Posted by morgan miller on September 7, 2010, at 20:36:27
In reply to Re: disability - Proudfoot - SLS » morgan miller, posted by Dinah on September 7, 2010, at 20:23:36
>I think our therapies are different. My therapist would likely concentrate on the disappointment and disillusionment that come from not accepting the reality of what life is. That even the best motivated parents aren't perfect. That learning to accept that others aren't perfect (and that we aren't perfect) is an integral part of learning to be in relationship with others.
I agree that no one is perfect and no one ever will be. I just fear that accepting too much will make it easier for people to be complacent and not strive for better. Striving to be better can help with being better for ourselves and others we are in relationships with-friends, family, romantic interests. I am not talking about being hard on ourselves or critical, I'm talking about gently nurturing ourselves to be better and learning to do this through empathy, compassion and understanding. In group therapy, we do not say, "Well we just have to accept that we don't know how to communicate properly with each other". With this approach or attitude, there would never be any progress made.
Morgan
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