unrealistic. But this provides a process that is flexible and responsive to a poster's willingness to learn and cooperate.
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> Again, thank you for dialoging about it Bob. You've got a motivated bunch of people here, and I have confidence that they will see it through if you will stay in this thing while we all work together to put together a structure likely to more mercifully succeed than the current one at meeting your objectives.
>
> Solsticehttp://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969522.html
> I think it's really important to point out that some civility buddies might not be comfortable with a forced civility buddy situation, and that's perfectly ok. There is a very different dynamic with people who voluntarily seek advice.
>
> For those volunteers who feel comfortable with that situation, mandatory civility buddies could certainly be an option. Dr. Bob was enthusiastic about the idea a while back, but posters were less enthusiastic.
>
> Dinahhttp://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969525.html
> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969518.html
>
> What you describe, with mandatory civility buddies, could be a part of what Dr. Bob is asking about here.
>
> Dinahhttp://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969527.html
> > I think it's really important to point out that some civility buddies might not be comfortable with a forced civility buddy situation, and that's perfectly ok. There is a very different dynamic with people who voluntarily seek advice.
>
> You are absolutely right. Right now, the Civility Buddy system is informal. (let me know if I don't understand it correctly). If someone is getting upset about something, they can contact their CB and do a 'consult.' Vent... have a post reviewed before submittal... get guidance about staying inside the lines.
>
> Maybe the informal CB set up that exists would continue just as it is. The people who use it, though, are not the ones I'm hoping to help. I'd speculate they don't end up with gross blocks. Maybe a PBC from time to time, but they have figured out how to help themselves stay out of trouble.
>
> A 'formal' CB process would of course be staffed by volunteers as well. Those volunteering for it would obviously have to recognize that most of those 'deposited' in the formal CB process are walking in without an understanding of why what they posted was not civil. They might indeed be upset. Bob could 'suspend' their posting privileges while they decide whether to cooperate with the CB process or not. If they opt to cooperate, their immediate motivation will be avoiding a block. If they fight against the CB assisting them, become incivil toward their CB, etc.. then they will end up in Bob's hands. I think what it will alllow for is 1) Takes Bob out of the equation - the whole trigger-finger with the blocks thing; 2) a suspension of posting privilege with the very real possibility of avoiding a regular block; 3) a cool-off period where they may recover nicely on their own - or at least be willing to genuinely engage in the CB process that will get them where they want to go - which is actively posting. As peers, CB's will be able to talk to and relate to these folks much better than Bob can in his role as admin. He is perceived as a bona fide threat - especially by those who get blocked repeatedly.
>
> I don't think it should be viewed or characterized as "forcing" anyone or anything. As it is, people commit various levels of incivility and there is only one option - they are at the mercy of Bob's perceptions - his time to process it in context - and whether they colored outside the lines before and have a block escalation thing going on. They can still choose that route. That would actuallly be the 'default.' But with what I'm talking about, they could also opt for assistance by a cohesive group of Civility Buddies who are committed to the process of modeling, explaining, teaching civil responses and repair work to members who got off track. Anyone who wants to fight against that probably needs to be blocked. At least, though, they'd have the choice. And even for those who end up blocked - there could be a mechanism where they come back when they are ready and contact a 'formal' CB to start the process of repair.
>
> Again, these are just ideas. Dinah - your experience working with and through things here gives you insight that I won't have - so why don't you just play with the ideas. Run scenarios through your head. I an really, really good at problem-solving and designing systems so I will help in any way I can to help put something together that will work for the community in its goal to have a more merciful system for addressing incivility than the one in place now.
>
> > For those volunteers who feel comfortable with that situation, mandatory civility buddies could certainly be an option. Dr. Bob was enthusiastic about the idea a while back, but posters were less enthusiastic.
>
> No one would be 'forced' to use a CB. It would not be mandatory. That would be fraught with problems. Incivil posters would have to choose it to get access. If they don't choose it - then they just go the current route and are at Bob's mercy. He can just block away - and no one need feel distressed about it, because they opted for it themselves. Of course.. if their head clears later and they decide using a CB might be to their benefit afterall... then they are welcome to access the CB system at that point... and after they have worked though the process.. the block they'd initially opted for becomes unnecessary.
>
> I just don't think the punishing nature of the current blocking set-up facilitates what Bob wants to create. You've aptly cited the big problem with overlooking the offending poster's willingness to get within the lines. That is huge. And I think that even if there is a delay in that willingness rising to the surface - as soon as a blocked poster voices they are willing - they should be welcomed with open arms into the process. There's no place in the system for incessant arguing about blocks - and PBC's - but I think that with the process I'm suggesting - there would be no need to argue about blocks.
>
> Solsticehttp://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969534.html
> > > Why set the drunk driving detector to detect breath spray?
>
> > Wherever it's set, it detects someone's breath spray.
>
> That is your choice. It is your choice to warn / block people for breath spray levels (at times). It is your choice not to be less trigger happy (when it suits you).
>
> It isn't just MY perception that you are too trigger happy with your 'uncivil' labels and your blocks. Many posters have posted about this over the years (oh, yeah, you forgot).
>
> > And what brings Z back after even a very long block?
>
> I'm actually wondering that myself... I think part of what you like about this whole 'civility monitor' and 'elders council' idea is that it focuses the community on supporting your decisions to make people stop using breath spray to detract from the issue of your (unfairly) labeling people 'uncivil' and blocking them for it.
>
> I'm going to be going now, actually.
>
> Best, all.
>
> alexandra_khttp://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969542.html
> Very fair points, Free
>
> > This is all very complicated,
>
> I agree that it sounds complicated... but I think that operationally, it's a lot less complicated than it looks. Lots of new ideas are being thrown into the hat, which is good - but looks complicated - until we pick out the ones that we pick out and piece together to build the framework.
>
> > and it could get as bad or worse as it was when there were more people monitoring. This site was littered with PBCs and Blocks. The constant out of context mincing and parsing of words under the microscope on many of the boards are what's brought babble to its current place of reduced postage.
>
> We don't have a system yet, so let's just talk about Civility Buddies. In what I envision, they would not be "Little Bob's" scouring the site for incivilities. They wouldn't issue PBC's or blocks. The people volunteering to serve already have a history of being what I think of as "Levelers" or "Peacemakers." With no systemn at all, they already tend to step in when things are heating up and blow cool wind into the mix... and do so very effectively. This would just be a formalization of their role as "Peacemakers." They are not "juries," much less "judges."
>
> Civility Buddies - whether informal or formal, are NOT a recreation of Deputies. Maybe they don't need any power at all. They are identiefied.. maybe they have a CB after their names.. for example Dinah's would say: Dinah, CB. That way it would be easy to find one when you need one - and no one would have to keep track of remembering who all is in that role. They'd be active posters anyway - so CB's will be visibly present.
>
> The only one who has the authority to PBC or Block would be Dr. Bob. He would continue to identify and cite incivilities, just as he does now. PBC's would work just like they do now. Maybe CB's would notice a PBC, because the PBC'd poster might (or might not) access the informal Civility Buddy system. The formal CB process isn't activated until Bob issues a Block. Civility Buddies wouldn't be responsible for issuing PBC's or blocks. They are not the police. The CB system is more like the bail bondsmen, so-to-speak. Maybe the only 'power' they have is to release a poster who's posting privilege has been suspended, based on that poster's cooperation with the CB process.
>
> The goal is NOT to hunt down incivilities. The goal is to restore posting privileges to members who find themselves blocked (or in danger of a block) by Bob.
>
> And in reality - there really don't seem to be that many PBC's or blocks, but I only frequent Psychology, Social and Admin. On those boards days and weeks can go by before I see a PBC.. and longer before I see a block.
>
> I hope what I'm describing sounds like something folks can work with. And bottom line is that as it is, Bob issues PBC's, block warnings, and blocks at his own discretion as it is. The system I'm thinking of wouldn't change that. It would just provide a mechanism for repair to take place.. for blocks to be released.. for privileges to be restored.. for much less contention over valued posters being 'banished.' Posters themselves would, in essence, be setting the length of their blocks... because accessing the Civility Buddy system is the key that unlocks the block.
>
> Just to let those who are actively participating in our effort to construct something, I have a full day of responsibilities that will prevent me from checking in until later this evening.
>
> MAIN THING: No judges or juries. Nobody scouring the site for incivilities. Everybody has the right to monitor their own selves, including asking for help if they find themselves getting 'heated.' If they find themselves facing a block (or find themselves blocked), rather than them or others fighting the merits of the citation, they can call on a CB to help them work their way out of the block. CB's won't always be available. They may have to wait hours or days to get through the process - but they won't be waiting weeks, months, or a year for relief.
>
> Feedback?
>
> Solsticehttp://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969555.html
> The only informal civility buddy system that exists now are between two posters who work out an arrangement for themselves. There's no way of knowing how often it's used. I don't hear a lot of talk about it at all.
>
> Dr. Bob has *just* ok'd a concept where people would be available to answer civility questions, or in general be open to helping posters who ask to get comfortable with the civility guidelines or avoid blocks. It's a brand new idea, and I'm not sure what will happen with it. The only designation would be a list of people who are willing to do it.
>
> It's a far different thing to be involved with pairing up with a poster who would be blocked otherwise, even if they chose the civility buddy as the lesser of two evils. I'm not saying it shouldn't be done, but it's a different level of commitment, and a different level of stress. If a poster felt willing to volunteer to do that, it'd be great. For myself, it would depend on my relationship with the poster. It's been my experience from previous suggestions from Dr. Bob along these lines that posters don't really appreciate the idea of having someone check their posts. The resulting tension could be difficult.
>
> But what I really want is to clarify to those considering volunteering that that would be an additional level of commitment they could volunteer for. This is a new concept, and I think it might deter volunteers if they were unsure of the level of responsibility that would be involved. At this point, volunteering would just mean being willing to help those who are unsure of the rules, or I statements, or Dr. Bob's requirements.
>
> Anything to do with the council of elders would be separate entirely. That would be a different subset of posters, although I suppose the subsets could intersect.
>
> Peacemakers don't *have* to be certified by Dr. Bob, or have any special title. Dr. Bob would prefer, from what I gather of his posts, that all posters be peacemakers. Stepping into a current situation unasked is probably best done by those posters who believe they can help in that given situation. And perhaps best not done by someone who has been appointed to do so, due to the resentment that can arise. Or at least that's been my experience. Dr. Bob and other posters may believe differently.
>
> I know you've read the archives. Are you aware of the anger that can result from efforts to help? I suspect that anyone with formal standing may be seen as a tool of Dr. Bob. Any effort to get people to follow site guidelines can realistically be seen that way, no matter the intent of the helper. That might lessen the effectiveness of an intervention.
>
> But perhaps my previous experience makes me overly cautious.http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969557.html
> Former deputies are current posters, you know.
>
> I'd also say that we enforced Dr. Bob's policies at whatever level of strictness was currently requested by him. It did change, and we did our best to comply.
>
> It's true that there are fewer admin actions now, in part because there are fewer posts, in part because there are fewer posters unfamiliar with site guidelines, in part because Dr. Bob varies a lot in his time to oversee Babble so that things aren't flagged as much when he isn't here while the exact same thing might be flagged when he is here, and perhaps in part because with his lowered time and with the lowered posting volume, his perception might be that the standards can be loosened some. I've always suspected that some of Dr. Bob's "inconsistency" could be due to his view of the current demands of the site. Deputies did not have that power.
>
> Deputies didn't have any desire to parse posts with a fine tooth comb. We did perhaps have a greater commitment to consistency. Whether that's a good or bad thing depends on your view of consistency. And we were around on a more consistent basis. Again, that can be a good or bad thing depending on your view of consistency. Certainly lowered oversight could be welcome by those who prefer greater freedom.
>
> Dinahhttp://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969562.html
> > I think part of what you like about this whole 'civility monitor' and 'elders council' idea is that it focuses the community on supporting your decisions to make people stop using breath spray to detract from the issue of your (unfairly) labeling people 'uncivil' and blocking them for it.
>
> I'm thinking the point of it is to get people to comply with the civility guidelines, whatever their feelings or beliefs. Is that such a bad thing for Dr. Bob to want?
>
> Is a reduction of blocks only a good thing to you if it comes from Dr. Bob changing his standards?
>
> Dinahhttp://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969571.html
> Dinah - your wealth of experience behind your contributions is what can bring this thing to life.
>
> And for the record - I didn't swoop in here hoping to 'sell' a bunch of novel ideas that I came up with. I've silently been part of this group for a long, long time. None of the ideas or concepts I've presented are mine. They came from everyone here who has been actively talking (or arguing :-) about it. I'm just really good at taking all the ideas, and being able to 'see' how they can fit together most effectively. And I'm good at problem-solving. None of this stuff is mine, though - - everything in the structure I envision is comprised of pieces large and small that members have been suggesting and talking about for years. I just want to glue this thing together and see if we can't present Bob with something that will meet his objectives. That is the best chance for success. There would be nothing 'in it' for him to oppose a well constructed system of achieving his objectives for civility.
>
> > The only informal civility buddy system that exists now are between two posters who work out an arrangement for themselves. There's no way of knowing how often it's used. I don't hear a lot of talk about it at all.
>
> That's what I've gathered.. and I think participating in this kind of arrangement requires a level of sophistication in self-monitoring that doesn't come as easily to posters who are heating up as Bob expects. The posters I am really hoping to help are the 'frequent-fliers' of the current discipline system.
>
> > Dr. Bob has *just* ok'd a concept where people would be available to answer civility questions, or in general be open to helping posters who ask to get comfortable with the civility guidelines or avoid blocks. It's a brand new idea, and I'm not sure what will happen with it. The only designation would be a list of people who are willing to do it.
>
> I think this concept is imbedded in the informal and formal Civility Buddy concepts. From my foxhole, I've seen a long history of evidence that the heartbeat of PsychoBabble is to be welcoming and helpful to newcomers and each other. Of course there are times when someone's vulnerability to irritation or anger results in them stepping out of line. But as a rule, that's not where the members' hearts are. The intent of their hearts is to respectfully co-exist. Sometimes a member will lose their way - but that's what this is about - a mechanism for them to find their way back.
>
> > It's a far different thing to be involved with pairing up with a poster who would be blocked otherwise, even if they chose the civility buddy as the lesser of two evils.
>
> You are exactly right. Posters who tend to get blocked end up in that situation because for myriad reasons, they have trouble with their emotions heating up and getting away from them. When emotions are 'hot,' good judgment shuts down - which is why the expectation that they will be able to 'make better choices' on their own isn't realistic. If they could do that, they would.
>
> Let me re-emphasize that it's definitely one thing for a poster to reach out to a friend to ask for or offer help. It is an entirely different thing to have a group of CB's who are volunteering to assist posters they may not have much of a relationship with.
>
> > I'm not saying it shouldn't be done, but it's a different level of commitment, and a different level of stress. If a poster felt willing to volunteer to do that, it'd be great. For myself, it would depend on my relationship with the poster. It's been my experience from previous suggestions from Dr. Bob along these lines that posters don't really appreciate the idea of having someone check their posts.
>
> Nobody will be checking anybody's posts, except when a a poster has (usually behind-the-scenes) asked someone to review their post. In the formal CB system, a 'bad' post has already been made. If the poster can live with the block - then all is well. If they want relief, then they have to reach out to a CB and say they want to repair. If they don't understand why their post got them blocked, the CB will dialogue with them - I'm guessing off-forum, and help them understand - questions and responses going back and forth between them. The CB can do what happens all the time here - offer alternative perceptions to the one the blocked poster held that turned up the heat on their emotions. If the incivil poster cannot figure out how to rephrase or apologize, the CB helps with that too. The CB is a guide - not an enforcer, and certainly not responsible for generating the blocked poster's willingness to repair. Once repair is made, the suspension is released. If the incivil poster is not able to sustain civility, that's where the cool-down phase comes in. It would not be the responsibility of a CB to 'make' an incivil poster get lined up with civility guidelines. The blocked poster has the possibility of getting unblocked, but it is up to them to access and cooperate with the system. If they won't or can't, then they are in effect justifying their block. CB's are not responsible for getting people out of trouble, or pleading with Bob for leniency, etc. An individual CB does not *have* to accept a blocked posters request for help. If past interractions are likely to be triggering for CB's, CB's first responsibility is to take care of their own well-being. They are volunteering the HELP - they are NOT volunteering to be argued with or verbally abused.
>
> It's important to understand that this system is not designed to eliminate blocks! It is simply a mechanism for blocked posters who have the 'willingness' you've referred to before, to repair the breech and restore themselves - to learn from the lapse. What it has the opportunity to eliminate - are the blocks that take place for small steps over the line - especially those inadvertent ones that Bob has found incivil but few others 'see' it and the poster certainly didn't mean to be incivil. Maybe they just let their mouth run away with them. Or got silly and said "f*art" without the asterick." Maybe they misunderstood something and reacted too quickly. Currently, the swift (and exponential) blocks tend to push those folks past the point of no return. They probably wouldn't have gone there on their own - but a block, or the threat of a block was more than they were equipped to handle. Ron1953 (I think those numbers are right?) is a case in point. Toe moves over that mysterious line... then his emotions heat up in anticipation under the cloud of threat - and he goes from a 1 to a 10 on the incivility scale. There is a way to circumvent those things. I think Bob has tried to address it when he established the whole apology procedure. He warns of a block - then gives the poster time to repharase or apologize. It works a good part of the time. But there are posters with certain vulnerabilities that it will not work for... and their heated emotions are a huge obstacle.
>
> So the civility guidelines stay the same. Bob can cite anything he deems uncivil as incivil. No one has to waste any time or energy trying to get him to see it differently. The poster has an avenue of relief that will get Bob what he wants, and will get that monkey off the poster's back, if they are willing to cooperate with the process. Not everyone will. And some may initially be so angry that they storm off. But when things cool down and their better judgment kicks back in.. they would now have a way to come back and say "ok, CB.. I need to fix this thing." It sort of takes out the punishment component. The consequence is still there - but it does not have to be 'punishment.'
>
> > The resulting tension could be difficult.
>
> I think the CB concept needs a set of guidelines for how it will operate - what the expectations are. Everyone needs to know - forum-wide. This is what CB's can do: 1, 2, 3, 4.. This is what CB's will NOT need to concern themselves with: 1, 2, 3, 4.. And any CB subjected to abusive interraction can drop that poster like a hot potatoe to sit in the confines of their block. Some incivil posters might end up doing that.. but that is not the fault of the CB. CB's don't have to 'put up' with anything. Tney are not admninistrators, not police, not judges/juries, not responsible for Bob's civility guidelines in the first place, and are certainly not responsible for changing his mind about anything. Posters also need a set of guidelines for how the process will work - what they can expect - etc.
>
> > But what I really want is to clarify to those considering volunteering that that would be an additional level of commitment they could volunteer for. This is a new concept, and I think it might deter volunteers if they were unsure of the level of responsibility that would be involved. At this point, volunteering would just mean being willing to help those who are unsure of the rules, or I statements, or Dr. Bob's requirements.
>
> yes - it is essential to eliminate uncertainty about expectations. There might need to be a "Babble Civility Management" section on the website with the guidelines and expectations posted.
>
> > Anything to do with the council of elders would be separate entirely. That would be a different subset of posters, although I suppose the subsets could intersect.
>
> That's exactly what i was thinking.
>
> > Peacemakers don't *have* to be certified by Dr. Bob, or have any special title. Dr. Bob would prefer, from what I gather of his posts, that all posters be peacemakers.
>
> Of course.. but is that genuinely realistic? No. If everyone were a peacemaker, this support forum would have no reason to exist. It wouldn't exist, because no one would be here. And there will always be 'peacemakers' on the forum who are doing what comes naturally to them - but they haven't signed up to be CB's.
>
>
> > Stepping into a current situation unasked is probably best done by those posters who believe they can help in that given situation.
>
> You're right. But that's how it takes place now anyway. Someone's heating up, and some peacemaker comes along to help diffuse things. They just do that naturally.
>
> >And perhaps best not done by someone who has been appointed to do so, due to the resentment that can arise. Or at least that's been my experience.
>
> I can see what you're talking about - and I think you're right about that. Maybe CB's won't be responsible for stepping in to diffuse situations.. that can take place like it takes place now. When it works - all is well. When it doesn't, there might be a blocked poster who needs a CB to help them get themselves out of hock.
>
> > I know you've read the archives. Are you aware of the anger that can result from efforts to help? I suspect that anyone with formal standing may be seen as a tool of Dr. Bob.
>
> That's possible. Esepecially initially. However, for as long as someone who is blocked remains angry and contentious... they will not be ready to come back in. If they are blocked, they can't be incivil while they work thru their anger. Maybe they get help from their therapist - and then later come back and appropriately ask for help. No one is responsible for anyone else's anger. But CB's don't have to put up with abuse. Only blocked posters who want their services will get that help. No CB *has* to try to fix a situation a poster got themselves into and is not ready to fix.
>
> >Any effort to get people to follow site guidelines can realistically be seen that way, no matter the intent of the helper. That might lessen the effectiveness of an intervention.
>
> I may have not used the best word when I used 'intervene,' because you are right. CB's are certainly at liberty to offer help - but it really should be the blocked poster who initiates the process. It can't be forced. But it can be available.. and if Bob agrees with the concept that posters who can demonstrate reparation don't need to be blocked, then this system can provide for that. It's really just like you've been saying all along - right now there is not any provision for blocked posters who are willing to line up. Maybe this way, there can be.
>
> > But perhaps my previous experience makes me overly cautious.
>
> No - your previous experience makes you wise and just the person to refine the ideas I'm proposing. You think of everything (obstacle) you can - and we'll figure it out. With your help, we may have all the bugs worked out from the get-go :-)
>
> Solsticehttp://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969573.html
> Re: You do have good ideas, Solstice
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969577.html
redirected to consolidate discussion
Posted by Dr. Bob on November 28, 2010, at 16:26:56
In reply to Re: Amnesty, posted by Dr. Bob on November 27, 2010, at 1:53:12
> if wholesale release isn't the best idea, then maybe reducing everyone's block to 10% of its original length or something similar would provide for a more gradual influx.
>
> SolsticeFirst, I thought it was interesting that "wholesale" would be 5 posters:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969738.html
My proposal was 50%:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/968745.html
There hasn't exactly been a groundswell of interest, so let's focus on other ideas that are on the table right now.
Bob
Posted by Dr. Bob on November 28, 2010, at 16:56:04
In reply to Re: Delayed posting » hyperfocus, posted by Dinah on November 13, 2010, at 14:50:36
> I wrote a post making explicit profane threats against everybody that would have gotten me blocked for a century if I had posted it. Thankfully I waited a few hours till I cooled down before deciding whether to send it or not.
>
> I bet half of the people who got blocked, if they had a few hours to think about it wouldn't have written what they did.
>
> hyperfocus> I wonder if it could be selectively enacted as part of the early block reduction?
>
> People might be more willing to have a delay than they would to have someone assigned to review their posts.
>
> DinahThanks, I think this is an interesting idea. Of course, as you've both demonstrated, posters can already choose to delay posting. And if they don't, but come to regret that, they can apologize.
But as Dinah suggests, a mandatory posting delay might be a nice alternative to a mandatory civility buddy (or a block).
> this wouldn't be trivial to implement because it's extra work to write a batch job that runs every hour or whatever to scoop up posts in the queue
>
> hyperfocusAn easier way to implement it might be to not making delayed posting automatic, but to require the poster to return to the site to re-confirm it after the specified delay.
Bob
Posted by Dr. Bob on November 28, 2010, at 17:50:08
In reply to Re: some kind of Elders Council, posted by muffled on November 10, 2010, at 11:19:57
> Can you imagine what it feels like to post something personal in an attempt to receive support, and see that post used to hurt you on Admin because you're a hated deputy? Can you imagine how it feels to be the target of rage, when your only goal was to help the people who are angry with you? Can you imagine how it feels to be on the receiving end of belittlement, contempt, and outright threats?
>
> If you can, you might understand better ... why former deputies might feel ... a desire to warn others of the pain and fear that can come from putting yourself on the firing line, even from the best of motives.> I forgot to mention former friends becoming former friends because you're a deputy.
>
> Or people saying yes, they might at one time have felt friendly with you, but they can't anymore because you're a deputy and a minion of Bob.
>
> DinahI've always been ambivalent about the deputy role because of that. Maybe it would be cleaner to require deputies to give up the poster role.
My guess is members of some kind of Elders Council would be less likely to be seen as my "minions".
--
> As for correction from Bob, I would much prefer a gentle reminder, or even a somewhat heated discussion with a trusted friend over something. Then, if I got unruly, my friend could say I needed to cool off, rather than an unexpected slap upside the head, and no discussion, from Bob.
Exactly. But even trusted friends may be afraid that if they get involved, they'll be seen as my minions.
> SOME discussion, even a litle heated discussion can be VERY useful. But with Bobs rules there is a tendency to keep everything surface and so-called 'safe'. There's no depth really.
> Heated discussions can be stressful, and hurtful if it goes too far, but they can also be super helpful.
> Heated discussions in a group of people in which the core group trust each other can be so fruitful, and when the dust settles, and sorrys are said, the bonds are stronger. I want to be able to be 'real', not just surface.
>
> muffledThe key is trust. Will there be trust if posters are uncivil to each other and let each other be slapped upside the head?
Bob
Posted by Solstice on November 28, 2010, at 18:27:04
In reply to Re: Amnesty, posted by Dr. Bob on November 28, 2010, at 16:26:56
First.. I want to thank you for your input..
> > if wholesale release isn't the best idea, then maybe reducing everyone's block to 10% of its original length or something similar would provide for a more gradual influx.
> >
> > Solstice
>
> First, I thought it was interesting that "wholesale" would be 5 posters:
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> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/969738.html
I haven't really been clear on how many are currently blocked.. but I don't know that it's as much about the number of posters currently blocked. I think it might be more about it being a clear administrative gesture of good-will on your part. Symbolic, maybe.. of a number of things. for example, blocking, block length, and blocking formula have been at the hcore of the community's loss of heart. Amnesty might represent a significant move on your part.. demonstrating a tangible hope that you will put your finger on the pulse here and genuinely listen to the community.
> My proposal was 50%:
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> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20101014/msgs/968745.html
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> There hasn't exactly been a groundswell of interest, so let's focus on other ideas that are on the table right now.groundswell of interest in amnesty? I don't know how much it has to be to count, but it seemed to me that amnesty, along with reduction in length of blocking have been at the forefront.
Regardless.. I'm all for focusing on whatever issues are of interest to you. Where would you like to start?
Solstice
Posted by Solstice on November 28, 2010, at 18:38:04
In reply to Re: Delayed posting, posted by Dr. Bob on November 28, 2010, at 16:56:04
I love this idea. I know there have been times in my life when I could have used an email delay feature :-)
A mandatory delay could Really be a benefit to those who struggle with impulse control.. as well as anyone whose emotions are over-heated and they feel compelled to send that angry post. Maybe some posters would even want to opt for delayed posting as a profile feature (similar to opting out of facebook)... it could work on all their posts for whatever period of time they think they need that pause.
Solstice
> > I wrote a post making explicit profane threats against everybody that would have gotten me blocked for a century if I had posted it. Thankfully I waited a few hours till I cooled down before deciding whether to send it or not.
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> > I bet half of the people who got blocked, if they had a few hours to think about it wouldn't have written what they did.
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> > hyperfocus
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> > I wonder if it could be selectively enacted as part of the early block reduction?
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> > People might be more willing to have a delay than they would to have someone assigned to review their posts.
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> > Dinah
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> Thanks, I think this is an interesting idea. Of course, as you've both demonstrated, posters can already choose to delay posting. And if they don't, but come to regret that, they can apologize.
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> But as Dinah suggests, a mandatory posting delay might be a nice alternative to a mandatory civility buddy (or a block).
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> > this wouldn't be trivial to implement because it's extra work to write a batch job that runs every hour or whatever to scoop up posts in the queue
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> > hyperfocus
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> An easier way to implement it might be to not making delayed posting automatic, but to require the poster to return to the site to re-confirm it after the specified delay.
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> Bob
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