Posted by Reneeb on February 16, 2002, at 19:46:03
In reply to Re: disturbing card, posted by sar on February 16, 2002, at 14:47:09
Hi Sar, When I read your thread boy did it hit home. I would like to tell you my story without boring you with a lot of detail. My parents were very abusive and alcoholics- My Mother verbally and my Father verbally and physically. He was also abusive with my mother. I would step in to protect her and get the shit beat out of me. He told me I would never amount to anything, that I should learn to use my body because thats all woman are good for!! I practically raised my twin brother and sister who were the youngest and needed my help. When my mother would get drunk she would tell them to go to me from now on if they needed anything since I was their mother.I could go on for days with examples. Great role models huh!!!
I am sure you have been thru therapy. Where I spent most of my life. What conclusions I have made about my parents is that they did the best they could with what they had. If you look back at their parents and so on.. you probably see a pattern of abuse. They didn't have the help we have today. I decided two things -1) I needed to brake the chain with my daughter and 2) I wasn't going to give the hate any more of my energy. It has already taken up way too much of my life as it is.
If your parents are anything like mine. Everything got swept under the carpet like it didn't even happen.
One more thing Sar, I know forgiveness is tough and when I say forgiveness, I am talking about you finding it in your heart it doesn't have to be shared with them. I would hate to see you carrying their shit for the rest of your life.
Take Care,
Renee
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