Posted by jay on February 13, 2005, at 16:11:37
In reply to Jay gives the Ultimatum..comments needed :), posted by jay on February 12, 2005, at 14:32:18
In the latest episode...
So she replies back, just to add more to the frustration. She is trying to basically say *I* am unstable because, a) I 'depend' on medication.. and b) because I work the midnight shift in a group home. A note to that second point is that I am attending university full time and will graduate at the end of this year with my MSW as my second degree. That is why I work midnight...so I can go to school during the day.
So, ya, I must really be 'dysfuntional', eh? Here are her exact words. "I
really feel that you might need a different person in your life ... you work
midnight shifts and are on a lot of medication...and I need someone who is
strong in my life. I know you've gone through a lot and are very
emotional...I really feel for you...and I don't know if you'll ever be off
medications and be able to function in a daytime job. I want a man who is
established and stable....maybe I'm not stable but having a man who is
stable will make me feel secure." So, it comes back to me being on meds and doing really well. As far as me being "emotional"...any of you had that thrown in your face? I have studied plenty of psychology, and my emotional range is just fine. This is silly....I should just ignore it, her, and stop it right now...because I am going to move on, and finally forget about her and search for someone else. (I have had numerous replies to my ad, on the dating website, btw, but of course never returned to them because I am the faithful type who only dates one person at a time.) So you won't have to put up with so much of my whining. :)Thanks for your great comments and support....you guys are like a really good friend. (And it's nice to hear a female perspective about all of this too.)
Sincerely,
Jay
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