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Posted by Dinah on September 21, 2004, at 8:33:01
In reply to Re: next on the agenda, posted by Dr. Bob on September 17, 2004, at 10:12:54
I'd love to go and meet Dr. Bob and fellow Babblers, but my husband would have ten kinds of conniption fits. The more anonymous it could possibly be, the more likely I'd be able to go. Although the likelihood would change from absolutely impossible to just within the realm of extreme possibility.
So would there be things where Babblers could meet without names etc. being an issue?
Am I the only one with this problem? I think my husband has watched too many afterschool specials. :(
Posted by Atticus on September 21, 2004, at 11:24:30
In reply to Is anonymity a problem for anyone else?, posted by Dinah on September 21, 2004, at 8:33:01
Hi Dinah,
I can relate. When I recently went into a relatively brief but intense depressive spiral (med-change life-preserver helped me get my feet back on dry land, or at least, into the shallows), my mom became convinced that the cause was my participation in this site. She thought that interacting with other people who have a mental illness was somehow exacerbating my own. Nothing I said could convince her otherwise. So now I never bring up PB with her, and if she asks, I say I don't go there any more. When I told her I was reading Styron's "Darkness Visible", a memoir about the author's own battle with depression, on the advice of my therapist, her face just fell. She's definitely into an out-of-sight, out-of-mind track of thinking where my illness is concerned. What I believe she really wants to hear is that I'm all better, and it will never happen again. So I can just imagine how ballistic she'd get if I said I was heading off to meet other Babblers. Yow! ;) Atticus
Posted by Dr. Bob on September 21, 2004, at 11:53:02
In reply to Is anonymity a problem for anyone else?, posted by Dinah on September 21, 2004, at 8:33:01
> I'd love to go and meet Dr. Bob and fellow Babblers, but my husband would have ten kinds of conniption fits. The more anonymous it could possibly be, the more likely I'd be able to go.
>
> So would there be things where Babblers could meet without names etc. being an issue?Real names? Or even posting names?
Bob
Posted by partlycloudy on September 21, 2004, at 13:40:28
In reply to Is anonymity a problem for anyone else?, posted by Dinah on September 21, 2004, at 8:33:01
I wanted to add in my experience with meeting up with a Babbler face to face when I visited England last month. It took me a long time to work up to telling my husband that I was setting it up, then he had a gazillion questions about the person we were meeting.
We met at a Tube station and ate at a restuarant. It couldn't have been a lovlier evening, made all the more special because I knew this person before I met her. We had a completely engaging conversation, and it really opened up my spouse's eyes to meet someone else with a similar problem to mine.
My husband was really impressed, and he immediately saw how helpful it is for me to be part of this community, as anonymous as it is. He knows I'll be helping to plan the BabbleFest in whatever shape it takes, and he is cautiously happy that I'm involved.For us, it had a lot to do with trust - he in my judgement, and in the safety of this community. As supportive as we are as an online community, I think it can only be reinforced by putting faces, voices, and inflections to our group.
I am not aware of any Babbler with violent tendencies towards others - do I just have blinders on?
pc
Posted by gardenergirl on September 21, 2004, at 21:19:07
In reply to Re: Is anonymity a problem for anyone else? » Dinah, posted by partlycloudy on September 21, 2004, at 13:40:28
I have some concerns about it as well. I don't think I'm worried so much about stalkers or violent tendencies or anything. It's just that in this world, I am GG. In my other world I am another name. I've gotten to know a few people from here better and given them my real name, but one of them said just the other day that she still thinks of me as GG. That makes a lot of sense to me. So, if I were to come, and I love the idea and love Chicago, I think I would want my nametag to say GG.
um, gg ;)
Posted by Dinah on September 21, 2004, at 21:37:03
In reply to Re: Is anonymity a problem for anyone else?, posted by gardenergirl on September 21, 2004, at 21:19:07
Yeah, I don't think he'd have a problem with me being Dinah there...
Wouldn't it be weird if we came and found that someone we've been chatting with is our cousin or our next door neighbor? Goodness only knows I share things here I wouldn't want anyone IRL to know.
Posted by gardenergirl on September 21, 2004, at 21:47:57
In reply to Re: Is anonymity a problem for anyone else? » gardenergirl, posted by Dinah on September 21, 2004, at 21:37:03
Yep, or a client or classmate, or professor, or T or...yeah, weird, but maybe okay, maybe not. I ran into my physician last night at a political candidate get together. I said hello to him, and we both talked to one State Rep. together, but I don't think he knew me as his patient. Perhaps he thought I was another professional he had met sometime. It was his wife who recognized my name because of a recent insurance hassle. It was an odd feeling. I didn't have a problem with him there, but did have a problem with him thinking I was someone I was not.
gg
Posted by vwoolf on September 24, 2004, at 15:14:57
In reply to Re: next on the agenda, posted by Dr. Bob on September 17, 2004, at 10:12:54
What about some sort of virtual meeting for those of us who live too far away to be able to make Chicago? Some sort of wonderful link-up via satellite or something of the kind, with some of the PsychoBabblers acting as commentators. I hate the idea of being left out but 15,000 km is a long way for one weekend.
Posted by Dr. Bob on September 24, 2004, at 17:04:06
In reply to Re: next on the agenda, posted by vwoolf on September 24, 2004, at 15:14:57
> 15,000 km is a long way for one weekend.
Stay for longer? :-)
Bob
Posted by vwoolf on September 25, 2004, at 11:25:51
In reply to Re: 15,000 km, posted by Dr. Bob on September 24, 2004, at 17:04:06
>>Stay for longer? :-)<<
Good idea! I’ll come for the spring and summer season. Actually I have flown over to New York for a weekend meeting before, and once even to L.A., but that was work related. It nearly killed me too - I was out of commission for about a week afterwards.Seriously though, are you involving any sponsors? I wouldn’t mind applying to one of the pharmaceutical companies to sponsor my trip, pointing out the uniqueness of this meeting. Paying for therapy three times a week plus international prices for meds in the currency of a developing country has depleted my resources to a large extent.
Or we’ll have to do something about the satellite link.
Posted by vwoolf on September 26, 2004, at 3:53:27
In reply to Re: 15,000 km » Dr. Bob, posted by vwoolf on September 25, 2004, at 11:25:51
Please ignore my last message. I was getting caught up in excess enthusiasm.
Thanks
Posted by crushedout on December 22, 2004, at 1:28:02
In reply to Re: Is anonymity a problem for anyone else? » Dinah, posted by Atticus on September 21, 2004, at 11:24:30
eek, imagine if she knew about *our* swearfest of a meeting. (not that the swearing would be her biggest concern, but still...it adds to the dangerousness. e.g., sprained tongues are always a big concern among moms.)
Posted by Atticus on December 22, 2004, at 20:49:45
In reply to Re: Is anonymity a problem for anyone else? » Atticus, posted by crushedout on December 22, 2004, at 1:28:02
Hi crushed,
Moms can just have the filthiest minds when it comes to sprained tongues and how a person gets one. ;) Atti
Posted by crushedout on December 22, 2004, at 21:00:25
In reply to Re: Is anonymity a problem for anyone else? » crushedout, posted by Atticus on December 22, 2004, at 20:49:45
oh yes they do, and their sons, too, apparently. ;)
hey! keep it administrative, you. no that was my fault. sorry, bob! this is so unadministrative it's not even funny.
Posted by Atticus on December 22, 2004, at 21:18:49
In reply to Re: Is anonymity a problem for anyone else? » Atticus, posted by crushedout on December 22, 2004, at 21:00:25
No worries. I'll steer us in a more administrative direction right away. Do you think Dr. Bob wears pants when administrating PB? ;) Atti
Posted by crushedout on December 22, 2004, at 21:30:35
In reply to Re: Is anonymity a problem for anyone else? » crushedout, posted by Atticus on December 22, 2004, at 21:18:49
feel free to redirect us to social, bob. we would if we could. we want to continue this dialogue. :)
Posted by Dr. Bob on December 23, 2004, at 21:39:34
In reply to Re: Is anonymity a problem for anyone else?, posted by crushedout on December 22, 2004, at 21:30:35
> feel free to redirect us to social, bob. we would if we could. we want to continue this dialogue. :)
Sure thing:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20041217/msgs/433600.html
Bob
Posted by Dinah on January 7, 2005, at 13:32:57
In reply to Re: party in Chicago, posted by Dr. Bob on June 12, 2004, at 9:15:36
Any chance this will happen?
Posted by Dr. Bob on January 8, 2005, at 3:12:29
In reply to Re: party in Chicago, posted by Dinah on January 7, 2005, at 13:32:57
> Any chance this will happen?
Good question, is anyone still interested?
Bob
Posted by crushedout on January 8, 2005, at 9:02:42
In reply to Re: party in Chicago, posted by Dr. Bob on January 8, 2005, at 3:12:29
Posted by Dinah on January 10, 2005, at 22:29:46
In reply to Re: party in Chicago, posted by Dr. Bob on January 8, 2005, at 3:12:29
I'm interested, but I think it would be unwise of me to commit to help plan it at the moment.
Posted by Dr. Bob on January 11, 2005, at 19:49:24
In reply to Re: party in Chicago » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on January 10, 2005, at 22:29:46
> I'm interested, but I think it would be unwise of me to commit to help plan it at the moment.
No problem, what if we just started here with ideas? Which anyone could contribute?
Bob
Posted by Dinah on January 11, 2005, at 20:11:14
In reply to Re: planning, posted by Dr. Bob on January 11, 2005, at 19:49:24
Ok, here's my idea.
We keep it as absolutely anonymous as possible. Which may make staying at the same place completely optional.
I'd like to go as Dinah. My husband would never let me go as anyone else.
Posted by Dr. Bob on January 12, 2005, at 20:45:23
In reply to Re: planning » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on January 11, 2005, at 20:11:14
> Ok, here's my idea.
>
> We keep it as absolutely anonymous as possible. Which may make staying at the same place completely optional.
>
> I'd like to go as Dinah. My husband would never let me go as anyone else.Sure, why not? People can be as anonymous as they'd like.
But money might be needed for a deposit on a reservation or something, so I might need to ask for checks?
Bob
Posted by Dinah on January 12, 2005, at 20:54:57
In reply to Re: planning, posted by Dr. Bob on January 12, 2005, at 20:45:23
although since i'm not opposed to Babble for fee, it must mean I trust you.
I hope you're properly honored.
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