Posted by Mare on October 4, 2000, at 18:27:16
In reply to Re: dependency, depression and mutilation » Mare, posted by shellie on October 4, 2000, at 15:43:26
> > Tried therapy, 4 times. All times did more harm than good and I'm very nervous to try again.
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> I am especially interested that you didn't just say "not helpful", but actually "did more harm than good." For example, was the therapy paced too fast, therapists not able to understand, etc. Just wondering if you can pinpoint why, so you can know what you are looking for in choosing a therapist--if you're willing to go that route again. shellieI'm not especially looking forward to it at all. I just really don't see the point at all. My first one tried to have me fill out this little "book on me" thing and every day I would have to fill out a page on something I liked about myself and if I did really good, I got a scratch and sniff sticker and then we talked about the page. (and no, this wasn't when I was in kindergarden) The second one made me feel like she was yelling at me and everytime I opened my mouth, she had some kind of smart ass remark back. And the third and fourth just drove me nuts because they used the method where you repeat back what the person said in either another statement or a question. I know it's a common method but it sucks. It makes me feel like I'm not being listened to at all or that they completely don't get what I'm saying. And another thing I just generally don't like is having a scheduled time to be upset and vent. I would be having the best day and then, I would have to go to the doc's to talk about all the bad stuff ('cause that's all the last two ever wanted to talk about) and then I would leave, not having accomplished anything but feeling bad about all that had happened that week and dreading coming back next week. So, that's why I don't like shrinks. And my number one reason is because I am very big on touch and affection and they aren't aloud to touch you. I understand why and all, but it just sucks. I love touch, it's like a link.
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