Posted by 64bowtie on February 11, 2005, at 1:10:04
In reply to Re: Group » 64bowtie, posted by Dinah on February 7, 2005, at 14:35:51
(((Sweetie))),
There aren't 'types of people' that do good group! Please fire your 'pit-crew'!
Armed with honesty, and a plan for what you want to get out of it, do group, and do it with gusto! I know you can. Your hesitance is that you think you've heard it all before. Well, this is the bone I want to pick with you. It's about vanity!
I was arrogant (vane-ignorance). I had a bachelors degree and I knew lotsa words and lotsa ways to say them.
So?
I didn't know how to get out of my own way, so I was a mess and didn't know it. I found the difference between control and management in group. I had to wait my turn and I wasn't allowed to give advice or mention someone elses 's**t' while I shared my 's**t'! My controlling nature was stifled, and I had to...........listen! (not just hear)
I learned how to share... I learned compassion... I learned that my worst 's**t' was somewhat angelic, meaning I was so messed up and entangled in my own 's**t', I couldn't see my own goodness for what it was, me!!!
Like I've said before, I'm here learning how to tell my story as I did in the 12 step groups, only with fewer and fewer and fewer words!
BTW, I'm done with my part of the bone.....lol
Rod
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